Family & Relationships - 26 December 2007

We have been dating for almost 4 years now. We have discussed it in length. He said he wants to wait until we are more financially stable, but we are already living together. I thought that Christmas would be the day. I really wanted a mixer, but I told him that if he is going to spend that much money, he might as well buy a ring. The mixer can wait and isn't that important. I woke up christmas morning and there, under the tree, was the freakin' mixer. My heart sank. I don't know how to approach him about it because I honestly thought that the matter was settled. No mixer, get ring! We've been living together for almost a year now. Did I make the wrong choice moving in together? Will he ever marry me? I told him that I don't want to wait YEARS. My goal is to be married by the time i'm 25, which is next year...I'm very heart broken right now and I just don't know what to do. I know he loves me, but does he want to be with me? He says yes, but his actions say no...

2007-12-26 02:10:22 · 14 answers · asked by searcy 1 in Singles & Dating

She married in Texas and live there for 6 months, then moved to WV and lived here for 3 mo. She wants a divorce from a deadbeat man. WV law says you have to be a resident for one year. Does she have any options?

2007-12-26 02:09:31 · 2 answers · asked by spagetts1 2 in Marriage & Divorce

does it make you feel good inside?

2007-12-26 02:02:07 · 15 answers · asked by mmmmyeah 3 in Singles & Dating

help me, i want to fall in love for this guy...

2007-12-26 02:00:40 · 5 answers · asked by zsdgdsfg dhfdhy dfth dfgh dfthy dfgh 2 in Singles & Dating

After all he's done to me and taken from me, I shouod be happy to be rid of him. I have my own house, 2 vehicles, a 6 figure job, horses and wonderful son and family.....he has nothing. He used to live in a luxury home with credit cards galore at hjis disposal.....not anymore. Now hw lives with his crack head mother and her boyfriend on parole. He has no car, no money, no job, no phone...but he does have his freedom. He can stick his di#$ into any mud puddle that winks at him....afterall, a guy like this knows nothing about quality. I got mixed up with the wrong person, I believed his lies over and over, I supported him for 1.5 years and spoiled him....don't you think MAYBE he regrets his actions?

2007-12-26 02:00:05 · 26 answers · asked by jenny 1 in Marriage & Divorce

ok so i feel as if all my friends at school r some wat fake.
they talk about me behind my back etc. but then again i have a lot of true friends which i luv.
But these last few months school has gotten harder..my bestfriends are making new friends wich i think is great..but they are forgetting about me.
so i want to move. I live in Indiana and my aunt lives in indy so i want to move down with her next year. But thing is i havenot tlked to my parents about it. and it might be hard for me to say goodbye to my bestest friends. idk wat to do help my plz?!?

2007-12-26 01:59:54 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Christmas with the question" Will you marry me" and the ring to go with it.?

2007-12-26 01:59:54 · 14 answers · asked by mrrtt4851 3 in Singles & Dating

hallo everyone I'm 19 this year. I live in Melbourne Australia. i used to be a 'good boy' my only dream used to be getting good exam marks and getting compliments from teachers and parents. but as the years passed, one day things suddenly changed for me. things like this no longer make me feel content. now whenever I play games I keep thinking whats the point all that you've accomplished here would disappear once you turn the machine off.. and I've just finished high school with a very good final year exam score but I feel nothing. starting from this year I realised I feel good when I talk to females. so I've attempted to 'grow up' and become engaged like other guys, and I tried to talk to the girl that I had a crush upon.. and I've tried other girls.. they liked me as a friend but none of them wanted a boyfriend like me. finally I realised that I, being short and ugly, simply can't get a decent girlfriend. so I gave up. but what should I do now? I don't feel alive any more

2007-12-26 01:59:53 · 5 answers · asked by heinz_chan 2 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I have been married for 10 years and have two small children. However, my husband and I have not been sexual with each other since the conception of my second child which is almost six years ago. He's never been into me and I finally got tired of it so I stopped having any feelings for him. But, lately, I'm thinking that I need and deserve to be loved and cared for. So, I told him that I want a divorce. But, we have two kids in private school and he said the only way he would agree to it is to take the kids out of their school and put them in a public school. Divorce would be hard enough on them without taking them out of their normal environment. But, if I stay, I will continue to be depressed and this is not good for my kids either. So, what should I do????

2007-12-26 01:56:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am so confused and don't know what to do. i am married now for 10 months but am not entirely happy. i have moments but i miss my ex too much and always think about him. i was with my ex for 3 years, but i had a medical issue and the doctor thought it might be better to have a baby ASAP. well, my ex freaked out about having a baby AND getting married. He said he would marry me, then got scared, and we took a little time apart. i reconnected with an old friend, and 4 months later we got married. he was with me and wiling to get married and have a baby. i thought it was the best thing to do at the time and i couldnt trust the ex to do any and i didnt want to risk not having a baby. I got married but now decided to wait to have the baby bcs.i am confused. he is a great guy and would do anything for me, but my heart is with my ex. i know my ex would marry me if i got divorced, i love him, i know he loves me. i just dont know if I can risk divorce. i am so confused. what should i do?

2007-12-26 01:56:17 · 5 answers · asked by roxana.lopez30 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Say you both have been talking for 2 months by phone and have shared photos. The guy is away at college in a doctoral degree program, so you don't see each other. Although they are far apart, he likes her very much. You think this woman may be the one.

2007-12-26 01:55:25 · 5 answers · asked by Dimples 2 in Singles & Dating

let me know if i need to add anything to this...this is my last desperate attempt to fix things with a girl i dated a while back and cant stop thinking about..

Hey...was just thinking about you and wanted to say hi..i hope you had a merry christmas..i know i said some things in the past that have upset you..and have gone overboard with all of this..i know how you feel about me..i just want to say sorry for all of this..im embarresed of the things ive said and the way ive acted theres no excuse..i still think about you all the time and it really bums me out, because i miss talking with you...i hope theres no hard feelings..and i hope if your ok with it maybe we can be friends one day down the line...nothing more nothing less..i care about you alot and just want you to be happy..

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year

2007-12-26 01:54:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Anyone know of a beautiful place(Church,gallery,etc....)to have my wedding ceremony on the south side of Chicago or either downtown that will hold at least 250?

2007-12-26 01:52:54 · 2 answers · asked by tarshabee 2 in Weddings

Would this bother you?
Also, it bothers me when I am with my parents or grandparents and we have to sing "roun yon virgin." Does this make you uncomfortable?

2007-12-26 01:51:26 · 10 answers · asked by Cas 4 in Family

something about it. Is she right? I say this is not always the case.

2007-12-26 01:45:40 · 15 answers · asked by So adorable 5 in Singles & Dating

and distant that he makes me feel so uncomfortable around him? Trouble is i still have all the feelings for him and still want him but i dont go on about this ever to him. Why is it he will call me and we spend hours on the phone, on and off during a day, conversation flows naturally but when he is face to face he has not much to say and he acts cold and distant,im confused? I miss his company so it is really bugging me that he is acting this way and not being himself around me anymore apart from over the phone. What is going on in his head?

2007-12-26 01:41:04 · 16 answers · asked by Lilly K 1 in Singles & Dating

I do not think I even love him at all anymore. I have morbid thoughts about him when I sleep. He is very immature, irresponsible, childish . . . etc. When we were dating he led me to believe he was a nice gentleman. Now that I am married to him I feel like I am his mother. I had a 3 year old prior to this marriage and now I feel like I am a mother of 2. And now we have one on the way. We constantly fight and it is tearing my home apart and I do not want another child to have to deal with the chaos. I do not think I have any feelings for him whatsoever. He begged and begged to have sex the other day and finally I gave in to shut him up and I cried for about an hour afterwards. I have never felt like this before in my life. I don't want to leave because every will think I am giving up. But he is driving me insane. And his jealously gets in the way of everything. I couldn't even go christmas shopping without him calling me like every 15 min. I've tried my hardest. HELP!!

2007-12-26 01:40:45 · 25 answers · asked by dixie_beach 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-26 01:40:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Have anyone met someone from online? Are you still talking to that person?

I know that some people meet people from online, but it doesn't last long...lol.

2007-12-26 01:38:37 · 18 answers · asked by twdy412 2 in Singles & Dating

I had sex many times before, and now I am going to marry...

but I dont want my wife to know all my bad past

I am worried, if she can find out on my 1st night that I had pre sexual experience..

I have 2 Question...

1) how can girls, find out, whether a guy has sexual
experience?

2) what should I do, so that she wouldnt know that I have pre
sexual experience?

2007-12-26 01:36:33 · 22 answers · asked by Buddy 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My ex boyfriend and I broke up 4 yrs ago (we were together 4 yrs). Since then, we've been in contact on and off just as good old friends. He lives in another continent. He broke it up with me cause he couldnt get his head around marriage and I felt one day Id like a child. Anyhow, thing is I was very close to his parents & even grandparents. Recently his mother was in my city for a visit and we met up a few times. She was raving at 'how glamourous I look' and took pictures. She invited me to visit them & stay in her place for a few mths. She wanted to know if Id met anyone recently. My exs 2 best mates have just settled down. A few days go she emailed me to say she had shown the photos to my ex and noe 'hes more & more interested in visiting the country I live in '. Am I imagining it or is she trying to get us married? Is this bizarre? Please opinions on this!!!

2007-12-26 01:35:51 · 11 answers · asked by sonia 1 in Family

First of all, when we dated my wife wasn't like this, but now this is what she turned into after one year. My wife is boring. She is lazy (ie. doesn't have a professional career, smokes, and hardly cooks). She doesn't like to have sex on the regular. She has a ghetto state of mind and shows no sign of completing any goals. She spends more time with friends and family than me. I want to divorce, but we have a kid. What should I do?

2007-12-26 01:35:30 · 13 answers · asked by Vinny 1 in Marriage & Divorce

This girl and I were close. We have dinners, lunches, both called in sick at work several times to spend the day together. I try to do nice things, bring her coffee occasionally, lunch, soup if she's sick.

The other day I was bummed, she was out, so I asked if she could bring me coffee on her way back (first time ever). I am 5 minutes from her, I didn't think I was putting her out. She ignored my call (you know one ring, then voicemail), so I left a message saying it would cheer me up if she did. No response, so I sent a text, if she can't then let me know. Nothing.

I was upset and hurt, she definately had her phone on her, so I wrote her an e mail, not an angry one, but an honest one.

She called me the next day, and was angry, her voice was echoing in the background she was yelling so loud. And then she started crying. She said she didn’t have her phone on her (She did when I met up with her 4 hours before) and that she was too tired to text back when she got home.

2007-12-26 01:33:21 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Love like romantic love. And just 'cause you have a bf/gf it doesn't mean you love that person. When I say love, I mean true deep love. :)

2007-12-26 01:31:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I like a very close female friend of mine. But i am not sure what she thinks of me. She says i am a caring and sweet guy.
But she sometimes acts differently around me.
Sometimes she talks to me a lot and sometimes not at all since she at time is reserved. But after a night out clubbing she makes sure i am comfertable before she retires to bed. She likes to tease me a lot but also at them same time will try not to say things which she think will offend me. I can tell that she wants to say something but then she stops herself. Also one day we were meant to be meeting for a few drinks with all her flatmates which we do every week but a few hours before she send me message asking if it was ok if it was cancelled since she wanted to have a girly night out. Now why did she do this. I mean after all we are friends. No need to apologise or take my permission.
Also one day when clubbing her dink got spiked and she came to me and asked me to look after her. So she does trust me.

2007-12-26 01:29:56 · 5 answers · asked by Adam 3 in Singles & Dating

unable to do that cus can not recall sername but thanks

2007-12-26 01:27:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I dated this girl like two years ago, It didn't work out. But it seems every year around the same time we like kinda connect. So far we spend every new years together, we are doing something this year as well. I always liked her and feel she never gave us a chance?IM so confused about her? She asked me out to the movies last weekend, was fun. We were talking and I had said I needed so personal clothing, and out of the blue she went and got them for me? I want to talk to her and ask her what are deal is ,but I don't want ruin what we have and make it weird? Because there nothing worse going to the same bars and seeing someone that luv in the sense?

2007-12-26 01:26:54 · 10 answers · asked by redcrewcab 1 in Singles & Dating

How many times a 30Yr old Guy can do sex in a DAY?

1time? 2times? 3times?......

2007-12-26 01:21:48 · 22 answers · asked by Buddy 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I have a big inkling that my fiance aunt hates me. Seriously...I hate it when I think about his aunt not liking me...I mean, she offered to pay for the invitations to be re-printed because
a. the date wasnt on one line
b. our wedding website was on the invite
c. there was not a comma where she thought there should be (We used verse off of a different wedding website, and there IS NO COMMA!)

She made a comment to my fiance's mom about not having enough matching stuff on our registry...

AND
I work today, the day after Christmas, my fiance's uncle was having a family get together today...well I would've been able to go because it was at four and i get off work at five...
well his mom told us yesterday "theres been a time change and I think my sister had something to do with it"
Now i can't go because it's at 11 AM...

I honestly feel like she hates me and is doing whatever she can to make it hard on me...I wanted to go so bad to the family gathering...

2007-12-26 01:20:18 · 14 answers · asked by ? 5 in Weddings

2007-12-26 01:19:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating