Family & Relationships - 28 November 2007

My husband and I have been seperated since his mother came. She was domineering and tried to run the household. She said that since we didn't get her approval for our marriage (she said she was going to commit suicide) she would take that with her to her grave. She said that it had nothing to do with me, but with her son defying her. She said she'd never forgive him. That she'd die with that pain and anger in her heart and he'd have to live with that.

Well, when she left she took my wedding sari. To me that signaled her dismay over our marriage - despite her two beautiful grandsons. And, almost seven years of marriage. Then, I found other things missing - my jewellery. She admitted to the sari (silk with gold threads so it's very valuable) but not to the jewellery. The most expensive pair was my princess cut diamond earrings set in platinum. My husband had bought them for our first anniversary to match my wedding ring.

2007-11-28 14:48:17 · 24 answers · asked by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 in Marriage & Divorce

This guy went to college with me. He used to have a crush on me. I was not interested in him at first. However, he has been written 23 poems about me in the past 4 years. His peoms are very specific and only talk about ME. He posted all of them on his myspace.

I thought he was sincere and truely love me. I recently contact him. I asked him to stop sitting on the fence. I want him to make decision:
1.) If he loves me--we will be together.
2.) If he does not love me--I asked him to stop write poems about me.

He became so offensed about this. He lied that he has never written a poem about me. He claims I am a stalker. He asked me to leave him alone.

I was in shocked. I do not know what to say. What is his motivation? Is there any chances that I could ask anybody to help delete the poems he wrote about me.

He did not mention my name. However, he mention things that I have done to hurt his feelings in the past 4 years.

Thank you very much

2007-11-28 14:47:01 · 11 answers · asked by Hope 4 in Marriage & Divorce

why do I feel so depressed ? I am in search for a new job , a better paying job So I can move out of my abusive parents house.

I have 2 interviews coming up next week .But today I had this 2 day job ( inventory ) . When I got there it seemed like there is no work to do for more than 2 hours. The guy who came to open up the office floor went home after 30 minutes.

So it was just me sitting there looking outside at the mountains and listening to this " Overcoming social anxiety step by step " program .

But my Mp3 bacterry run out so I just kept looking outside . It got me thinking ( something which I tried to stop for a long while now)

and I started to think of different stuff. My car might go into reposession soon if i dn't pay them in 20 days.

When I came home I felt so depressed and lonely , I looked up my x-gf's online profile . and it got me even more thinking ..
I don't know why I did that. ( i have done it couple of times before knowing how much harm that can do )

2007-11-28 14:45:13 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-28 14:45:00 · 21 answers · asked by answers 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Ok, I'm a college student, and there's this girl in my Biology class. I was way too shy to talk to her up until Tuesday. I asked her what her name is and she told me. What does she think of me now? Will she feel comfortable talking to me now that took some initative? Will she feel weird if I didn't talk to her again? Ladies, your opinion please.

2007-11-28 14:43:40 · 8 answers · asked by ManlyFool 1 in Singles & Dating

I am not at all bad lookingf I am a DD ~
27inch waist , and really love him, but I am very hurt and very confused by this and would appreciate any advice that any could offer, should I leave him,?? I need to mention that he was my highscool sweetheart anf after a 24 yr marriage found this one and all my old feelings came back but I did not know that this way a problem until after the fact...it really hurts me badly...does anyonbe know if I should leave him or ask him to go to marriage counseling..can this marriage be saved...Oh and he has gone from porn on DVD to looking for female escorts in the Tampa area ( our area!) He hasb't gone to an escort yet that I do know for sure but he has looked more than once...Help me!!

2007-11-28 14:43:30 · 20 answers · asked by Karen G 1 in Marriage & Divorce

heres the story. Theres a chick I knew from High School that is going to college now. Before she left for college we were just friends and she wanted more, but she was going to college, so we got in a huge fight. In a nutshell, she hated me for a long time. I look on my facebook one day and she befriended me. I said yes and before I knew it I was hanging out with her. To my suprise, i really think I'm falling for her. We made out twice or so and after the second time she said that it wouldnt ever work. But after that she kind of implied that we could get together and the problems that we're having now arent a big deal. I hung out with her yesterday. I dont want her to think im desperate or anything, so should I call her, or should I wait a couple days?

2007-11-28 14:43:17 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I think it would be VERY nasty to just go to bed after sex?! What you think.

2007-11-28 14:42:19 · 1 answers · asked by ipod 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

For example: Nothing seems to be going right.. Your family abandoned you or they're not there. Not being accepted for who you are. Your friends are fake. You can't trust anyone. You feel alone. You have a dead end job. Your self-esteem is low. You're worried. You're boyfriend is cheating on you. You're crush turned you down. What do you do when all the bad things started happening all at ones???????!!!

2007-11-28 14:41:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

i am going out with this guy. we hav been going out for a month and i just started to get acne. (i am in 8th grade) and i am so self consicous i have no confidence in myself (even b4 the acne) and i was wondering is he mad that i hav zits like does it bother him will he break up with me guys i need ur help wat would u do..???

2007-11-28 14:40:35 · 32 answers · asked by jenny m 3 in Singles & Dating

Well my mom and dad divorced when I was 12, and me being an only child, they just decided to sort of "divide" me between the two of them and that's fine.
Well just recently I moved out, (I'm 19 now) and my mom calls me every single day angry that I stayed up late and didn't tell her where I was going etc....
and then I remind her that I moved out.
Well the other day, I went to see her, and all of a sudden she started crying and screaming that Satan was going to take my soul and make me eat filth for all eternity, and that he was telling her that he would burn me with the rest of the homosexual athiests, (whatever this means)
I told my dad, and he admitted that the reason they had gotten a divorce in the first place was because mom claimed her guardian angel told her to, or she would go to hell.
So I'm kind of scared that she'll hurt herself. I've never seen her like this before. How should I act around her? im confused.

2007-11-28 14:39:49 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

should i be concerned that my dad hates my new boyfriend?

2007-11-28 14:39:15 · 35 answers · asked by bluenecklace 2 in Family

will i date this guy for 2 years and It we always have prombles little prombles like why i came late? But this time we really had a bad horrible fight , we start fighting about why did i sleep in my friend's house (boy who is a friend) will what should i do!!!

2007-11-28 14:38:07 · 28 answers · asked by Samantha 1 in Marriage & Divorce

The thing is...I have a thing for her other friend but shes very close with this best friend shes trying to set me up with and I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but I want her to set me up with the other guy!

2007-11-28 14:36:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We have been dating for 2 years. We have always been fighters and then lovers, but I just can't take the fighting anymore. I don't know if we should break up or not. Our good times are really great, I'm pretty sure we will be albe to remain friends, in a year and a half I'll be traveling around the world, and a long distance relationship does not sound appealing. Thus, I'm wondering if a break might do us good now, maybe strengthen us maybe not, but I don't have any experience in taking a break during the relationship. 1 day, 2 days, few weeks??? Any advice is appreciated.

2007-11-28 14:34:37 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Funny title...right?
Last year my mom bought my little brother and I jackets, and she knows I don't like the ugly yellow of them and that one is too big for me, the other...too small. I think we should just give them away in a coat drive at our Parish.

My dad is a C.E.O, so we have money. He spoils my little brother-but knows if it-and my older half sister-we only share the same father- and she has nice things (her mother doesn't work.) I...I'm the one who doesn't ask for much, and I'm scared to ever ask for anything because I'm afraid of getting the answer "no."

I use my northface, it's thin and a tad bit small, and I want a warm jacket for the winter! My mom is telling me to just use one of the ones she got last year--she wouldn't wear ANYTHING that ugly--so I don't know why she expects me to wear them. My little brother didn't like them either, so he got a big warm jacket. Why can't I just ask my dad? I'm scared to ask him for a (TBC...)

2007-11-28 14:31:04 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i worked a mc donalds and i had bad experieces there, my sister is working there but im jobless, i really dont want to go back but my aunt is pressuring me, what should i do

2007-11-28 14:30:24 · 8 answers · asked by TaAla J 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Do you know any things to say, or do. Whatever you got is good.

2007-11-28 14:29:48 · 3 answers · asked by [quarantine] 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-28 14:28:13 · 2 answers · asked by sassy 1 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

My husband is a very depressed, angry person who refuses counseling and has rages 3 or 4 times a week where he throws things, kicks things, curses and screams about how he hates his life. Most of his problems he says comes from working and then coming home to a messy house. This just isn't fair that he says that, because he will literally throw things all over the house, or trash the kitchen and just leave it. I try as hard as I can to get it cleaned up but I just can't. I have a 2 year old son in all of this, and I am almost 7 months pregnant again (it was an unplanned pregnancy). Anyway, I want to separate until he gets some form of counseling but I'm afraid of what he may do. He has told me that I "won't get 10 steps out the door with his son" and has cancelled my debit and credit cards once when he thought I had left. I live 15 hours from family and friends, but I can drive it if I need to. All of our accounts are under both our names, even my cell account, and he's not above....

2007-11-28 14:26:44 · 15 answers · asked by Michelle R 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Just got dumped, for the first time in a long time. Most of the ends of my relationships happen the other way around, but when I have gotten dumped in the past it has always been for the same reason. "too sweet", "too good for me", or my favorite, and the case this time, "too good to be true" I have spent most of my romantic life trying to be the best man I can be: I'm loyal, open, caring, thoughtful, kind, and supportive. Most of the time it ends because I get tired of being taken advantage of, but then there are cases like these.
I've made my choice regarding the man I want to be, and won't become a manipulative *** just to get laid, so don't recommend the "stop being so nice." I just want to know why, and when, it became the norm for women to not want a man like me in their lives...

I'm guessing that she has self-esteem issues so that she can't accept that I could actually be so good to her, or that she doesn't deserve such treatment, but I'm at my wit's end...

2007-11-28 14:21:09 · 27 answers · asked by confus-ed57 1 in Singles & Dating

She already doesn't think very highly of him, but it is getting better, and I don't want this to ruin it. He cannot come due to a black belt test in tae kwon do which he has been working on for 4 years...and it's my birthday trip

2007-11-28 14:16:44 · 3 answers · asked by danceandcheer14 1 in Family

PERVS

2007-11-28 14:16:17 · 2 answers · asked by philldillmill 1 in Singles & Dating

i like to make my own judgement on people instead of listening to what other people have to say. i believe my uncle is a freeloader. i try not to listen to how my relatives blow it out of proportion, but i see what I see. he came back to my hometown after almost a decade with his family and ended up moving moving into my grandmother's house. no rent paying, no phone bill paying. when asked for money, he always seems to be out of money. he charges my own mom for doing her favors. i'm a grown man and find that if i have a job and watch what i spend i'll have money. would there be a reason as to why my uncle never seems to have any money, or is he just milking this whole family thing until it's dry?

2007-11-28 14:15:44 · 3 answers · asked by ilm03 2 in Family

what will u guys do if
1.only 5 times a month {sex} and if you're not lucky 3 times in a WHOLE MONTH WILL U WAIT TO GET MARRIED in 5-6months how should u tell you're boyfriend so he woun't think bad ..no sex cause theirs family in the house?this past month only 2 were almost on december...in a relationship of 4 years together.

2007-11-28 14:15:18 · 6 answers · asked by Crystal A 1 in Singles & Dating

well i feel like i got alot to say, but i don't think i got any REAL friends to speak my mind to and if i just start talking to someoen and say this all they may see me as fragile or insane or see the real me and im knowed a as tought guy takes no crap from anyone.
what do u think i should do

2007-11-28 14:14:16 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I looked on victoria's secret and they have a better selection of coats than Nordstroms...kind of stumbled upon it. Here are some of the ones I am considering

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dress in case you missed the last post
http://www.maggiesottero.com/dress.aspx?keywordText=monterey&keywordType=any&page=0&pageSize=8&style=J916

any thoughts? honest opinions appreciated. suggestions appreciated too.

2007-11-28 14:09:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

My soon to be ex and i agreed that we just cant live together anymore. Its a 'nice' divorce, no hatred or bitterness, in fact, we still love each other, we just dont work well together anymore. But we cant seem to let each other go. we still say 'i love you' at the end of our phone conversations, we are still intimate when we see each other, we still talk about the whole soul mate thing and if we're meant to be together, we will find our way back to each other. This is so strange to me. Do people do this when they divorce? And pls dont say we might as well stay married, THAT IS NOT AN OPTION, too much damage in the marriage and a long history of it. I just want to let him go alltogether. I feel like if we stay like this, i'll never move on with anyone else, i'll always feel obligated to him. how do i let go and convince him to let go as well?

2007-11-28 14:07:38 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I work with all men and one other lady, and I know I asked about what not to wear to work, but the truth is that I'm 26 and single and want sexual attention. Is that hormones or singleness lol?

2007-11-28 14:06:59 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Hey look so check it out, one of my brother wont' talk to me cause my parents getting divorced and I want to live with my Mom instead of my Dad. And I've tried talking to him before but it's impossible. He lives in FL and he doesn't answer my phone calls, or returns them. What can I do?

2007-11-28 14:06:43 · 4 answers · asked by LC 1 in Family