Are they just confident? Or are they experienced players? i mean men who quickly ask you out, tell you they really like you, etc. It seems they're upfront and want to show me their interest, but then I also wonder if it comes from practice. I wonder, if a guy really, really, liked me, he might be a little more nervous around me, no?
And 'm speaking of adults,.
Thanks!
2007-12-12 03:21:55 · 26 answers · asked by cindy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Could be either. They could really like you or they could be experienced players, depends on the guy. You won't know until you get to know them a little.
2007-12-12 03:29:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may show that they are confident, or it could show they are experienced players. Some people that carry confidence may ask you out and not appear nervous, some will be nervous because they aren't used to putting themselves out there or of the possible snub that may come with them asking.
Make your decision based on what you feel comfortable. Remember a player of experience is someone who will keep his eye roving because he doesn't really care for you, he just wants a good time.
If someone really, really, liked you they indeed could be nervous around you in trying to make a good impression, maybe even feel intimidated by you beauty and not having any slick lines prepared.
The answer I guess is to make your own decision and what you are looking for, but to watch the person's actions to determine if that is somebody you want to stay with (not the nervousness, but how they treat people, do they insult the waiter/waitress at restaurants, how do they treat people they know, in general find out what type of a person they really are underneath the pile of BS they may be feeding you.
2007-12-12 11:38:12 · answer #2 · answered by cheap advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're mistaken if you generalize. Some men are shy, some extroverted, some are very confident (MY favorite), others really nervous when it comes to gals or public speaking. If a man's obvious experience bothers you, well, avoid that brand. Me, I say bring 'em on and we'll see who is the more experienced and confident.
2007-12-12 11:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by FRANsuFU 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes serious i get that a lot... i come on strong because i am confident and think that i am a player... i dont think there is anything wrong with that... i have however learned that experienced girls tend to be a little cautious around players or men with plenty of confidence... it is a double edge sword because without the confidence, some women would not even think twice about dating the guy... so players must always adjust techniques to have a better chance at getting the woman... when i come on strong on to women, it usually means that i really really like them and will do anything to win them over... i am in that situation right now with a woman who i really like... i think that we both have feelings for each other, but she is apprehensive to allow anything serious to happen... she thinks i am a player and that everything that i say is a lie... however, i think she is attractive to my confidence... she is an experienced woman as i am an experienced man... so yes, it does come from practice... we know what to say, when to say it... if a guy really really liked you and he was nervous, i think that he is just not as experienced to talking with women... i feel that i can talk to any person because i have the mind set that "I am the sh*t." All males must think this... its called being the alpha male... women are attracted to alpha males... Alpha males can like a girl just as much as a nervous AFC... (Average frustrated chump.) this is my opinion because i was not always a player... i am glad that i changed my mindset... it has helped me in getting women who before i would have thought are "too good for me." males must never think this... it leads to low self esteem, which i think women can sense very easily... this guy prolly really likes you... and yes all men who want to date you, get to know you, talk to you over the phone.... want to get in your pants... its just how it is... a nervous guy who "likes you" wants to get into your pants just as much as the player... you shouldnt judge us by this... its human nature... we cant help being males... its the testosterone
2007-12-12 11:38:55 · answer #4 · answered by mor e 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone who comes on strong is someone I dont really see myself dating for awhile. It makes me think okay this person is desparate for something and sometimes I dont mind the one night or one month stand:P Persistance to a certain degree is good but a gradual build up of the relationship seems to work best. If the person is coming on strong and you arent feeling comfortable with it I wouldnt put too much into that guy.
2007-12-12 11:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make him chase you and you'll know. If doesn't matter how attractive he is, or how many females are interested in him, when a guy truly likes you, he likes you and only you. My cousin isn't much to look at, and her boyfriend who is president of the student body and had dozens of girls liking him spent one year chasing after her before she agreed to go on a date with him.
I don't tihnk that nervousness is a sign that he's into you... faithfulness and devotion is. My guy friend came on really strong, but he works out for 6 hours a day lifting 50 pound weights in the gym... Are you goig to say that he doesn't really like her?
2007-12-12 11:25:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Those guys are annoying and I run away FAST! I like a challenge. Or a shy guy I can get to open up.
It's gross seeing over-confident guys... they think they can get anyone... but NOT me! Hah.
It depends on the person. A lot of guys are 'experienced players'.. you just have to not be naive.
2007-12-12 11:26:01 · answer #7 · answered by Karl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
can be both things, experience or they really like you, but if it is the first time you see each other, i would say his upfront and with experience in getting what he wants.
If you make a guy nerveous, maybe for you in the flirting game gives the advantage in the moment but can,t see what good that will bring in the future if he can,t talk to you because you make him feel shy.
2007-12-12 11:29:47 · answer #8 · answered by kollo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope- No Good. They are MEN, sweetie.
All men are jerks until TIME proves otherwise.
I'm talking YEARS.
Men will go to great lengths for sex.
I heard a great theory: Men fall in love with what they see,
women fall in love with what they hear.
You need to develop a B.S. detector, and a nice line to
cut 'em off at the pass.
2007-12-12 11:27:12 · answer #9 · answered by Mimi B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you're saying, I have thought about this too. I have never been as confident as some guys who approach me. I tend to think of them as just egotistical and overly confident, rather than attractive because of it.
I'd like to hear a guy's answer for this one...
2007-12-12 11:25:21 · answer #10 · answered by Ambi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋