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Hi, hoping for answers from divorced people!!

Our kids are the same age exactly, but she is 35 and I am 47. We get along great, we both laugh a lot with each other and even at each other, we both admit that we smile all the time now that we have met even when we are not together. This is nothing like when I met my first wife --- now I have music in my head all day long and I feel dizzy just thinking of her!! Each of us has been divorced for several years. We are agreed to take it slowly, step by step, and see where it goes. So what's the problem? I am just worried that the age thing will catch up with us -- in 15 years I will be 62 but she will only be 50. Do you think I am worrying needlessly??? I do feel that with our kids being the same ages exactly, that pushed us more into the same calendar mentality.

2007-12-12 03:53:29 · 19 answers · asked by jasper 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

19 answers

Don't worry so much about the age difference. Keep yourself fit though so you can keep up with her later.

2007-12-12 03:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

35/47 is no big deal. It WILL be a big deal if you obsess about this. You say same calendar mentally. Cut that feeling out as you are the same so just BE!

But "take it slow"? You are both experienced adults so why the whole commitment thing? It is you making the issue and if you keep it up you will fail in the end. Be a man and push it all forward.... she will appreciate this. All will be well later.

2007-12-12 05:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by jackson 7 · 0 0

So? I don't see where the problem lies here. You are both two mature people who are in love. When you are 62 she will be 50 and you will still be compatible. You both have experienced life already. Have kids, etc. It isn't as if she is 16 and you are 30. That is inexperience for one and experience for the other. You are two mature people in love. What else is there to say? At 62 and 50 you will both still look good too.

2007-12-12 04:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0 0

Since both of you are in love with each other I don't see a problem with your age different. You are both adults at this time and that is what matters. If she was 15 and you 27 I would think that you were robing the cradle, but now you are okay. Follow your heart.

2007-12-12 04:04:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Being 20 and getting in contact with a guy who's 27 isn't an significant age distinction. even with the incontrovertible fact that, being that the lady has no longer had any earlier relationships and this guy has a baby who could grow to hitch her duty is to assert the least, a good style of inauspicious paintings. i'm 28 and married - yet I in no way dated men who had little ones - often because of the fact i do unlike or desire little ones of my very own - no longer to show somebody else's. And remember, whoever the mum is will probable be in his existence continually so because it relatively is yet another rigidity element. i do no longer think of this is nicely worth it - i could pass on and stumble on an incredible single guy who hasn't had little ones yet.

2016-12-10 20:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by merryman 4 · 0 0

Age is only a number! There is a 10 year age difference between my husband and I and he has 2 children from another marriage and I am pregnant with my first.

I think... you feel like this is "too good to be true"...It's not! Enjoy that you've found someone that you can be happy with, don't over analyze it!

2007-12-12 03:58:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I think you are worrying to much. Count it as a blessing and go forward. Age matters when you are 14 and 21 but you are both grown and have children and have been through life enough to know more of what you want. Don't waste time worrying spend your time being blessed. Good Luck!

2007-12-12 04:13:45 · answer #7 · answered by ~Angel~ 3 · 0 0

I am not divorced, but I know quote a few people with that kind of age difference and they are perfectly happy. Don't let age be a reason to end it. Do like you said, take it slow and see where it goes. If there are other reasons to end it, then end it, but don't make it because of age.

2007-12-12 03:58:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

yea you are worrying needlessly Age is just a number it has nothing to do with it

I'll tell you this much I always dated older men don't ask me y but i was always attracted to men that were older than me but Then i dated and later married somenone around my age and now i am divorced

Just waiting for the certificate

The man i am with now i have been living with for 4 years and he is 25 years older than me and i'll tell you this much it don't matter to either of us

It's not how old a person is it's what they are inside and how they treat you that is paramount

2007-12-12 04:04:46 · answer #9 · answered by rebel_angel031 3 · 0 0

Its not like she is 16 and you are 35. You are both adult people who have both been in a marriage before. I dont think that your age difference is that big of a deal. It's all cool.

2007-12-12 03:59:30 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny 5 · 0 0

My mother is 42 and her husband is 75, but his daughter is my age. The age thing doesn't get in the way at all. We are a regular family.

2007-12-12 03:59:35 · answer #11 · answered by MrsCunningham 3 · 0 0

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