my children if he doesn't know how to behave and has torn up toys etc. the boy still comes over and i can't seem to understand why his parents or whomever allows him to continue coming over
2007-03-27 12:10:44 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The problem is that maybe his parents really don't know why their child is being destructive at your house. Talk with them first and if the behavior continues then you need to just not let him in .
2007-03-27 15:49:41 · answer #1 · answered by Marla D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's your home, and you have the right to refuse to let him enter. But if his parents aren't with him, how do you expect them to have any idea how he behaves there, or to know that it upsets you?
Tell you children that the boy is not allowed over to play, and they are not allowed to let him use their toys, because he refuses to play nice. If the boy comes over, tell him that there are certain rules in this house, and he has to respect them if he wants to stay; then lists the rules for him (say please and thank you, no breaking of toys, etc). If he breaks the rule, send him immediately. As soon as he's gone, call his parents to explain that he is not currently under your supervision, so they should be ready for him to come home, and explain politely that you let him leave because he broke some of the house rules, and you'd prefer they didn't send him over until he can respect those rules.
2007-03-27 19:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely you have the right.If you have told his parents or whoever than you need to get strict with him and if he comes over then send him right back home and tell him that he is not allowed until he can have respect for your children`s toys and do as you say.
2007-03-27 19:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you told this childs parents or caretakers you would rather him not come back to your home to play with your children due to the things he does? if you havent then maybe he hasnt told them what you said and just keeps coming back maybe he has a problem or is being abused himself and his coming to your house and doing what he does is acting out his aggression not saying that it is ok but just maybe something is going on in his home or he dont have what your kids have and is jealous and just figures if he tears it up they wont have it either....make a trip or call his home and talk to whomever is caring for him and tell them you'd rather he didnt come to your home........good luck
2007-03-27 19:21:30 · answer #4 · answered by att_i_tude2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heck yeah you do!!!! You are the adult and the parent and if the child is disruptive you don't have to have that child around. Surely you aren't having any guilt feelings over this. I have teenagers and decide which of their friends I allow in my home and which ones are pains in the butt with all of their drama.....does that make me a bad mom??? I don't think so!!
2007-03-27 19:18:49 · answer #5 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely have that right. When he comes over, just send him right back home. You don't have to be mean, just tell him that he can't play with you children at that time.
2007-03-27 19:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by Rickster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if the child wont listen to you, you need to go tell his/her parents about the situation and see what they say. Im sure they will keep their kid from comming to your house.
2007-03-27 19:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by ~florida-girl~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your house and you decide who is permitted in. Have you explained the house rules to the child? If you have, and he doesnt listen then he cant come over.
2007-03-27 19:24:07 · answer #8 · answered by CHELLE BELLE 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do you bought the house and you rule it. Take your right and use it and feel good about yourself feel powerful about your house and have fun telling somebody to stay out do what you got to do!
2007-03-27 19:16:32 · answer #9 · answered by Jayde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your house- you don't allow a child to dictate who you let in or not. Stop opening the door to him.
2007-03-27 19:14:22 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋