My fiance has signed up yesterday & we need to get married before he becomes active. We have to "get into gear" very soon due to his age & I have no clue about military lifestyle & need an idea on where to start. How to prepare myself & our children? Are there certain standards that I should be aware of? Are we required to move constantly? Or any other details to add that would be helpful, I'd appreciate it. I'm a pretty flexible person with great ability to adapt well to any give situation & have strong capabilities to run our entire household alone while he's gone (here at home). But honestly feel a bit hesitant if we have to move out of state. Are there any other alternatives I could look into? I'd like to be prepared properly for the sake of my children.
2007-11-29 19:24:21 · 8 answers · asked by lovie808 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, yes and yes. My dad was in the Marine Corps for 30 years, I met my husband because of the Marine Corps. Being a military wife is a proud and lonely position. Depending on the MOS (or job) your hubby has you could move around a lot. Its a great way to see places that you normally wouldn't be able to see, but you will also be far away from everything you know. It'll get stressful, you will argue, you will fight, but don't worry there are services the military offers to spouses to help them. Get familar with the Chaplain (even if you are not religious) on your base (everytime you move) he will help you find the services you need. And also, you always have the internet to keep in contact with friends and family so you have support there. Your children will thank you when they are older for giving them the opportunity to travel the word and broaden their horizons.
2007-11-30 01:56:11 · answer #1 · answered by funandfancyfree3232 3 · 80⤊ 15⤋
I'm married to an active duty service member in the Navy and being a Navy wife has it's challenges sometimes. I understand it's kinda scary leaving your home to live states away in a new setting but that's the most wonderful thing about it, you should want to follow your man wherever he wants to go. Once you're there you'll forget all about your fear because you'll be spending time with your family in a new environment. You'll meet new people, visit different places, & you're going to explore the world with the man you love. Depending on his rank/rate hours may be a little hectic and he probably won't be home as much. Then there's deployment , which SUCKS but as long as you're safe and spend a lot of time doing the things you enjoy it shouldn't be that bad. Get a job, you wouldn't want anyone to have a reason to say you're mooching off of his benefits, even though you aren't but a Dependapotomus is the LAST thing you would wanna be called. Other military spouses can be a little crude
2015-05-08 12:17:55 · answer #2 · answered by Angelic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the life you want. I do not care for it because it intefers with my schooling when we have gone overseas, and it turns out I love my family alot! I am going to law school and his career puts me in a bad position for my own, if you are fine being a teacher or nurse, ect it is great I guess but if you want something major, it can cost you your own. I also have the pleasure of meeting alot of "spouse haters" being said you will not find anything on me, on my car, or in my home that would make it evident my husband was military. I also married a nice guy who loved me who came back a super ***, so I am sure that makes my view very tainted.
2014-04-16 19:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by Annie A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
certainly the better halves who're honest to their husbands while they flow off for prolonged classes of time are to be relatively counseled. The susceptible ones will cheat on their husbands while they get lonely. God bless the two the protection rigidity husbands/better halves and their provider for his or her us of a. and don't hear to the superliberal democrats - the protection rigidity is an extremely noble employer and those in contact are magnificent human beings. i'm very pleased to be certain that not all females are slutty, "elementary" women and that some nonetheless take relationships heavily severe.
2016-11-13 01:29:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An answer to your question all depends on branch of service and if he is going active duty or guard/reserve.
Generally, active duty moves every 2 to 3 years, while guard/reserve do not leave their home station unless they are deployed or sent to a different location for annual training.
Military life on active duty will be what you make of it. Some people are not capable of living in this lifestyle, while others are. There are no good or bad bases, unless you make them that way.
If you are a city person, and get stationed in Nebraska, then you'll have to make the best of it in your own way. But there are lots of resources at every installation for families. Moral and Welfare has many different programs to keep people active.
The good thing is, on active duty, you'll never have to worry about healthcare or housing. As those things are provided. I like the military lifestyle for it's security and peace of mind, however there is always the chance of your husband being deployed for 9-12 months.
Basically, be prepared to make the best of things in any situation.
2007-11-29 19:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by brian.sands 1 · 24⤊ 3⤋
It is hard when they are gone. It is hard being away from your family especially if you have to go overseas.
If you like to travel though it can be great. It is like a new family, and you will meet tons of new people.
It can be hard for you to focus on your career though. It just depends what you make of it. I has tons of great qualities but also lots of scary ones. You move about every 4 years but it isn't too bad once you get used to it. It never gets boring:) Get more info from:
www.milspouse.org
2007-11-29 19:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberly W 2 · 16⤊ 1⤋
It's a whole different world and it's important for you to understand it and be supportive for your husband to a success in the Army. Will you move a lot? Yep. You'll get to live in many different places and experience many different cultures. It's really a great experience for the kids too.
Go to the following website and click on Army Wife.
http://www.marriedtothearmy.com/
2007-11-29 19:36:49 · answer #7 · answered by mollyflan 6 · 19⤊ 4⤋
To tell you frankly, I don't have any idea because my husband is not from military. One thing I can tell you, if your fiance will be assigned to a combatant group, his life will always be in danger so I can assume that you will always be a little bit nervous. Good luck.
2007-11-29 22:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 15⤊ 49⤋