Family & Relationships - 18 October 2007

My husband lies to me, it's never anything really huge, but it is affecting my trust. He says that his ex calls him to go out for a beer, but he called her...little things like this, he started a fake email address, when I asked, he lied. I catch him and then he tells me truth (I think). I don't think that I can trust him anymore, I'm losing respect for him, and it's like I am waiting for him to screw up again. When someone lies about the little things, is that warning signals for the future? We've only been married 2 years, no kids.

2007-10-18 04:18:54 · 40 answers · asked by Earth 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My girlfriend (19) was visiting her sister(23) and her roommates a few weeks ago. They occasionally play argue, and were calling names and such while chatting with the two roommates. My girl was lying on the floor and easily threw a small weighted ball onto the couch at her sister. Her sis threw it back and hit my girl in the tummy. She threw it back harder at her sister, hititng her this time. Her sis then jumped up and kicked her hard in the stomach. My girl has a very strong belly, but she said the kick was high just below the ribs and knocked the wind out of her. She wanted to chase after her sis and finish the fight, but she said she could not uncurl from holding her belly for a full minute. An hour later when she left, she could still feel the heel in the pit of her stomach.

Both are from a peaceful, loving home. They get along quite well. Is this normal for girls, especially sisters?

I am shocked she hurt her so badly! She usually has such strong abs... http://i72.photobucket.com/albums/i175/gsc_floydfan/Image044.jpg

2007-10-18 04:15:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

do ya think girls with sort hair are attractive if so why


of course i do!!

2007-10-18 04:12:51 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband and I have been happily married for over 21 years, but my mother-in-law truly hates me.

Believe me, I have tried and tried, but this woman truly hates me with a vengeance and has never made a secret of her feelings and unfortunately, her behavior hurts my husband more than me.

Sadly, she is very ill now at 87 years old, and in her final days.

I go to the hospital with my husband, but I stay in the waiting area, and that causes problems with my husband's family, even though they know about their mother's hatred towards me.

My husband has always supported me and we've thrived and survived through so much turmoil.

I don't know what to do.

I would like to say farewell to her but I don't think she would like to see me in her final hours.

What would you do?

I would think when a person is dying that they would set aside hate, but I don't think that she has and I am fearful of seeing her now because I do not want to upset her further.

What would you do?

2007-10-18 04:00:47 · 33 answers · asked by ghostwriter 7 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-18 03:58:44 · 6 answers · asked by melissa p 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-18 03:56:09 · 39 answers · asked by Kristen 1 in Singles & Dating

1993 1st son was born
1995 approved for disability, i could finally pay my bills
2007 2nd son was born
2004 met the love of my life-- Monte
all my life my mom was my best friend

2007-10-18 03:51:45 · 12 answers · asked by Buff Me 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

I have full custody of my daughter. The court visitation schedule says my ex is supposed to pick her up every two weeks on Fridays at 1800. He doesn't want to get her until Saturdays at 0900, which I have allowed for her benefit. My daughter now wants to participate in cheerleading from 0900-1000 on Saturday mornings. Her father refuses to support that and says he will be there to get her at 0900 and will call the police if she's not there. My daughter says she doesn't want to go with him if he won't come later. She sees how unfair he is and how he uses her to get back at me for leaving him. She's 8, but she's not blind or stupid. I feel like it should be up to her in this case. She doesn't do a lot of extra activities and I think parents should be supportive of their kids. What should I do? Do I tell her she can't participate in the activity and she has to go with her dad, or do I tell her to make the decision about what she wants to do this time?

2007-10-18 03:51:32 · 4 answers · asked by okieinitaly 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Example if it costs the bride and groom $50 pp and you bring a guest to the reception should your wedding gift be no less than $100

2007-10-18 03:47:35 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

She doesn't want her husband to see the credit card bill and be mad at her. I refused. I don't want to give my credit card information to a sales who I don't even know. She said "fine, I won't force you if you don't want". Then she acts weird around me and against my opinion on work all the time. What should I do? Talk with her? I don't' think I did anything wrong.

2007-10-18 03:46:59 · 9 answers · asked by hsingyu 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Yesterday I asked my boyfriend to marry me but he said no because he didn't see his life going in that direction right now. We've been together for 3 years and we practically live together. So I don't understand it! Should I just try to get him to change his mind or leave him and find someone who will marry me?

2007-10-18 03:44:43 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok, I've heard all of the "jealousy, it'll ruin your marriage" stuff, but I still want one! My husband has a friend that is just adorable & I fantisize about him and my husband in bed with me. My husbands up for it & his friend is single. I wouldnt mind having a threesome with a girl either. What do you think?

2007-10-18 03:44:11 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I met this one of a kind girl that I will meet no greater than her!!! she head over heels for me she says i am special. when she smiles i smile, we be on the phone for hours as computer as well !!!The problem is she lives 3 to 4 hours away!!! I am not the type to be with a girl from long distance never did this before cause the majority of long distance never works out. I need advise an suggestions in how to deal and make it work

P.s. we are not together yet!!!

2007-10-18 03:43:59 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

it's been 10yrs already when i found out that my husband cheated me...and he told me face to face that he loves "her" more than he loves me.After then,i don't even mention the name of that "girl" or even the whole story until now.But it really hurts!Really!Pls need your help.

2007-10-18 03:43:29 · 14 answers · asked by magic 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i hired a photographer for my wedding and he did not take any of the important pictures. he told me he dident take pictures of my family because he might not have liked how they looked at the time. he did not post any photos of my dad giving me away even though i have the picture, of him taking a picture. i had him for 6 hours and all my photos are of the same things. he got more of other people than me and my husband. he admitted he found some photos and sent me two but he calims he has no other ones. how can he take pictures for 6 hours and have over a 100 of the same photos. what are they surpose to take pictures of? he took pictures of my bridesmaid with out a head just her holding flowers.... is that normal? any photographers out there know of this is right?

2007-10-18 03:40:11 · 11 answers · asked by littlecutie232003 1 in Weddings

Very married and very interested in me, Came on strong, I was very flattered and flirted back but just a bit cuz also married, going on for some time, saw him out with his wife and me with my husband, ignored each other, time went on same, now the spark is out of his eyes and he almost hides from me. When he talks to me he makes sure he mentions his wife and kids, well thats great. I know its a good thing cuz maybe turned into something, but just curious what the hell is he doing now? He's the one who used to do everything to get my attention , even told me he wanted to take me out of town (kidding of course), but still I thought it was a real forward gesture. Why is he acting this way? Now I almost feel like a fool around him and it was NEVER me it was HIM!!!!!!!

2007-10-18 03:38:59 · 32 answers · asked by Maria 5 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-18 03:38:08 · 20 answers · asked by CC747 1 in Weddings

2007-10-18 03:36:38 · 5 answers · asked by mishel_layman 2 in Marriage & Divorce

before my husband went out of the country to work, his family don't even care about us.But since my husband went out to work, his brother, mother and sister keeps on asking money from us (always in thousands). There is always conspiracy, story and drama between the three of them everytime they will ask money from us so that my husband will give in to their request which results to our fighting..coz i feel that they are abusing us already.We already gave capital for the brother to have business many times but nothing happens.He's the laziest person i've ever seen..he and his wife doesn't have work.they have all the (invalid) reasons for not working.they just depend on his mother and from us.how can i make my husband realized this situation?his family is taking advantage of us.he told me that he will not tell me anymore if he will give money to his family so that we will not fight.is it right?he's just tolerating his brother's laziness.pls. help.

2007-10-18 03:34:51 · 7 answers · asked by Tiffany 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Okay, so I like this guy a lot. And he gives me mixed signals. It comes down to the fact, I've figured, that maybe he only contacts me when HE feels like it. One day he acts like I'm his girl...he doesn't want me going on dates with other guys, but then I don't hear from him for 1-2 days. What should I do? Should I just quit talking texting him? What's going to happen when I do this? How can I know that when he contacts me again and I don't respond, that he really wants me back and not just because I'm not responding? Help out please.

2007-10-18 03:33:43 · 8 answers · asked by ? 6 in Singles & Dating

my wife is a good wife some time she act funny.(ladies only)If your husband tring but you in a home,tring hold to a job,tring make sure kids got everything they need.but when dodo goes down the hill because everything is not perfect she flips on me.I love her and my 2 boys but how can calm my wife down when stuff happen.

2007-10-18 03:32:32 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I think he has been flirting with me. But so far, that's all he does (trying to hug me, asking me to hand shake for no reasons, winks one eye to me), etc. What can I do to encourage him to be brave enough to ask me for a date?

2007-10-18 03:30:29 · 11 answers · asked by questioning 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-18 03:28:36 · 26 answers · asked by jesse m_violated for nothing 3 in Singles & Dating

This is what garwy does on spark notes.

I received an e-mail from a teenager saying that he had "ruined her life", he'd lured her with poetry (the sexiest thing you can do with a girl" garwy), flattery and attention, then turned on her calling her "fat, stupid and ugly", when she rejected him.

He held the sn meets at his house, and plied young girls with drink. is partner was complicit in this (why?). he had already asked another 15 year old to his house, "as soon as she was 16. - he's careful not to overtly break the law.

I challenged him and he blustered, saying she'd be a good poet if she had sex with him.

He also sent me a pornographic account of an affair he had with a 17 year old student at the college he works at.

And the nude photos.

I was horrified.

http://www.encyclopediadramatica.com/index.php/Garwy

now he viciously attacks me and the girl who reported him to the eds on the sn site.

(his account was deleted, but he's back)

Was I right?

2007-10-18 03:28:19 · 23 answers · asked by catrin l 7 in Other - Family & Relationships

I told my mom that I can’t keep paying all the rent and the late charges. I told her I can pay $650 a month (which is MORE THAN HALF) & that’s it because I can’t keep giving 95% of my salary to rent and not pay my own personal bills & take care of myself. She didn’t respond (this was over im) so I called her & she would not pick up the phone. She was like the issue w/ her & my sister’s dad is none of my business (but yet she is telling me that he is going to buy a new Ford F250), I’m like if he has money for that, then he has money to give you more child support (he makes of 200k a yr). So in essence she was telling me to mind my business, that the situation w/ her & my sister’s dad is none of my business. She also said that until last year she was paying the majority of the bills. I said that’s true but still 95% of what I made was going to those bills so for me, I don’t see me getting a break. No my mom is not on drugs or alcohol. I make after taxes a little over $1400 a month & 1300 of it is going to rent & feeding her & my sis. I barely have enough for transit to work & school, and I owe the school like $350 and if I don’t pay they wont let me register for Jan classes. What should I do? Am I right to pay only $650 or should I just keep giving her my entire salary?

2007-10-18 03:27:31 · 6 answers · asked by CollegeDropIN 2 in Family

he was quiet and he listened to the whole story...then after like 15 mins he said he didnt know what to say or do cuz he has never come across an arranged marriage and doesnt know how they work...he did say that he wants to meet my dad and talk with him...but it bothered me that he wasnt more supportive.
could he be this way really cuz he doesnt know how arr marriages work or could it be lack of interest?

2007-10-18 03:27:03 · 23 answers · asked by kera 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i dont know how to deal whit this my boyfriend is looked up and i dont kow how to tell my kids were he is what shoul i do its hard to do it on my own.

2007-10-18 03:25:57 · 22 answers · asked by alasey05 1 in Friends

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and he endup up getting one of his best friends pregnant, right before we met. They have known each other since 1994, they went to highschool together in Maryland, he now lives in Philadelphia. Do you think its normal for them to love each other. She sometimes sends him text messages saying "I luv u", "I miss u" or "we love u" (meaning her and their son). I don't know what to think. He tells me that, of course he loves her, they are best friends. What do i do?

2007-10-18 03:24:55 · 14 answers · asked by Gi952 1 in Marriage & Divorce

She filed for a simple divorce and she did not want any money. She can get a half of matrimonial home but she didn’t want it for now (she can claim it up to 2 years after divorce) I had 30 days to disagree and file an answer with the court. On 29th days I went to the court and I checked the court copy and I was shocked:
On the court copy she mentioned the reason for filing the divorce: Abuse and control
On the copy she gave me she mentioned: irreconcilable differences

I could easily get a lawyer and accuse her to fraud but I did not, I am not a fighter. I called her and told her what I saw, she said: I made a mistake; I gave the wrong copy to the court. I asked her to show me the Original. She said: we will go to the court together tomorrow and fix it. Next morning I asked her what time we will meet in the court she became angry and screamed at me: I am not self employed like you! I have to go to work and then ask my manager and come, I will give you a call. After 2 hours, I called her at work and realized she never went to her office that morning! She went to the court from home and asked the court clerk to switch the papers!
I talked to the clerk in the court later and she said she made a mistake and she should have checked the documents more carefully…

It is about a month that she wants to find an apartment but she procrastinates. She has a good job (she has a master degree) and can afford moving to another place. She is a control freak, do not trust me and does not believe in family counseling! We went to a counselor and she calls her a shrink and after 2 sessions she refused to come. She told me she is making the situation worst. She has called her and threatened the doctor that leave 2 of us alone (controlling issues).I saw some notes that she is writing for the counselor: her conditions to continue this marriage! I was living in hell for a year and a half and now she want to add more conditions. After all these, she still wants to come back! When she gets angry, she says bad things about my family…

What is the best way to get this woman out of my life? I do not want to fight. I think there should be a way to ask her to leave the house and after that tell her that it is better that we proceed with the divorce file.

2007-10-18 03:24:40 · 12 answers · asked by mazyar m 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have my ideas (been married for 11 years) but what are your three most important elements to make a lasting marriage successful?

2007-10-18 03:23:55 · 22 answers · asked by theCATALYST 5 in Marriage & Divorce