*This is not about me this time...I did not cheat*
Have you worked it out with your spouse? What does the guilt feel like? Do you have horrible thoughts and/or images of what your spouse had to endure just out of the blue? I am just curious, I always hear the the cheater has to live with his actions and what he/she has done and that can be worse than being the betrayed and having to "get over it". Just wondering if that is true, because I can tell you from experiance being the betrayed is like living in your own personal hell for a long period of time. I just want to know if someone that is truly sorry for their actions, really "suffers" from the guilt. Thanks in advance for your answers.
2007-12-12 03:21:12 · 8 answers · asked by hurtand still in love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, and I pray for forgiveness everyday. You are an admirable person to forgive your spouse, as it's something most others choose not to do because of broken trust.
2007-12-12 03:27:32 · answer #1 · answered by Perplexed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some would say that I'm inconsiderate because I was forgiven for cheating & having a baby by the man during the course. And now it is happening again w/a different guy. I feel Very hurt & very guilty for what has happened I love my husband VERY much & did not mean for this to happen. The love we've shared stays on my mind & I am so afraid of living life now without him. I feel guilty & have horrible thoughts about the 2 children I have w/my husband & how they to will be affected by this. I feel embaressed about all the people watching me completely f*ck up my marriage. I live with it day & night.I suffer very bad....
2007-12-12 13:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wasn't technically an affair for us we were separated and we both went with new partners he has a harder time with me because it was his best friend that i slept with so for him he is hurt over that fact but after we sorted things through we got back together and are working through the guilt from both of us for 7 years now I do hope that we can get passed it eventually but when we fight it is there as it will always be cause he thinks i will do it again
2007-12-12 11:34:00 · answer #3 · answered by Debi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good question, and I'm interested in reading the responses. But I speculate that the dishonest party who has limited remorse wouldn't feel as guilty.
2007-12-12 13:39:13 · answer #4 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think about for a second, do you regret anything you have done in your past? Of course not, you have gotten your thrill and moved on. Maybe learned a thing or two, but regret it, nope. People don't focus on their mistakes unless they have to.
2007-12-12 13:42:23 · answer #5 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make no mistake about it, the person who was betrayed feels FAR WORSE.
Most times, the cheater is only sorry they GOT CAUGHT.
2007-12-12 11:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It will never work,
Trust has been broken!
2007-12-12 11:32:38 · answer #7 · answered by Gyspy Soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't had an affair
2007-12-12 11:26:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋