ok well my girlfriend sometimes text and calls this guy when ever im not around. they've known each other longer than i have known her. her friend just had a baby and i guess she thinks figures im not going. so when she was working she had left her phone in the car and im in there as well waiting for her to get out. i thought i'd check out her calls and texts since she always checks mines since i dont ever mind since i have nothing to hide. i go through this one text and she is inviting that guy for lunch on her day off for when she goes to visit her friend and the newborn. what ive noticed is that she always initiates the calls and text to this guy first. she already knows that i do not like this but afterward its like i never told her which i think is disrespectful. HOWEVER, i need some generalized opinions and thoughts to mediate this situation so that i know im being fair about this. i dont do any of these things myself, mind you. why am i not invited and why doesnt she tell me?
2007-11-29 20:00:32 · 15 answers · asked by gumby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me ask you, does this behavior make you uncomfortable? If so, then you have to talk to her about it.
She is going to have friends that are guys, you just have ask yourself if your comfortable with it or not. If not, let her go and get on with your life.
2007-11-29 20:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by wildwillyinva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the exact same prob with my b/f he would always be textig and calling his female friend,
if she has been friends with him for a long time, then she should want you to meet him, i dont know what you can do about it other than talk to her and ask why she is doing this, you could find out where she is going and accidently turn up, she wont have a problem if she is being honest. Good luck
the only way i got around this situation was the fact that she stopped calling him
2007-11-30 04:05:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhh well i wouldn't jump to anything just yet....or confront her about this because women don't like that in men....before you can come down on her about this you need to make sure something is going on....but if she knew him before you she might have had a big crush on him for a long time....girls always have that guy that they have liked since first grade....and even if she is with you and has been for a long time she may always love or like him....but i wouldn't read to much into it until you find a text saying last night was great
2007-11-30 04:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her openly and bluntly that you looked at her phone, since she always takes it upon herself to look at yours, and that it is not acceptable for her to secretly ask another man out for lunch alone and not to ask or tell you about it.
Ask her if she even was planning on telling you about it, and also why she is always the one to initiate. You're doing NOTHING wrong by looking at her phone since she looks at yours.
2007-11-30 04:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by myleslr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know,everyone all over the world has his own life space.Sometimes you wife doesn't want to tell you something about herself becuse she hopes you can give more free space to her.Just respect your wife and believe in her .And here you can make more friends,maybe they cna give you some good advice
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2007-11-30 04:16:00 · answer #5 · answered by cherry c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
surely ur gf likes that boy but it doesnt mean she is betraying you. May be she feels u wont like that she likes him they seem to be gud friends. Although you should tell her that u read her messages and now u feel uneasy talk to her clearly & completely, clear communication is very necessary for healthy relationship. gud luck
2007-11-30 04:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by Dis part of my life is Happiness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope it is not right for her to do this, it would be different if the guy calls and texts her first, but since its the other way around, you need to figure some shyt out hurr.
2007-11-30 04:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any suspicion and doubt is the cause of misery. Ask your heart as what u need to do. And do what it says.
Lack of truthful communication can lead to suspicion.
2007-11-30 04:19:36 · answer #8 · answered by sureshcm m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that the next time she plans to go to lunch with her friend, you would like to go also.
2007-11-30 04:04:59 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me that she is interested in other men. leave her. she is not worth it. confront her and let her know how it is going to be. if u want o give her another chance, then give her only once. but if i were u i'd leave.
2007-11-30 04:04:30 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs.M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋