I am 30yrs old Male, going to marry soon, can my wife know I am a vergin?

Question

I had sex many times before, and now I am going to marry...

but I dont want my wife to know all my bad past

I am worried, if she can find out on my 1st night that I had pre sexual experience..

I have 2 Question...

1) how can girls, find out, whether a guy has sexual
experience?

2) what should I do, so that she wouldnt know that I have pre
sexual experience?

Answer 1

Like Anthony, I hardly think she assumes you are a virgin at age 30. It is not necessary to discuss one's entire past with their spouse. I've been married four years and my husband still doesn't know all the details... and he doesn't ask, either. Like you, I had a bit of a wild side and I'm not too proud of it these days.

If a woman has any wits about her, she'll be able to tell by how you 'perform'. A virgin man would be very clumsy and wouldn't really know what to do. One whose been around the block a few times hopefully picked up some knowledge on the way. I take it as a good thing because who wants someone who has no idea how to pleasure a woman?

If she asks and wants to know about your sexual past, tell her. Otherwise, as long as you're disease free, what she doesn't know won't hurt her.

Answer 2

I think your marriage is off to a bad start if the first thing you want to do is lie to your wife... Have you told her you are a virgin, otherwise, why would you need her to believe this? It is very unusual for a 30 year old man not to have had any previous sexual experience. She is about to be your wife, be a man and be honest - don't try to pretend to be inexperienced in bed! There is nothing to say you have to go into detail about your past lovers, but nothing to say you need to deny you ever had any!

Does this even have to be discussed?? I would have thought this is something you would have discussed way before you decided to get married, if at all... unless she asks I wouldn't bother saying anything - and if she asks, just be brief and say something like , "yes, I have been with women before - but now that I have met you, you are the only woman I will ever need". No need to specify unless you want to!

Answer 3

I think just ignore this topic.Behave like normal young man on the first move on the very first night.Just get as close as possible to her .Talk general things and gradually hold her hand and a little later just kiss her and hold her for longer duration to rouse some sexual feeling in her.Then a bear hug....kisses all over and feel her breast and allow your hands to go round her every sensitive parts.Now, that's the time when you must have your real "do" giving her feeling that you are quite a naive in this ; but , you have developed a tremendous sexual urge after getting her with you in the same bed.
Remember, you don't have any moral right to know from her if ever she had sex with anyone in the past.Don't you ever try to.OK?

Answer 4

Are you getting married mate? or is it a classical drama from some film you are trying to play.

I couldnt help wonder but what if your would be wife has the same thoughts and doesnt want you to know abut her past? Wont you necessarily call her a cheater the ?

Communicate man, you have time then why waste it ?

She should be understanding enough as she agreed for the marriage in the first place. Also dont cheat on her , its better not to go for a marriage if you are not truely honest on the commitments..

Answer 5

Does it really matter? Maybe she is just as experienced as you are. If she isn't, perhaps she wants someone with experience who could guide her.

What you did before your marriage should not be of anyone's concern. The same would apply if you were female.

Look forward to your wedding and your relationship with your soon-to-be-wife. If she asks, then be honest. That is the best you can do.

Good luck.

PS. There isn't any way a woman can tell if a man is a virgin. However, inexperience is a big tell tale sign.

Answer 6

physically no can tell ur pre sexual experieence. dont let her know that u r experienced act as if u know nothing about it

dont rush on the ist night . ur wife might suspect something. be slow

do not go far peneratraion on ist night.90% of virgin male could not penerate on first night. BEST OF LUCK..

if u have not protected ur self during ur pre sex experience better check with ur doctor. and then proceed

Answer 7

You need to be honest but non-specific. Tell her you want you made some hasty or poor choices in past relationships. Assure her of your love, and your expectation of a life-long relationship.

But...

be prepared. She may make a similar confession, or ask for details. In either case, do not ask or give details. If she asks, tell her you are no longer a virgin. Do not ask her or tell her anything beyond this. Forgiveness is easier when we do not use memories to hurt each other.

Answer 8

1. If you do sex in a way as if you are doing it easily, hurriedly and without any seriousness, this may indicate you have sex experienc earlier, you have to allow your would be to take initiative and expose yourself as if you do not anything about sex.
2. You don't tell her that you have enough sex experience before marriage, thats all

Answer 9

Well you *&^! up, period. Y would you lie about something of that nature. you should had told her you have, but in retrospect you wish you never have. But even with that just tell her that you feel like a virgin again becuz no one has ever made you feel like she has then you kiss her and do it all while you are stocking her hair and staring in her eyes. You will be fine she will love you and no worries. hell she is probably not telling you the truth neither.

Answer 10

LOL I have the opposite problem. 23 year old virgin who wants to convince a future girlfriend that I have experience. I think your situation is easier (as long as you don't have STDs).

Green Eyes,

There is a first time for everyone. No man was born experienced and knowing how to please a woman.