what if you 15 and a guy is 20 what is so wrong with that how do you make your parents understand?

Answer 1

personally, that is only 5 years apart and i see no disgusting crime there at all. It makes me so mad how a girl can send a guy to prison for consentual sex when she's 16 he's 19. or 15 and 20. if its consentual its consentual!!!! ya, it gets grose when he's pushing 40, but if a 16 year old girl is willing- and nowadays they are- she is part of it too. our justice system is screwed up.

Answer 2

The age difference of 5 years is OK, it's the timing that's wrong.

First of all, it's against the law for the couple to be intimate. You don't want your guy to go to prison, do you? If you really love him, the two of you should wait until you are at a legal age before getting too close.

Second, you are not in the same maturity level as the 20 year old guy, which will cause issues at some point in the future. Do you really want to date him for 2-3 months and then have a bad break up?

Your parents are good parents. They are concerned about your well being. You will not understand them now, but you will when you have your own teenage son/daughter.

The best thing you can do now is to ask your parents to have an open, calm discussion with you. Ask them to tell you why they're against the relationship. Then it's your turn to tell them why you like the guy. Ask for their advice as to what you can do since you really like the guy and will feel devastated if you have to break up with him.

Good luck.

Answer 3

If I were a parent, I would be wary of letting my daughter go out with a guy who is 20. First, he is obviously going to have a lot more relationship experience than she. 5 years isn't a huge difference, but when you are in high school, and he's been out for (2) years, then it makes a difference.
On the other hand, I have dated someone 8 years older than me, but I was not in high school. It's not so much the age, because when you are 20 and he is 25, that will be no problem...

Answer 4

so people say age isnt a number...well YOUR PARENTS will NEVER understand because if a 20 year old is with a 15 year old there is only one thing on that boys mind, and it equals a baby an then your screwed until the baby grows up. Your life has to be put on hold because that has to be most important. Dont you think that if he really cared about you he would wait until you were old enough. That in my opinion is disgusting. I have a 15 year old sister and i wouldnt want that for her.

Answer 5

There is absolutely nothing wrong dating someone 5 years older, but then I ask myself, what is a 15 year old doing with a 20 year old. You are the only one that can answer that..... but try to understand what your parents must be thinking. I'll tell you what they are thinking............... our girl having sex, unwanted pregnancies, sexually trasmitted deseases, neglecting your studies, your emotional well being etc etc. And if they want, they can accuse him of statutory rape and send him to prison. It is against the law to have relations with minors.

Answer 6

It's difficult for your parents because of the age and maturity difference. Plus, and I'm not saying he is, a lot of times older men date younger women to take advantage of them. (This is just what could be going through their minds.) If you two really care about each other wait a couple years. You're young still, so don't settle with just one guy. But, as I said, if you care about him and think it will last wait two years or more and see what happens. And I really don't think you can make your parents understand. I'm only a couple years older than you so hopefully I can relate more than others. Hope this helped.

Answer 7

Listen, you are going to hate me for saying this, but it's actually illegal for him to have sexual contact with you, and I know that most likely, someday, you will want that but you don't want to get him in trouble, do you?
Your parents are only trying to look out for you, and if you don't believe me then try this. When I was 13, I tried going out with a 16 year old. He is now 17, and I never dated him b/c I knew that if I really cared that much about him, I wouldn't get him into trouble. Besides, if it's really meant to be, then just wait a little bit and try it again later.
I really hope things work out for the best for you though!

Answer 8

15 is still a child. If my daughter ever comes home with a guy at 15 (ESPECIALLY if he's 5 years older than her), I'll have a shotgun in my hands. There's only ONE thing a 20 year old guy wants from a female...and to try and get that from a child is sick.

Answer 9

from experience its really hard making your parents understand.

when i met my current bf i was 16 he was 21 a bit older than you but my parents werent too keen mainly because they wanted me to focus on school and stuff and the agendas of my bf. when people see such a huge gap they think 'craddle robber' but my bf was patient enough to wait until i was ready. he doesnt have kids or anything like that. i'm 21 now and have recently broke it to my parents that we had stayed together and still going strong, theres not a lot they can do about it now that i am of age. what most important is that he treats you right and you can be yourself.

Answer 10

Trust me... when you are 20 yrs old and a little wiser when you see another 20 yr old guy dating a 15 yr old girl you will think he is a complete loser and a sleezebag. Haven't you wondered why he isn't dating someone more is own age. He is targetting a minor because it's easy. Stay away from this creep.