Family & Relationships - 12 December 2007

Hi, hoping for answers from divorced people!!

Our kids are the same age exactly, but she is 35 and I am 47. We get along great, we both laugh a lot with each other and even at each other, we both admit that we smile all the time now that we have met even when we are not together. This is nothing like when I met my first wife --- now I have music in my head all day long and I feel dizzy just thinking of her!! Each of us has been divorced for several years. We are agreed to take it slowly, step by step, and see where it goes. So what's the problem? I am just worried that the age thing will catch up with us -- in 15 years I will be 62 but she will only be 50. Do you think I am worrying needlessly??? I do feel that with our kids being the same ages exactly, that pushed us more into the same calendar mentality.

2007-12-12 03:53:29 · 19 answers · asked by jasper 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Today very recent, i talked to a girl ive liked all year, and all i got out of her was a email account and myspace. we talked about her major, her weekends, then I asked her if she was lesbian because i was curious,....i had asked her if i could ask her that personal question. I felt like if i didnt say something, she wouldnt want to talk,....and there would be awkard silence (which look like this whole thing was going anyway) I asked "are you a lesbian"....and she said " no i have a boyfriend". Then i a random guy that she knew came up to her and gave her a hug. Wow.................dont know how to deal with this. Well i told her i would try to keep in touch with her because she was headed toward the parking lot.... and i would add her to my friends on Myspace. Only problem is....i dont have a myspace account either.....I dont even know if i am going to see her again next year.

2007-12-12 03:52:35 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My family and hometown is about 5 hours away from where I currently live. My fiance is a pastor and we would really like to get married here in his church. My family is upset about this and would prefer me to marry in the church I grew up in. Is it unreasonable to have the wedding where my life is now? Am I neglecting their feelings on the matter? Just as a side note his family lives two hours away from us as well so everyone will have to travel.

2007-12-12 03:51:50 · 19 answers · asked by limabean 2 in Weddings

2007-12-12 03:51:14 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-12 03:50:50 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-12 03:50:16 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-12 03:46:34 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I am 29 she 25. We were together for 3 months. We were really into eachother and things went way to fast. We had sex within 3 days of knowing eachother and things skyrocketted. She expressed to me sometime that she needed space but was doing it so things didnt get messed up in teh future for us. Then she todl me that she agreed that things went to fast and kinda freaked her out. She had just got out a a verbally abusive relationship one month before me got together. She states that she was still messed up by her ex. She broke yup with me telling me she lost the spark, cause we were togther to much. She stated to me that she still wanted to talk to me and hang out and she will pronanly regret the decision to break up with me. My question is she still thinking of me? We never had any problems in our relationship she stated she wanted to marry me etc. She states today that this is not easy for her either and she would like to stay friends with me. Does this show she is confused right now?

2007-12-12 03:45:27 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

if so can u plz send a site dat confirms wat u r sayin.

2007-12-12 03:43:44 · 12 answers · asked by AMBER 1 in Family

2007-12-12 03:42:29 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I sometimes thing many of us of the male gender are in fact looking for a mother as much has a wife and a lover! My wife is my lover, but also my best friend too! So moms, ladies and wives out there. Which one are you? A mother or a lover?

2007-12-12 03:40:37 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

You`re girlfriend/boyfriend was very cute but she makes you angry because he/she use too much money, complains alot, or other stuff. U wished u were alone?

2007-12-12 03:38:25 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

racism

2007-12-12 03:37:21 · 6 answers · asked by Jeanna N 1 in Family

what do you think about tattoos on a woman??

2007-12-12 03:35:51 · 24 answers · asked by My Sharona 5 in Singles & Dating

Am i missing someone?

2007-12-12 03:34:36 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I saw someone posted a site the other day, www.favorableaffairs.com.
I like the clear boxes but, what do you think people like better ... mints or chocolates in the favors????

2007-12-12 03:33:42 · 16 answers · asked by d 2 in Weddings

But then she said no because I don't call her or
talk to her enough. What should I do now?

2007-12-12 03:32:26 · 26 answers · asked by Michael 1 in Singles & Dating

I had been dating a guy for 4 years and found out a week ago that he has been cheating and lying for at least 11 months, We planned on marriage 8/8/08 My ex husb did the same thing my son and i left when he was 2 wks old and i finally learned to trust and love this guy with my whole being. I got cell phn bills and asked what was goin on, he said yeah I am f*&#ing her, now he has been at my house 4+ nights a week and doing family stuff and for him to lie so easily, kills me. Yesterday he said, I know I hurt your feelings, ARE YOU KIDDING ME?? My son is the only reason I am still here. He said I am a good woman that stays home and takes care of her son and was not out in the streets. So why get a b*tch out in the street if you had everything at home?? She even knew about me and my son. I don't know how to pick up the pcs. He has had no problem moving on with her the past 4yrs don't even matter. Its like I don't even know him. He played with my sons heart promising to adopt. so f'd up

2007-12-12 03:30:06 · 10 answers · asked by spellbound1122 2 in Singles & Dating

It's my crazy ex-friend update. So this is her invite story...
Make a long story short for everyone who hasn't been following this... Got married 1 in Vegas- having giant church wedding in white gown 6 months later (redo) . Demanding shower... Demanding lavish gifts and lots of attention. I kicked her out of my wedding because she was trying to ruin it and make herself center of attention. I am getting this information from a mutual friend who is still in her wedding. This mutual friend is starting to get worried that like her shower- no one is coming!!

1. RSVP date is Jan 5th and the date for the wedding is the Jan 19th- they invites are NOT mailed out yet. She is hoping to get them outing next week!
2. It's Christmas- Hello the mail takes twice as long!
3. The invite has a picture on it from the first wedding.
4. 80% of her guest list is out of state.
5. It's for Jan in New England- Hello SNOW!
6. They have a phone number to RSVP by.

2007-12-12 03:29:38 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Ive got a girl mate who's going out with this guy but she doesn't really like him too much as in attraction, he treats her well and is really nice to her but she says that she doesn't even kiss him or anything, she said she wouldn't be bothered if he finished her yet she wont finish him.

What is going on in her head ladies??

2007-12-12 03:27:52 · 18 answers · asked by blitzed200 2 in Singles & Dating

I've been seeing a certain guy off and on for several years now...I'm the type that wants to get married, but he's not, in fact, he's not even the serious relationship type. I'm 27, and really at that age where I'm ready to settle down. I'm not the type that guys fall all over (I'm okay, but nothing special lookswise) and at this point, I feel like I'm too old to find anyone else. What should I do? He is a good guy, so I don't want to lose him, but part of me wonders if there's something more out there.

2007-12-12 03:27:29 · 5 answers · asked by sunflower 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-12 03:26:30 · 8 answers · asked by colleena m 1 in Marriage & Divorce

points with her if you told her about it ? Is it that wrong to want to keep my good image and not expose her to an embarassing fetish?

We have been very happily married for almost 6 years !

2007-12-12 03:25:40 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My ex(husband) cheated on me not even a week after I got home from having our son with his ex gf. We seperated and I put him on child support. He has not made any payments. He was also very abusive during our relationship. He blacked both of my eyes once and whenever I hear he's in town I have to stay in a women's shelter because he's very violent and pays no attention to the "Protective(Restraining) Order that I have on him. He's never purchased diapers or clothing for our now 1 year old son. He also has another son that he doesn't do much for either. And he is just a total dead beat maniac. He moved 10 hours away is dating other people, going to college(so he says) and seems to be doing fine while I'm here busting my *** going to school, working, and raising our son. Why does it seem like he came out on top when he did all those hurtful things and is just an evil person with no conscious? I ask a lotta questions about this guy because it just all seems so unfair to me.

2007-12-12 03:23:14 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Are they just confident? Or are they experienced players? i mean men who quickly ask you out, tell you they really like you, etc. It seems they're upfront and want to show me their interest, but then I also wonder if it comes from practice. I wonder, if a guy really, really, liked me, he might be a little more nervous around me, no?
And 'm speaking of adults,.
Thanks!

2007-12-12 03:21:55 · 26 answers · asked by cindy 2 in Singles & Dating

*This is not about me this time...I did not cheat*
Have you worked it out with your spouse? What does the guilt feel like? Do you have horrible thoughts and/or images of what your spouse had to endure just out of the blue? I am just curious, I always hear the the cheater has to live with his actions and what he/she has done and that can be worse than being the betrayed and having to "get over it". Just wondering if that is true, because I can tell you from experiance being the betrayed is like living in your own personal hell for a long period of time. I just want to know if someone that is truly sorry for their actions, really "suffers" from the guilt. Thanks in advance for your answers.

2007-12-12 03:21:12 · 8 answers · asked by hurtand still in love 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My husbad and I have a very satisfying sexual life. We have been married for over 8 yrs. I have 2 kids and life is good. He never cheated on me and he is a home buddy, perfect, compare to all the issues I have seen here. 2 years ago we decided to spice things up by doing a threesome. We were both ok with it. The deal was we would do it with a man first, then with a lady for him. One week before the date I noticed he started to have second thoughts...but I told him it was too late. I really wanted the experience. We did it and it was a disaster, at least for my husband. He couldn't function and told me repeately in my ear we should stop, but I ignore him. This almost broke my marriage. It has taken us almost two years to heal from my selfisness of that night. He is happy now, I think he got over all this,,But I haven't,,I feel guitly we never did the second part of the deal. He doesn't want to do anything else to hurt us again,,But I can't live with this guilt. any advice?

2007-12-12 03:20:53 · 31 answers · asked by Nena77 1 in Marriage & Divorce

The wife and I are split up my major problem for this do to depression. That caused alot of damage between us. I except full blame for that. But my question is I have been getting help taking my meds and trying to keep in contact with her. She says she needs space I gave her 600 miles she has the kids and I just miss her and them so much what should I do? I call her 2 times a week we talk for a long time each time. She says she is to bussy to i miss you or I love you. is it over? should I just move on what should I do.

2007-12-12 03:20:49 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

me and the ex have been split for 7 months. he is with someone else, and we have tried many times to meet up but we havent. We then met up, and he said that he has been avoiding me, cos he's frightened that something will happen between us. He's said that he has thought about me alot, and has been at the point of asking to come around and see me. He also said that I make him nervous. He has even turned up where i work, looking for me, as he said that he wanted to be with me. he said that we will be together as we can't help ourselves or resist each other.

Are we both fighting/denying feelings for each other?

2007-12-12 03:19:39 · 29 answers · asked by Loli 2 in Singles & Dating

We were dating for a month when we decided to take a step back and stay as friends. We both admited things were going too fast and his job was taking most of his time. We still have feelings for each other but it wouldn't be fair to pursue a romantic relationship at this time. I did set some ground rules (no friends with benefits, just friends) and agreed to it. Is it possible for us to be good friends? He also think it's a great because we can learn more about each other as friends.

Please mature replies. We're in our mid-20s.

2007-12-12 03:16:50 · 4 answers · asked by RDC 2 in Singles & Dating