Very married and very interested in me, Came on strong, I was very flattered and flirted back but just a bit cuz also married, going on for some time, saw him out with his wife and me with my husband, ignored each other, time went on same, now the spark is out of his eyes and he almost hides from me. When he talks to me he makes sure he mentions his wife and kids, well thats great. I know its a good thing cuz maybe turned into something, but just curious what the hell is he doing now? He's the one who used to do everything to get my attention , even told me he wanted to take me out of town (kidding of course), but still I thought it was a real forward gesture. Why is he acting this way? Now I almost feel like a fool around him and it was NEVER me it was HIM!!!!!!!
2007-10-18
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When you saw him out with his wife... There was a turning point.
Either he realized that his wife is a better match for him than you. Or, he was in an "honesty" mood, and told her that he had a crush on you.. and she set him straight.
Best thing to do... Start a flirtacious relationship with someone else in the office, visibly - so he can see it.
Wear sexy clothes, and go "out for drinks" with the other guy.
Write the current guy off, and make it a point to let him know what he potentially missed out on.
You may never get satisfaction. But, in my opinion, you can rest assured that it will drive him crazy for a long time, not knowing what he missed out on.
2007-10-18 03:46:11
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answered by Badspe11er 3
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Don't take this so personally! This is a good thing. He realized how much he loves his family, that is all. Tell him that there is no hard feelings between you and him and that it is ok to say Hi every once and a while.. Don't ever get involved with someone you work with, because if things go south, you still have to work together... Love your husband and your life with him. Whatever you do stay true to the one you vowed before god to love forever. Don't let your flesh dictate what you know in your heart is wrong. It's not worth the guilt you would have felt if things had gotten serious. Tell him he did the right thing and leave it at that and stop joking around like that in the work place, your there to do a job, do it and go home to the husband you love, make love and for crying out loud be happy. Tomorrow is not promised.. good luck and god bless...
2007-10-18 03:51:38
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answered by Anonymous
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Don't feel like a fool. He is doing the right thing, and you should be willing to ignore him and mention your husband as well. Crushes are just that, and if you're married, it's best to get over them before it's too late. He used to like you, or maybe still does, but realizes that breaking his marraige covenant is wrong and that no one compares to his wife. Be glad! I'm sure your husband feels the same way about you. You don't need affirmation from other men.
2007-10-18 03:49:28
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answered by Anonymous
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First of all don't feel like a fool. The only reason to feel foolish (and more) would be is if you actually took your flirting to the next level.
He probably got a slap of reality after seeing you w/your husband while out with his wife. He's backing off big time. Which is the right thing to do, agreed? Just let it go.
2007-10-18 03:44:48
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answered by Maudie 6
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I think he is just a flirt, and you made the mistake of developing a little crush on him. I'm sure you're a little injured now, but just forget about him and all his flirting. Put your energy into your husband. The other man may have had some ideas about you, but got cold feet.
2007-10-18 03:45:51
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answered by SunnyMoon 5
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cause he is embarrassed by his thoughts.....same thing happened to me with a neighbor guy....I talked to him every morning at the bus stop but I noticed that he began to I feel take our talking as flirting, he actually from time to time made me feel uncomfortable with the way he flirted with me and when I realized this is what he was doing I had my husband come to the bus stop with me one afternoon and the next day and for about a week out of no where he barley made eye contact with me our conversations were no more maybe 2 words were said and it kinda freaked me out that his behavior changed I was relieved the flirting stopped but now we weren't even talking....I actually talked to my husband about it and he said (although he wanted to kick his ***) he is most likely ashamed and embarrassed by his own thoughts....and what you were seeing as just friendly conversation he was seeing it as you taking an interest in him as more than friends but when he realized that was so not your intention he got weired out.....ignore it just go back to being who you were before all of this...I did and now we talk like friends because he knows I love my husband and nothing will ever happen between the 2 of us.....
2007-10-18 04:05:01
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answered by Anonymous
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Let it go. He probably thought that he may have wanted to do something with you, and backed out. That`s why he`s mentioning his wife and kids, he`s changed his mind.
Why would you do this to your husband? Sounds like you were contemplating an affair, and also seem to have a need for attention from other men. Now you are looking to blame someone for him changing his mind. You only have yourself to blame, for allowing it to happen as far as it did.
I feel sorry for your husband.
2007-10-18 03:56:28
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answered by I tell it like it is 5
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My my, aren't you sensitive? (just kidding) Don't feel like a fool. And don't feel sad or pushed away kinda stuff. The guy probably told his wife about you and you know how sensitive you wives can be and even more protective. I used to get into that kinda stuff like you and this guy had. I had the time of my life with one gal and I was not serious about going any further that the work place fun. Another gal at work though I did start to get serious about. I talked to my wife at the time about the serious one and I ended the relationship at work just like your co-worker did to you with one exception. I told her that my wife was not happy about the two of us and we agreed to stop. We still had a couple of lunches together and then she quit working and found other employment. So what I am telling you is I think I understand how you feel. You have two choices that I see. One is to talk to the co-worker and asked what happened or two you can remain miserable and not know what happened. If it were me I would want to know. (smile) tsk tsk tsk sure is fun kinda stuff to do though isn't it?
2007-10-18 03:52:48
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answered by Anonymous
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He is married. He flirt at first and realized it was wrong. Maybe you should feel the same. You should be ashamed to be even thinking about hooking up with him your married too. To bad I don't know your husband because I would tell him you were looking.
2007-10-18 03:43:49
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answered by plinn2001 2
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lOL, He's a guy. He just thought u were extremely attractive, let himself get carried away with it and then once he started to act on it a bit and you actually responded positively, scared the hell out of himself and he pulled back to where he needs to be.
Men and women both do it. Usually, it stops there, sometimes it doesnt' and lives get ruined.
2007-10-18 03:44:36
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answered by paigespirate 4
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