my life at my mom's house is almost always hell.... i hate it and i am always getting in fights with my mom and stepfather..ever since my mom got married a couple of months ago my stepfather has changed my mom and he has changed too
he at first acted like a really great person and then after he got our permission that he could get married to my mom he acts like a jerk and myn mom has never been the same... she is more mean and she listens to everything my stepfather says and lets him run our lives...i want to go live with my dad full time but i am only 14 and i dont know what to do... i hayte my stepfather and he makes my life a living hell but at my dads house i am always happy and my dad is really nice to me but still i dont know if i should go live with my dad full time or stay half and half withboth my mom and dad...
what should i do???
2007-03-27 12:09:52 · 9 answers · asked by skatergirlcat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you should do what's best for you. it sounds as if you mother doesn't want you to stay with your father. However, if your father makes you happy and you enjoy being over at his house then you should stay with him full time. If you and your mom are always getting into fights and your stepdad is controlling her in some type of way then do them both a favor and move out. Then you wouldn't be a hassle for her anymore. If staying with your dad makes you happy than you should do just that and maybe only visit your mother and stepfather every once while.
2007-03-27 12:19:21 · answer #1 · answered by [(Ladiie Karma)] 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That must suck!!
If I were you, I'd find a chance when your stepfather is taking a nap, working outside, or somewhere out of the house and tell her how you feel. If you can't manage to get him out of the house, see if you and your mom can go out to eat or do something together (without your stepdad) and tell your mom how you feel. Writing her a note is a good idea too!!
I don't know the laws for kids going with their other parent, but you should see if you can go to court or something and have your Dad become your gurdian. I mean, if you're happier at your Dad's house, go there. Who wants to live in a "living hell" anyway? But do what you feel.
Talk to your Dad on the phone too and see what he thinks you should do. Make sure he can afford to have you living in his house and stuff before you make any plans!!!
Good luck!
2007-03-27 19:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you should try half and half for a while and see how that works ...have you tried talking to your dad about the situation with your mom and stepdad? sometimes things seem worser than they are things might be ok at dad's for a while but then he may be the same way after a while....just try half and half for a while and see how you feel in most states at the age of 14 a child has a say so where they want to live and which parent they want to live with.....search your online attorneys and look for family laws in your state and see what your options are....good luck
2007-03-27 19:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by att_i_tude2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem, my daughter wanted to live with her dad so I let her. She missed her friends and school. Her dad let her get away with everything over there and she came back sassy and rude to me her mother. When everything is calm and there is not a fight brewing sit down and talk to your step dad and ask him why things are the way they are. Ask him what you could do to make things better.
2007-03-27 20:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by Alone again 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think both because you might miss them so both for your own good and deep deep deep inside you know you love both your mom and your real dad so ya don't let some new jerk guy take over your life also talk to your mom about it
2007-03-27 19:19:12 · answer #5 · answered by Jayde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your dad. tell him how you're feeling but talk nicely. don't belittle your mom but let him know the situation. ask him if you can live there. if the situation is that bad you do have the right to request a change of address. best of luck to you.
2007-03-27 19:24:26 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Mom is like that believe me i understand what you are going through i would go like with my dad until things blow over and they might get back to normal.
2007-03-27 20:13:04 · answer #7 · answered by ronald R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
half and half, be tough, just do your own thing and dont hang out around the adults, tell your mom when alone that you are fed up and you all need to talk.
2007-03-27 19:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call ur dad and ask him 2 file 4 custidy
2007-03-27 19:25:32 · answer #9 · answered by =) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋