im very nice to others but cant get same responce !!!! what to do now?
2007-11-29 19:44:38 · 13 answers · asked by piyu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Kudos to you for being kind to others!! In our world painfully lacking of manners and just common courtesy, I commend you! :)
Just remember, you should do it for its own intrinsic reward (being a good guy IS a good thing and does feel good!), and any especially kind act returned is a bonus. Generally, niceness IS noticed and liked, and it WILL pay off.
However, being good and kind does NOT mean being a doormat! You still have the right to not be taken advantage of or made to do things at your own expense/against your own will. If you are "too nice" and let this happen continually, unfortunately, there are plenty of people out there that will use you, if not completely take for granted your good intentions. This is where the saying, "Good guys finish last," comes from. It IS possible to be TOO good/nice when it means the sacrifice of your OWN good too frequently. As with anything in life, it's all about balance.
Keep up the kindness and remember, even if that person you help doesn't show you any in return, you never know how you may have brightened their day and made it possible for them later to be kind to someone else!
Take care and don't lose heart!!!
2007-11-29 20:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by Gauffsa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being nice has left me with a broken heart.. and even when I tried to mend my broken heart, I went about it the nice way, and guess what??? it's still broken.... ever heard of the saying "nice people finish last?" well it's pretty darn true... For my entire life, I've always treated people the way I wanted to be treated in return... unfortunately, sometimes people don't have the same mentality as you, so when they are treated kindly, they don't return the favor... the best thing for you to do is figure out if you have any morals, and if you do, then you'll know that although you're always walked over, going through life being rude, evil, and mean.. is no way to live... continue being the nice person you are, because at the end of the day, you can smile knowing that you haven't done people in and you'll have no problem sleeping at night... what I'd also suggest is that you stay nice, but try being a little more assertive and dominant.. This way, you'll be a nice person that people don't try to walk all over
2007-11-29 19:56:14 · answer #2 · answered by Brit-Brat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you are nice and do nice things to others, try not to expect the same response from them. just do what you feel is right and good..being really nice in the real sense of the word is meaning everything that you say or do without expecting anything in return. that's the true joy you'll get. besides, you can never please EVERYbody right? =)
2007-11-29 19:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by bubbles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be nice for yourself. If you are nice expecting to get something from those around you, your just being manipulative. If your being nice because it makes you feel better, then your further ahead.
You don't want others actions to control who you are.
2007-11-29 19:55:03 · answer #4 · answered by wildwillyinva 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to figure out when it's a waste of time to be really nice to someone, not meaning you should just ignore manners or common courtesy, but, some people will never appreciate it, because they just aren't nice. Those are the people that you shouldn't waste yourself on.
2007-11-29 19:52:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're not supposed to expect people to be nice in return. Be nice because you're a decent human being, not because you need acceptence.
2007-11-29 20:02:11 · answer #6 · answered by bryan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your a nice person stay true to urself and just be urself... if others arent the same towards you, dont let it get to u because they dont deserve ur company... My advise is just be urself at all times
2007-11-29 19:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am glad to know you are nice,but if you want to get something from the world .I will tell you you are wrong.What you should do is to change you view and know more friends in your life.Here comes sexy and hot black girls,let's go!
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2007-11-29 21:28:12 · answer #8 · answered by cherry c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds like a hard qyestion
everyones diffent you cnt be nice 2 everyone they might take it the wrong the wrong way
2007-12-01 02:15:55 · answer #9 · answered by lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are over acting. they think your being nice meant the opposite
2007-11-29 19:51:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋