as they both claim it is the other ones mess! ive tried dividing the room into 2 halfs for them to look after their own part, but its really not big enough. short of moving into a bigger house what can I do to stop the arguements??
2007-03-27 09:43:59 · 30 answers · asked by caz5316 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Have one clean one week and the other cleans the next week! Then remind them that a family is a team and all team members have to pitch in and help around the house!
2007-03-27 10:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two girls who are 6 and 7 years old. They share a room and have thousands of toys . They both insist that it was the other one who made the mess! Make them both understand that if one makes the mess, they both have to clean it. In other words what they will try and do is say it was not them so if one lies, they both tidy it.They will soon learn to tell each other to clean up or they will both get into trouble!
2007-03-27 09:51:13 · answer #2 · answered by Jonathan C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have got two teenage daughters an my life is like living hell i have to walk past there room every morning to go down the stairs an always get a glimpse of there room ,believe me its like a bombs hit it make up cloths paper cups bowls i hate it i have got to the point now that i stopped cleaning it an just close the door ,when they ask me can one of there Friends stay i say yes but an this is a big but you got to clean that room and i also say i do not care who's junk it is you want your Friend over you do it an it seams to be working as they always got some one staying most weekends .
2007-03-28 22:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd start taking away privileges such as tv time, computer time etc if they don't cooperate and get it tidied.
not sure how old they are but if the are of the age where there are toys lying on the floor then you can do something like introduce a rule where all toys have to be in the toy bin before bedtime and anything lying on the floor gets confiscated for a week or something like that.
i know it sounds harsh but if you stick to it they will soon learn you mean business.
2007-03-27 09:49:20 · answer #4 · answered by kittycat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say i well if i go in there and clean it it's getting thrown away!
do it one time they will clean up there room!
if it is one others mess then they will not want to worry about it if no one claims it then out it goes!
that's what would do! My mom did that for me I hated to clean up.. well she went in one time and anything that was on the floor or on the dresser that wasn't suppose to be there was gone! not untill i was older i realized she never tossed it she hide the stuff!
it may sound mean too but tough love is needed!
or sit down with them and say you both have this room so in my eyes all that crap in there belongs to both of you! i don't care who picks it up but if you argue over it i will put a finally stop and remove everything from your room so you have nothing to fight over!
but i hear siblings will find stuff to fight about! so that may not work!
2007-03-27 10:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too have two kids that share a room and they don't like to keep it clean, so what I do is this "if you don't put it away I will throw it away!". I don't replace the things that I throw away. Somethings I hide the stuff and they have to earn it back and by keeping there side of the room clean they after two to three weeks of the room clean they get it back, next time they don't. So my son make sure he does pick up after himself, dauther well it still a struggle. Good-luck
2007-03-27 09:52:18 · answer #6 · answered by honeybunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this is the deal, I have a sister and we NEVER clean our room. Its always one of our own mess. The thing is when I was little, I had the room to myself and then she moved in. It has something to do with the territory rule. I know that I am upset that she had to move in on MY space! Now she tells my mom everything I do because she knows that I hate her being in MY room! Its very complicated but its the way it works!!!!!!!!
2007-03-27 10:16:56 · answer #7 · answered by Mickey James 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK this is an easy fix. I am sure that both of your children have their own things. The rule with my kids is if its your property clean it up, no matter who used it last, that way there are no question's as to "who's" mess it is. And this goes for the whole house not just their room
2007-03-27 10:08:36 · answer #8 · answered by brhooton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sister and i shared a room growing up, and my mother got a bright idea. We wouldn't fold our clothes, so she opened the window and dumped all of our drawers out in the front yard!!! taught us to fold. as for the mess they leave on the floor and blame each other, get a big lawn bag and start tossing it in. I am sure that when they see their things being trashed, they will wake up. They share a room, so it it both their mess. Both should take the blame. Let them see you toss it in the garbage. You can always retrieve it later when they are sleeping and hide it.
2007-03-27 13:05:06 · answer #9 · answered by franny1120 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made me smile with this.I have two boys in bunk beds sharing a room and if I have heard it once I have heard it a million times the scenario of it wasn't my mess .When someone comes up with a good answer I will put them at the top of my Christmas card list.
2007-03-27 09:51:00 · answer #10 · answered by pups 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋