Example if it costs the bride and groom $50 pp and you bring a guest to the reception should your wedding gift be no less than $100
2007-10-18 03:47:35 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I never heard of this until Answers...I always thought that the reception was thrown to celebrate the marriage, and not as a money-maker.
I don't know how many couples still have their weddings/receptions paid for by their parents, grandparents, etc...but if they did...then all of the gifts would be just that: gifts...and it would not be about trying to break even with the cost of the party. Therefore, it should not matter whether the guests give $20 or $1000.
Even if the bride and groom are paying for the whole reception themselves, they should not expect to "make money".
2007-10-18 04:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by WorldTraveler 4 · 8⤊ 0⤋
No. As a guest you are not REQUIRED to give a gift, however most people obviously do. The couple is hosting a wedding for their guests to have them celebrate with them, and be honoured by their presence -- not to get the money back they have spent on it!
And no one should be knowing the cost of the reception besides the couple, anyway. There's no way we told anyone except my mom, what the cost of it was!
Simply choose a gift for the couple that you think they might like. Cost shouldn't be a factor, at all!
2007-10-19 03:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My school of thought is to:
A. Give what you can afford, the bride and groom don't expect guests to go into debt. Especially since you may have traveled to be there, bought new clothes etc.
B. Be generous, but base it on your closeness to the married couple. In other words, if I could afford to give 500 to my best friend I would do so. I might only give 200 though (even if I could afford more) to someone I wasn't as close to.
C. If at all possible, try to cover the cost of your plate. I would feel like a big ole' cheapskate if I only gave 100 from my husband and I, and found out they paid 100 per person to feed us!
2007-10-18 10:03:57 · answer #3 · answered by MelB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. The gift should be what you can afford. It's not your problem/responsibility what the couple choses to spend on the dinner. Your gift is not the price you pay to attend the reception. And you shouldn't even know that amount anyway. Most guests, except for immediate family, would know the cost of the dinner.
Edit:
Meant to say: Most guests, except for immediate family, WOULDN'T know the cost of the dinner.
2007-10-18 12:25:45 · answer #4 · answered by ds37x 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bride and groom choose the venue, and what is being served. If they're willing to dish out a large amount of money on food, that's their choice. Not everyone can buy an expensive gift, and any priced gift is appropriate. People buy what they like and can afford, and if the bride and groom think its too cheap, they don't deserve the gift. A gift isn't a reimbursement for what they spent...it's a gift.
2007-10-18 04:14:15 · answer #5 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Guests do not know what the cost per person of your reception choices at the time they are purchasing a gift. There are usually other factors entering the mind of the guest when choosing from the registry - what they'd like to be remembered as gifting, what they can afford - or even if they will buy from the registry list. Students can not afford to spend the same as a wealthy retired couple.
2007-10-18 03:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by slave2art 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
It's not polite to ask guests the price of the gift! You can make a wedding gift list or wish list and choose the gifts you may like. Also choose gifts with different prices so the guests can pick the gifts according to their budgets! Hope this helps
2007-10-18 03:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by zul 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
I think that is the most ridiculous idea ever.
How in the world would you KNOW unless you were extremely nosey and/or asked the B&G?
IMO a gift comes from the HEART, not what they think they should give to pay for their meal.
If the guest can only afford to give $50, then give that much. If they can give $100, then go for it. If they are financially strapped for cash, then give a nice card and get them a gift for their one year anniversary.
2007-10-18 12:25:21 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No - for a start of I would never have told my guests how much their meal was costing me, how rude is that? And I wanted them to buy presents they could afford or even not to bring one at all if they didn't have a lot of money, just being there is enough. Guests shouldn't be invited because of how much they'll spend, it should be because your day would be less special if they weren't there.
2007-10-19 02:55:58 · answer #9 · answered by magenta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
absolutley not.
You have been invited to be part of the wedding party, because they want you there for you, and not for what you will give to them.Some people may not be fortunate enough to have much money, and would buy what they could afford.
If it was my wedding, I would far rather have my friends and family there and a small token gift, than them not attending at all, because they think that they have to provide us with suitable gift.
If the bride and groom expect that of you then, I would change my friends.
Good luck
Hope this helps.
2007-10-18 08:15:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋