She filed for a simple divorce and she did not want any money. She can get a half of matrimonial home but she didn’t want it for now (she can claim it up to 2 years after divorce) I had 30 days to disagree and file an answer with the court. On 29th days I went to the court and I checked the court copy and I was shocked:
On the court copy she mentioned the reason for filing the divorce: Abuse and control
On the copy she gave me she mentioned: irreconcilable differences
I could easily get a lawyer and accuse her to fraud but I did not, I am not a fighter. I called her and told her what I saw, she said: I made a mistake; I gave the wrong copy to the court. I asked her to show me the Original. She said: we will go to the court together tomorrow and fix it. Next morning I asked her what time we will meet in the court she became angry and screamed at me: I am not self employed like you! I have to go to work and then ask my manager and come, I will give you a call. After 2 hours, I called her at work and realized she never went to her office that morning! She went to the court from home and asked the court clerk to switch the papers!
I talked to the clerk in the court later and she said she made a mistake and she should have checked the documents more carefully…
It is about a month that she wants to find an apartment but she procrastinates. She has a good job (she has a master degree) and can afford moving to another place. She is a control freak, do not trust me and does not believe in family counseling! We went to a counselor and she calls her a shrink and after 2 sessions she refused to come. She told me she is making the situation worst. She has called her and threatened the doctor that leave 2 of us alone (controlling issues).I saw some notes that she is writing for the counselor: her conditions to continue this marriage! I was living in hell for a year and a half and now she want to add more conditions. After all these, she still wants to come back! When she gets angry, she says bad things about my family…
What is the best way to get this woman out of my life? I do not want to fight. I think there should be a way to ask her to leave the house and after that tell her that it is better that we proceed with the divorce file.
2007-10-18 03:24:40 · 12 answers · asked by mazyar m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you think the marriage is over and there is no way it can be salvage, then move on!
Don't listen to what she says, and don't take her word on the conditions of your divorce. If you can I would hire a lawyer and get her out of the house. She says she don't want it, then have your attorney file papers to remove her out of the house. That is the only way to handle this situation. Because she will continue to play games with you until she gets what she wants.
Good luck!
2007-10-18 03:44:16 · answer #1 · answered by Victorian_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must have a lawyer behind her. See, if she leaves the house, then that shows the courts that she is not interested in it at all and therefore gives up her half. At least that is what my lawyer told me when I was going through the same thing. So you might as well give up on thinking she is going to leave the nest egg. She is smart. She is playing you and its working. You best learn how to fight and get mad and want to fight or be willing to lose everything. Just get a lawyer and don't be played with.
2007-10-18 10:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by Fergy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move in with a buddy until the divorce is final. You don't need to ruin your life with this type of woman any longer. Just do what you can to stay away from her. Run bro, Run as fast as you can away from her. You've lived under the hands of slavery long enough. Go out and start living your life the way you want.
2007-10-18 10:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by level_9yo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the divorce. the court will decide who gets what. Make sure you are there. Don't listen to her to tell you when to show up.You could always ask for a restraining order while you are in court.Then, move on. If she causes problems, call the police and have your divorce decree in your hand to show the facts.
2007-10-18 10:33:40 · answer #4 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set a divorce date, then move on! She sounds as though she has mental issues and should have them dealt with. Stay clear of her! shes crazy in the head. Cocoa
2007-10-18 10:33:07 · answer #5 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her. Thats the easiest way. She filed for divorce... not you. But tell her that you think that its best to continue with it and if things work out later than you can deal with it then.
2007-10-18 10:37:06 · answer #6 · answered by crazyworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her, you filed for divorce so when are you leaving? Tell her to give you a date. Also, talk to your lawyer.
2007-10-18 10:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by Shari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you needed to file on abuse and control
2007-10-18 10:35:16 · answer #8 · answered by wes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer!
2007-10-18 10:33:21 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you posted this before?
2007-10-18 10:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋