After a night of drinking and gambling, my father law asked to see me naked! of course I refused..but he asked 3-4 times until my hsband re-entered the room...atv that point I told my husband what happend and we went to bed. The next morning I left and my father in law was crying and apologizing profusely to my husband and then to me over the phone..Monday I got flowers..So my question is do you think that this was some type of grieving thing? Also do Icall and say thak you for the flowers? this is all pretty weird! (No rude comments please)
2007-03-27 10:32:15 · 6 answers · asked by Elizabeth E 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
camsgirl said it all. That is exactly what I would advise as well. Forgive him ONCE. If it happens again, you'll know it wasn't just the greiving and to stay away from him.
2007-03-27 10:44:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that he has had on his mind for awhile and felt free to express thanks to alcohol loosening up his inhibitions. He feels like a fool because this is something you and his son should not ever have known. (He has fantasies about you.) His wife dying is the reason he was out and drinking but what he spoke out loud has been in his mind a long, long time.
I would just avoid spending any time alone with him in the future. It will be awkward the first few times you get together as a family again, but it will pass. Accept his apology and thank him for the flowers.
2007-03-27 10:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your father in law had WAY to much to drink. And dealing with the loss of his wife, could only add to it. My grandfather used to get piss *** drunk, and when I hear what your FIL did, it reminds me alot to him about saying inappropriate things and just being an all around jerk.
I know its horrible thing to say, and I hope you dont take this the wrong way. But in a way its better that he asked to see you naked then saying things to family members like he never loved them, or you only married someone for their money. That would of been alot worse to heal and forgive for the family for this horrible time.
I wouldnt call to say thank you for the flowers, next time you see him mention that the flowers were beautiful. But I dont think I would go out of my way to say thank you.
2007-03-27 10:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by Zenthae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is definetly grieving. I would call him and say thank you and tell him that there are no hard feelings. (so long as that is true)Forgive him and let him KNOW that you forgive him. He was sad and drinking (any idea seems like a good idea when you are drinking). Be kind, but weary. Don't let yourself be put in that situation again. Forgive him, but be careful.
2007-03-27 10:40:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was clearly drunk ..and mixed with grief..this can make you delerious! I wouldn't mention the flowers...this will just draw more attention to the incident! Just try to act as normal as possible around him. I'm sure he's embarrassed to death!
2007-03-27 10:45:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WoW.... poor guy....
he should have waited untill you're really drunk.
2007-03-27 10:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋