My wife throw away our precious wedding ring for 2 yrs. marriage?

Question

She is my second wife,i was just divorced before i marry her last year.We have a platinum wedding ring and my fault is i didn't wear during office time coz my colleagues knows I was just divorce to my ex-wife.So everytime i go back home i put on my finger to show i am wearing it BUT she find out that one day I didn't wear it then she become angry and upset.She give me a second chance if I will not wear it again she will throw away but unfortunately it happen again,so suddently she went to window to throw away,can not find anymore.I am very disappointed about her coz SHE DIDN'T VALUED OUR RING.Am I wrong to blame her of this matter?She break some of my belongings because of jealousy coz she saw the pictures of my language teacher and I on my pc.She break all the material like voice recorder of my teacher about my lesson.DOES SHE IS TOO MUCH?PLS. ADVICE ME.THANKS

Answer 1

She overreacted, but it appears that she values it more actually. There is no reason for you to take off your ring at work. If you only put it on at home, it seems as though you are ashamed. She's hurt and angry. She probably regrets what she did. You need to stop worrying about your PLATINUM ring and work on your marriage. The ring is a symbol, not the marriage. Please try to find marriage counseling immediately.

Answer 2

She was suppose to value your ring but you where embarrassed to have a wife? I think you are the wrong one here. She should not destroy your stuff and this I would not tolerate this from her. As for being jealous of the teacher, here you are married and will not wear a ring because you do not want anyone to know you are married. That is suspicious to any woman and I can understand her fury. You two need to have a serious talk and she might need some anger management.

Answer 3

Ah, the insecurities of a second wife. I'm afraid that if you want to stay married to this woman you are going to have to grovel. She is assuming that because you left your first wife for her (whether that is true or not) that a precedent has been set and you are not to be trusted.

You are going to have to SHOW her that you love her, probably several times a day and probably for the rest of your marriage.

The tantrums she is throwing is just her way of demonstrating her insecurities and also a way of manipulating you.

If you really can't handle the situation, please consider marriage counselling, for both of you. A third party can sometimes calm the situation down and an agreement can be made between the two of you to manage both of your behaviours.

Just remember the fault is NOT all her's, ask yourself why you are not willing to admit to the world that she is your wife, I understand the case for not wearing a ring for safety reasons at work, but this doesn't seem to be the case. Are you truly committed to your marriage?

Answer 4

I would be really offended if my husband didn't wear his ring... especially if he promised to and then STILL didn't wear it. Perhaps she didn't value the ring by throwing it out the window but sounds like you didn't value it either by not wearing it. Her attachment was sentimental, but you seem to just put a dollar value on it which is shallow and detached from how she viewed the value of the wedding rings. It wasn't very smart of her to throw it out the window but man... women have been throwing things out the window for decades... how many women throw their man's keys out the window after a fight?!?! It's just part of the man-woman antagonisms.

As for her jealousy... perhaps she has anger issues if she is breaking things etc? People do strange things in the throws of passion, but you need to draw the line somewhere. Throwing and breaking your posessions sounds like the tip of the ice-berg and she may have other mental/psychological issues that might surface later in your marriage. Perhaps you two can get some help, see a councellor or something? If you love her, make the effort and you should expect the same effort from her.

Answer 5

She didn't value the ring??? YOU didn't value what your ring represents because you were too ashamed to wear it.
She probably thinks you don't wear it when your not in the house because you want women to think your single.
Why would you be embarrased of being married again?
That is just wrong. You should want the whole world to know your married to her, not hide that fact away.

Sorry but you are totally in the wrong here, if I found out my husband was taking his ring off as to deny he was married to me (for whatever reason - being embarrased of being married to me or to look like he was available) I would have done worse than throwing my meaningless ring away.

You said,
"everytime i go back home i put on my finger to show i am wearing it" but that just shows that your NOT wearing it. Don't fool yourself into thinking that's ok.

I can't see how you think you could be even slightly in the right here & I feel sorry for your wife!

Answer 6

Not wearing the wedding ring was totally upsetting....you married her,why would you even care about what others gonna have to think and say?....but,breaking all your stuffs was a little bit too much....She's too jealous and don't trust you at all.....go find your ring again,or if you can't.. buy new one and come to apologise to her again,for the 3rd time....Hopefully,she would forgive you...I feel so sorry for you.. for having such kind of wife right now.....I just hope you will have more patience and never lose it in the future....

Answer 7

There is no excuse for not wearing your wedding ring. You lied to her and she is mad. You are acting like you are ashamed of her when you do not wear your ring. Are you trying to play single? It is you, not her, who did not value the ring.

You must not keep pictures of other women around when you are married - she is the queen of the house.

If you want to stay married, you must wear a wedding ring all the time, get rid of other women's pictures, do not flirt, or do porn, or cheat.

Also, you need to apologize sincerely, wear the ring or get another and introduce her as your wife to your colleagues at work as My Beloved Bride or Miss Universe - especially to the other women.

Joy to you!

Answer 8

Well your in trouble now. Shouldn't of taken your off the first place, it was your fault. Admit to her that you was wrong, even if you feel that it wasn't your fault. Just do it! What you can do is renew your vow and get a new ring. If it works out, then never take it off again. Woman are really touchy about this. Good thing she serious about it, show that she really care about the marriage. Just very piss off at you. Your a lucky guy to have a wife ilke that. Can't find a good wife these days.

Answer 9

She threw the ring away and it upset you, but perhaps she felt as though by not wearing your ring that you do not value it either. It doesn't sound like she is totally careless. Perhaps she is just spontaneous and gets dragged into her feelings. You have a right to be mad, but so did she.

Answer 10

Yes you are wrong. You didn't value your marriage. You put what others would think before your wife, and chose to pretend like you were single. If you really cared you would have worn your ring at all times.