This guy went to college with me. He used to have a crush on me. I was not interested in him at first. However, he has been written 23 poems about me in the past 4 years. His peoms are very specific and only talk about ME. He posted all of them on his myspace.
I thought he was sincere and truely love me. I recently contact him. I asked him to stop sitting on the fence. I want him to make decision:
1.) If he loves me--we will be together.
2.) If he does not love me--I asked him to stop write poems about me.
He became so offensed about this. He lied that he has never written a poem about me. He claims I am a stalker. He asked me to leave him alone.
I was in shocked. I do not know what to say. What is his motivation? Is there any chances that I could ask anybody to help delete the poems he wrote about me.
He did not mention my name. However, he mention things that I have done to hurt his feelings in the past 4 years.
Thank you very much
2007-11-28 14:47:01 · 11 answers · asked by Hope 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You ruined his illusion of you and now he hates you. So move on already!
2007-11-28 14:57:51 · answer #1 · answered by G Money 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to be very-cautions, about how you approach this situation. Does he know your phone #, your address???
Tell him you are sorry, if you offended him, that you are overwhelmed by his sweetness. You appreicate his poems, but he needs to focus on someone else, that you have moved on, and that you wish him the best, life can give him. Ask him nicely, if he would mind removing the poems. You must deal with this, in a nice manner, not a mean way. Niceness will get you further, without hurting his feelings. Nowadays, you never what frame of mind another person is in.
2007-11-28 15:34:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe the guy is extremely shy or just not willing to admith that you are his dream. I would back off for awhile then see what happens. If he continues to write poems try to write a poem about how this guy is running around the facts. I don't think you are the stalker here.
2007-11-28 15:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by mamab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a little game of revenge. If he was mentioning hurtful things you had done to him in the past then it shows that he hasn't fully recovered from it. The only way to get you back was to sort of reel you in with all the sweet poems and when he thought that you were falling for it, he figured it would be a good way to hurt you back by lying about it all. Just move on... someone who is willing to play games like these isnt' worth your time to begin with. Good Luck!
2007-11-28 14:56:31 · answer #4 · answered by = )~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you guy is a little crazy.
i don't know whats going through his, mind it seems like were not even human comparatively. Its probably cause we 2 totally different characters. I don't know, maybe if i knew him better I wouldn't be so quick, but the way you describe him makes him sound like one of those people who stalks you when you break up with him. I would steer Clear of him. If he really likes you, which it sounds like he does, he'll come back and say sorry. But if he is crazy, he might try an pull something funky, IE rape or kill you...or just follow you, and it'll get freaky. I don't understand why he would accuse you of thing you haven't done, that what worries me. i would steer clear of things, because if not anything else, you relationship is severed. He is mad at you, you are confused and probably mad, if not you probably will be.
Idk, there is a variety of answers, you should ask him to stop writing about you, it what makes him...him... If you were to date him then you would be dating someone you conformed, not naturally fitted with.
I don't know, i would be freak if someone wrote stuff about me. So I can see why you would want him to stop, but I just think you should take a 'direct flight out of his city'
2007-11-28 14:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by CheeyoDeeyo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is there any possibility that the poems were generic enough that you misconstrued them? Maybe they are about some other woman. Unless he used your name specifically in the poetry, he probably won't have to delete them. He did deny that they were about you.. I would leave him alone. Anyone who told me I was a stalker wouldn't be worth my time of day. You can do way better.
2007-11-28 14:56:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds extremely bipolar. I don't think you can delete the poems without his consent or password :-) However, I would just delete him and move on with your life. Yikes.
2007-11-28 14:51:04 · answer #7 · answered by Just Tryin' to Help 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
that happened to me before. they dont use your name but they use situations that happened and you know its referring to you...he drove me up a wall and i knew he was talking **** on me too, but i found the more you try to get him to stop the more he does it...finally what i did was sent him a message saying that his behavior was immature and he should be embarrassed to call himself an adult and to get over it because he was making himself look like a bitter and desperate ***. then i just forgot he ever existed. stand up for yourself and be done with him! good luck :)
2007-11-28 15:00:21 · answer #8 · answered by Em-lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My great advice is if you have feelings for him ask him privately is he likes you and this is his last chance to admit it before you move on, or just forget it and move on anyway.
2007-11-28 15:00:38 · answer #9 · answered by yullllllllllllllllllllllllllllle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that these poems were never really about you?
2007-11-28 15:34:22 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋