Family & Relationships - 29 November 2007

ok well my girlfriend sometimes text and calls this guy when ever im not around. they've known each other longer than i have known her. her friend just had a baby and i guess she thinks figures im not going. so when she was working she had left her phone in the car and im in there as well waiting for her to get out. i thought i'd check out her calls and texts since she always checks mines since i dont ever mind since i have nothing to hide. i go through this one text and she is inviting that guy for lunch on her day off for when she goes to visit her friend and the newborn. what ive noticed is that she always initiates the calls and text to this guy first. she already knows that i do not like this but afterward its like i never told her which i think is disrespectful. HOWEVER, i need some generalized opinions and thoughts to mediate this situation so that i know im being fair about this. i dont do any of these things myself, mind you. why am i not invited and why doesnt she tell me?

2007-11-29 20:00:32 · 15 answers · asked by gumby 2 in Singles & Dating

I know I know, it's really unsafe but well I need more money otherwise I will be kicked out of my apartment. I never finished middle school and was already been in prison for a felony so no one wants to hire me =(. Look I wont lie, I know im a very good looking guy so I know I can make a good business as a giggalo..but im scared..what are some alternative things I should try?

2007-11-29 19:54:17 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My wife attends school, I work full time. We pretty much only get to see each other on nights and some weekends. This is a hard way to live, but I think we have managed well. Recently, she has found a guy friend at school that she enjoyed spending time with. I didn't care or think much of it at first, but she has decided that she is going to be spending more time with him. She says she enjoys his company and they have a lot in common. The problem is now she spends more time with him than with me. I just returned off a week long trip, and I see her at night, but hear more about her and him during the day. I have tried to tell her that I don't mind the guy being around, I would just be more comfortable with her spending a little less time with him. This frustrates her and she goes on the immediate attack to defend her independence. I have no idea what to do, I am sure she isnt interesting in him romantically, but with the txt and phone calls and all the time at school, I have lost her!

2007-11-29 19:49:53 · 20 answers · asked by CT 1 in Marriage & Divorce

im very nice to others but cant get same responce !!!! what to do now?

2007-11-29 19:44:38 · 13 answers · asked by piyu 1 in Singles & Dating

This is so frustrating. I don't mean to sound shallow or anything, but I've noticed that whenever I am attracted to a guy....particularly one that is handsome and has a personality, he always ends up just wanting sex from me. But whenever I DON'T like a guy, he's always the first one blowing up my phone and trying to be with me. Why is this? Is it true that you are who you attract? Am I just aiming to high? Am I aiming for guys that are simply out of my league and only when hell freezes over will I ever be with them? I really would like to know. I think I am a nice person, and I think I am pretty decent looking, but pretty boys treat me like all I am worth is a quick bang in the back seat. Do I give it up to them too easily? I don't know.....it seems like if I give it away to an ugly guy fairly easily, it doesn't matter, he will still call me and want to be with me, but with a pretty boy, the only time he will call me again is when he wants to screw me. What am I doing wrong?

2007-11-29 19:31:51 · 7 answers · asked by Miss K 1 in Singles & Dating

my boy friend of 5 years dumped me. what should i do? i love him!!!!

2007-11-29 19:30:55 · 3 answers · asked by missy1976 2 in Singles & Dating

Finding a genuinally good "girl" for a guy to be with? or

Fidning a genuinally good "guy" for a girl to be with?

2007-11-29 19:29:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

well i have know this guy for nearly two yrs now. the thing is we where friends at 1st but i use to hide my feelings for him, so we use to talk then we wouldnt. Since this yr from about 4months now we are really getting to know each other because i really see that he not only likes but loves me now as 'HE' might call it. Im kinda having feeling for him now but the thing is i dont want to get hurt. couple days ago he told me that he wants to sex me b4 the end of the yr and im like we are just really getting to know each other that much and u want that already, not even a yr in the realtionship are more but hes thinking about sex already. I dont plan on giving him nothing until perhaps my 18th birthday which is may. the thing is im still a vergin an when i lose that precious gift that person who gets it is suppose to be my husband, He said he aint forcing me into nothing he just wants to know that im his an hes mine, he say theres something about me that changes him what am i to do?

2007-11-29 19:28:15 · 47 answers · asked by oney 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-29 19:25:14 · 23 answers · asked by Jimmy Dune Dean 1 in Singles & Dating

My fiance has signed up yesterday & we need to get married before he becomes active. We have to "get into gear" very soon due to his age & I have no clue about military lifestyle & need an idea on where to start. How to prepare myself & our children? Are there certain standards that I should be aware of? Are we required to move constantly? Or any other details to add that would be helpful, I'd appreciate it. I'm a pretty flexible person with great ability to adapt well to any give situation & have strong capabilities to run our entire household alone while he's gone (here at home). But honestly feel a bit hesitant if we have to move out of state. Are there any other alternatives I could look into? I'd like to be prepared properly for the sake of my children.

2007-11-29 19:24:21 · 8 answers · asked by lovie808 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I found out he lied to me about having a wife before we married. He also lied about not living with another woman while he was married.

2007-11-29 19:16:33 · 24 answers · asked by Nancy M 1 in Marriage & Divorce

pretend not to be looking at her by pretending to look at the ceiling or scratch my head in deep thought or quickly look back around again. I'm wondering if I'm expected to say hi or something or smile every time but I really want to avoid her because I sit next to her but I don't find her that attractive she's not my type but fine to talk to. Am I being rude or would she think that I'm deliberately staring at her when I'm not really, I'm just a curious sort of guy. What should I do I don't have a clue.

2007-11-29 19:11:31 · 12 answers · asked by Sporadic 4 in Singles & Dating

I am a 22 year old college student and lately this has been happening. I've been told that I'm a pretty good looking guy before by girls my age before...but in my classes girls that are much older (like in their 30's and 40's) say that I'm cute and nice looking. How come girls my age don't say that to me? It's kinda wired that older women are more open. Why is this?
Thank you!

2007-11-29 19:10:46 · 10 answers · asked by ee 1 in Singles & Dating

is just using me, 2. all his promises made never happen, 3. am tired of just email and txt and him never calling me. I did not get nasty, told him I love him....So do you think it is normal just to stop all contact and just reply via a txt mess"I understand and goodbye". I mean, would u not at least try and give an answer to these 3 statements via a reply email, or would you have this re-action if you did not really love this person. I asked him questions and made 3 statements, if he really was sincere, would he not at least have given me an answer?

2007-11-29 19:04:53 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-29 18:59:47 · 6 answers · asked by mkst 3 in Marriage & Divorce

We are both on the lease. Im asking about the cable and electric bills. Since they are not in my name, I dont think I should have to pay for them. Can I get in trouble for this?

2007-11-29 18:57:15 · 8 answers · asked by dustin s 2 in Marriage & Divorce

She is my second wife,i was just divorced before i marry her last year.We have a platinum wedding ring and my fault is i didn't wear during office time coz my colleagues knows I was just divorce to my ex-wife.So everytime i go back home i put on my finger to show i am wearing it BUT she find out that one day I didn't wear it then she become angry and upset.She give me a second chance if I will not wear it again she will throw away but unfortunately it happen again,so suddently she went to window to throw away,can not find anymore.I am very disappointed about her coz SHE DIDN'T VALUED OUR RING.Am I wrong to blame her of this matter?She break some of my belongings because of jealousy coz she saw the pictures of my language teacher and I on my pc.She break all the material like voice recorder of my teacher about my lesson.DOES SHE IS TOO MUCH?PLS. ADVICE ME.THANKS

2007-11-29 18:55:40 · 27 answers · asked by macey 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-29 18:51:52 · 8 answers · asked by mkst 3 in Family

She went after him when I was pregnant. He dumped me easily enough, and while I could not even pay for food, they travelled to Caribbean, to five star hotels, and bought her expensive jewellery. Then they married, she had a girl. When their daughter was 8 months old, he dumped her, too.

2007-11-29 18:50:27 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Have you ever cheated on your wife? If so, why.

2007-11-29 18:49:01 · 8 answers · asked by Mir 6 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-29 18:47:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have reached the end of my tether with my husband. we have been married 2 yrs.he is fantastic to my son but he just cant communicate. when i try to talk to him he clams up and wont speak, he goes in huffs for days and it is driving me mad as nothing is ever resolved. eg he wont let me sing when listening to my mp3 player (i only do this about once a month). so last night i thought i would try to talk to him i said " i was upset that you wont let me sing after all i put up with your simpsons everynight, soaps everynight, football games and tv 24/7 (he loves tv i hate it). i said could you not let me have that one pleasure once a month,he didnt say anything so i promted him and said " what do you have to say" and he replied he had nothing to say. agh what do you make of it? he never says sorry and is never in the wrong either
Also in a joke i had asked why he never drags me to bed anymore for s** it is always very late now when he has finished tv. he just ignored me and stayed up late

2007-11-29 18:39:53 · 36 answers · asked by cottontail 5 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-29 18:38:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

What are your hopes and expectations for 2008?

2007-11-29 18:30:25 · 23 answers · asked by CMH 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm my cousin's bridesmaid and I've been having to help her fend off the invited guests about why their children aren't allowed/invited to the wedding. My cousin is rather disappointed about the lack of guests that will be able to come (the wedding is in 3 months) but out of our 8 aunts and uncles in the family, every one of them has a kid under 12, and 6 of them live 1,000 miles away at least. A lot of our aunts and uncles have been calling to complain that she's being unreasonable and disrespectful to our family by not allowing children. For her dad's side, she has the same rules (I'm from her mom's). A lot of her friends also have children. It seems that everyone is really unhappy with her, and I'm often pulled into the argument of one side versus another. I just want to help her be happy and be a good bridesmaid, yet I can't help but see both sides of the story. Almost everyone is telling her if she doesn't allow children, they won't be able to attend. Are they being fair? is she?

2007-11-29 18:30:07 · 40 answers · asked by Flowergardener 3 in Weddings

we have been with him for five years and she love him like if he was her father.she ten at that age were ther are xxxxxx but i cant do this any more help

2007-11-29 18:24:30 · 5 answers · asked by katrina h 1 in Family

i now it's pretty vague...please try and answer as best as possible. Thx greatly appreciated.

2007-11-29 18:19:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

when you get older, and after trying all the drugs and alchohol, you'll just find that you wasted a lot of precious time. you might have a few tats, a cigarrette habit and maybe even a drinking problem. you'll find that your relationships didn't have to be disasters, not to mention the child support, and that your career, if you have one, has gone nowhere, really. but you might have a few good stories to tell though,of course, when you tell them you might notice that nobody really cares. if your young and think you've got something to prove to the world, you might want to try another route, cause that road has been driven many times before...and it leads to nowhere.

2007-11-29 18:12:35 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

my colour is not black but darken then my family some says i get brith in hot place thats the reason my colour is like that my mom says that before your brith i have seen black person daily thats the reason .even no one can says that i am adopted because my features is copy of my mom and dad even i can't

2007-11-29 18:12:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

what physical features (like big shoulders, etc.) do you like in a guy?

also, how do you like him to dress?

if you can tell your age, that helps. i'm 21.

2007-11-29 18:12:24 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating