Do you or did you validate your children as they got/get older? How did you impact as a parent help your child to transition into the "real" world? How important do you think guiding your children helps them not to fall into the cracks if you will?
2007-03-27 12:22:07 · 10 answers · asked by Diva 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Being a parent of 3 kids 2 in their teens(boys) 1girl 7. The world is not getting any eaiser for I think it is alot harder than what I went through. In order to perpare my kids for the real world it started from day 1. I see that there is alot of issue with the kids now adays. We have lost the core of teaching them about respect, accountability, honsety, and consequences, it is getting to point were no one wants to work for it and just handed over to them. Parents are more worried about being their kids best freinds instead of a parent. Dont get me wrong thereis nothing wrong with being your child friend but their are boundries and you need to make it clear to you kids that. I know that my kids can come to me about issueing that they are having and I am there to listen and to help them out. I feel that having taught my kids has perpared them for the real world and I know that they will be hard working and respectful kids. Just let them know that they will make mistakes and for their there will be consequence being postive or negitive. BE a parent and love and be there for them.
2007-03-27 12:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by ohmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i validate my children on feelings and talking problems through, being open and honest and accepting other peoples opinions i think is important when growing up we realise that they need to make their own mistakes in order to learn, we can tell them not to do it but they still will anyway all i can do as a parent is be there to support them and show them that i am willing to listen and that i love and care very much about them and what they do with their lives.
2007-03-27 19:29:10 · answer #2 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very important to guide your children through life. My daughter gets upset sometimes but she knows we love her and want the best for her and she respects our decisions. She will be in tenth grade next year and we told her she needs to find a job working 15 hours a week next year and we are going to open a checking account for her so that she can learn about budgeting money and keeping her check book balanced. I have thrown some of her clothes and music out and made her adjust her make-up before. They won't know if you don't tell them. But make sure they know you love them and do everything with kindness.
2007-03-27 19:38:09 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea i have three boys and the oldest is 17 going on 50 the other one is 7 fixing to be 8 and the youngest is almost 2 but no matter what you do its really hard to prepare them for the real world cause when they get a certain age they think you are an old dinosauer and dont know nothing and they know everything........i use to think i could be this perfect mom whos kids would be perfect and make straight A's and do sports and yadda yadda yadda but it dont work like that they can easily get mixed up with the wrong crowd or just rebel against everything you say and do.......good luck...
2007-03-27 19:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by att_i_tude2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I had six children. the ages were; between first two, 2years apart. the next two were one year apart, and the last two were one year apart, so they were all small together. We taught them respect for the young, and the elderly, for their teachers, and future co-workers. They are all grown with children of their own now. We corrected their errors by explaining why, what they were doing was wrong and never had to tell them twice. now they are all success in life, with happy marriages, and sweet mannered, well dispositioned children. Not high standards, just good standards.
2007-03-27 19:32:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel I did. I feel their mother did also. When the kids got to that age we were not together, but were all still very close. Both kids did well in college and beyond and both are doing very well now.
I think it is very important for a father to tell his daughter that she can do anything she wants and he will support her. Boys don't seem to need that from dad as much. (But I may be wrong on that)
2007-03-27 19:30:22 · answer #6 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As we bring our children up we need to validate them as individuals. If we brought them up as respnsible , honest and trustworthy we have given them the basic tools to start there lives. There may be times that they will make mistakes and we need to let them fall so that they can learn from them. They need to be responsible for there decesions that they make.
2007-03-27 19:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids learn from their mistakes the best....you just have to be there for them and not enable them. Support them when they make the right choices.
2007-03-27 19:27:44 · answer #8 · answered by buddafly_2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh god no im not a parent ....ahhh at least I hope... lol im only 14
2007-03-27 19:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by jenny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you pray that your children will be OK! if they make mistakes you pray that they learn from them.
2007-03-27 19:28:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋