Family & Relationships - 16 October 2007

Me and my fiance want to have a very small wedding ceremony with just our wedding parties and our parents but want everyone to come to the reception to celebrate. Do people do this? Would it be very rude of us to do this even though these are our wishes for OUR special day...??

And if its duable...how do i do the invetations? (I am hand making the invitations with my fiance's mom)

2007-10-16 19:36:07 · 23 answers · asked by Amanda 2 in Weddings

2007-10-16 19:34:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

about six months i found a text on my wifes phone, i cant remember what it said but i know a wife shouldnt be say or reciving texts like that. she swore it was a joke and it was nothing. now the guy lives over 300 miles away so i let it go. on oct.6 my wife left her email open and i saw pics of this guys penis and alot of them. i asked her what the f**k is this. she said she was sorry and that is all it was just some pics on the net and some cyber sex. now after seeing the pics i thought no way. i googled his wife and found her work number. i called her and then sent her the pics and video. she later called me to tell me that they did have sex one time about a year ago at a work trainning program that took place over a week. the last day of the trainning a few people went out my wife was one of them. i guess after a few the went to his hotel and had sex. she says she is sorry and that she loves. shes not showing any remorse at all. i dont understand how that is possible if she loves me

2007-10-16 19:34:34 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

We are orphans and he is staying in an orphanage.

2007-10-16 19:34:33 · 24 answers · asked by sheila tyler 1 in Family

We have been married 17 yrs, had sex about 10 times since "I DO"! No kidding. We have a 15 year old son. My husband travels Mon 6am to Fri 5pm.. I have met someone I feel I am crazy in love with. My problem is I feel like there is no way for me to pursue this relationship without damaging my son. My husband and I don't argue or fight nor do we have much communication at all. When Fri comes I leave and come back on Sunday evening. I promised my son I will always be here overnight from Sun through Thur, school nights. But we all know while I am here trying to live one life, my mind is somewhere else, trying to see myself in another life. How long before I lose my mind? I love this man so much, he fills every void inside. How do I move forward. I have no job nor can I work to support myself and my son, which is my fault. My son wants be with me, he wants to be home too. That is all he knows. I want to be happy and not hurt my son.

2007-10-16 19:32:19 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

ok my husband and i are seperating and going thru a divorce,he's been begging me to stay with him but i feel it's time for me to move on after 13 years now he's turned mean cause i won't take him back he now calls me fat and even say's my vgina is big,when all these years he's had no complaint's but now he's saying horrible things because he knows i'm interested in someone else,him saying all this is making me wonder if it's true,i'm even looking into vaginal tightening surgery's.i just don't understand during our marriage he alway's was satisfied he alway's said i was perfect now that i don't do it with him anymore and want to possibly do it with someone else he shoots my self esteem down should i look into surgery before i have sex with the new guy?

2007-10-16 19:28:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i am man enought to say i was wrong for divorcing her.20. years ago we have.2. sons i still love her but never had the ***. to tell her that .is there a chance we could get back together we have.4. grandchildren as well . out .2. children are married as well can we renuite out selves s we was i still love her she was and is still a good woman and she is yet my life but never had the *** to tell her can love happen again with us thank you all for your honest answers..

2007-10-16 19:26:29 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

So here's my story...I'm living with my b/f of two years...He has kids with someone else and she doesn't live near by but her family does ( mom, sisters, cousins, etc...) Well every once in a blue moon they come see the kids..( birthday's and holidays)
Well tonight was one of the kids b-days...Their Grandma ( her mom) came to see them and my b/f said he gave her and her daughter hugs..He often feels he has to hide the fact that I'm around and claims he does this because he doesn't want them to know his business...Now he was married to the mother of his children and still is...I have a problem with him trying to be buddy buddy with her family still..he says he loves me but hell, I can't believe that now and days...am I just over reacting?...or should I be worried?

2007-10-16 19:21:31 · 9 answers · asked by jgraciano07 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

and complain that they didn't get anything?
Gifts are not compulsory, they are optional and it is nice to give them if you can but people should understand if some people can't give them. Guests attendance should be enough and you should never invite people just to get extra gifts. Some people have to pay lots of money to travel to and stay at a place for your wedding and I think it's a bit much to expect a gift on top of this. If they don't give a give, who cares? It's not the end of the world. Who agrees? Why are some people so rude when it comes to expecting gifts for weddings?

2007-10-16 19:18:19 · 27 answers · asked by BTB2211 5 in Weddings

I met my boyfriend 3yrs ago. I was not interested, but be pursued me. I knew that he was married and that his wife was pregnant with his second daughter. We saw each other briefly before I ended it. About a year later, i ended a bad relationship, and out of lonliness I initiated the beginning of out current relationship. We have been together for about a 1.5 yrs. We got an apt and he moved out 8 months ago. I am 5 mnths prengant and now he says he feels like he is leaving one family for another. He wanted this baby, and now he is unsure. He has a hard time making decisions in his personal life. But he has always told me he never was in love with her, and that he he felt guilty cuz she was older and waited for the proposal for years. He claimed he felt obligated to marry her. Now he only wants to go back, because of the kids. He says he still loves me...Am i wasting my time, should i leave...? He says he want to take care of me and the baby, but i dont know what to do...

2007-10-16 19:15:15 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I used to love it!! Now it takes me forever to get into it...i still like it when we do it, but i feel like i could be doing other things.....anyone else feel like that??

2007-10-16 19:13:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-16 19:11:01 · 9 answers · asked by NONAME 1 in Family

I've been hanging out with this guy and we have sex on a regular basis. He's introduced me to his friends and we go out to dinner alot but nothing ever official has been said about our "status"
I don't need to be his "gf" or anything like that (I'm 19 he's 23, its ok if its just physical) I just want to know if you guys think he'll be offended if I ask to go on a official "date" with him because I think I may like him and I think he wants more from our relationship too.

Also I don't want to offend him by asking him on a date if he thinks we are already dating which I'm not sure if he does or not.

I need help!

2007-10-16 19:02:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok..there was this guy I met in this chatroom....after talking to him for about a day, he saids he wants to meet me...asking me if I wanna have dinner with him...then without me saying anything, he saids he dosent have any other "motives" , just wants to meet up...Like is this normal? or is there something else?

2007-10-16 18:55:58 · 13 answers · asked by stelle 1 in Singles & Dating

we are in the same youth group at church...and i dont know how to tell her without breaking her heart that she is not my type.

2007-10-16 18:54:05 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My friend just told me that in her last relationship she was date raped. Her mom doesn't know, the only person besides me who knows is the dean of our university, which is a private Christian one.

It's not a deal of who do I tell, but it was something that really matters to her. Where we are now, the general school of thought is that you get married before you have sex. So her virginity was something incredibly important to her, something for her future husband.

Now she feels devalued, worthless, tainted... And to have that taken forcibly from you, not even being able to give it to someone you love... I can't imagine it. All I can do is love her, but now my heart is breaking and I don't know what to do. Some help?

2007-10-16 18:53:05 · 7 answers · asked by Angeliss 5 in Singles & Dating

i have been with this guy for 4 years and its had its ups and downs feels like the downs were more then the ups but neways i asks me to do his laundry which is fine and cool, i can play the wife role but he doesnt just ask me he demands and commands that i drop everything i do and do his laundry he says that he should be priority, and to me my family and myself is my priority. We do not even live togetehr and he doesnt even live alone, he lives at his mothers im 22 and hes 27, like i said b4 i dont mind doing it but i just dont like being commanded and demanded like that WAT DO U THINK? WAT SHOULD I DO?

2007-10-16 18:51:32 · 33 answers · asked by Lexis 2 in Singles & Dating

Well, it's more like friendly guy becomes a jerk ...

There's this guy, and used to be really nice, like he would tell me to join in with his convos, and he was respectful when he talked and stuff. I haven't talked to him in like three weeks, and now he's all bossy and "jerky." He would command me to do things without saying my name, and call me, "Hey! Pshttt. Do that!" He wasn't like that before ...

What happened? What bolted this change?

2007-10-16 18:44:43 · 4 answers · asked by meh 2 in Friends

2007-10-16 18:40:41 · 4 answers · asked by Chakkara 1 in Singles & Dating

I am keeping it anonymous here, as it should be. I am just curious how anyone else might have handled this.

2007-10-16 18:40:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I DON'T BELIEVE THIS ****. AFTER ALL WE'VE BEEN THROUGH

TOGETHER, AND AFTER ALL I'VE DONE FOR him AND THIS

IS THE THANKS I GET. 8 ******' YEARS DOWN THE DRAIN. 8

******' YEARS I'VE WASTED. FOR 8 YRS he has WALKED ALL

OVER MY HEART. TOOK MY LOVE FOR GRANTED. I GAVE him

MY HEART AND he SHREDDED IT LIKE IT WAS NOTHING.I LOVED

him WHEN ALL he DID WAS HURT ME. NAW U KNOW WHAT

**** IT he DON'T DESERVE ME ANYWAY. HOW COULD I HAVE

BEEN SO DAMN STUPIT TO HAVE PUT UP WIT THIS BULLSHIT 4

THE PAST 8 YRS. I STILL CAN'T BELIEVE THAT he DID THIS

BULLSHIT 2 ME. KNOWING THAT THERE WAS NOTHING THAT I

WOULDN'T HAVE DONE FOR him. YOU KNOW WHAT THAT *****

CAN HAVE his SORRY ***. BUT LET ME TELL U 1 THING he's

GONNA MISS MY LOVE. SO he can GO AHEAD n DO him CAUSE I 'M GONNA DO

ME. AND I WILL BE MOVIN' ON AND I WON'T BE LOOKIN' BACK.

YEA IT MAY TAKE A WHILE BUT SOONER ARE LATER ALL BRUSES WILL HEAL BRUSES WILL HEAL ,AND THIS PAIN WILL FADE.

2007-10-16 18:38:21 · 3 answers · asked by blkdiva360 2 in Singles & Dating

got into huge fight w/my bf of 3 years. we've had issues on and off for past 2 years b/c i have pmdd and he's made poor choices (called girl co-worker last time we got into argument. they don't talk anymore-he never cheated on me w/her). i am on meds and seeing a counselor

long story short-after coming home from weekend camping trip (and after i cleaned his house-we don't live together) he told me he needed "me time" for two days!! i usually stay at his house on our work days (we work nites). i thought he was up to no good so i showed up at his work to check on him. he got upset but forgave me. he didnt talk to me for 3 days then called to ask if i would come over to videotape his rc airplane for him that he built (then asked me if i was doing ok). i came over w/my kids for a while. we talked again that nite. i stopped over his house next day so my daughter could use the bathroom after playing at the park near his house-he said he just wanted to relax instead of doing stuff w/us...

2007-10-16 18:29:35 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I met her at a gym 8 years ago, and she took real good care of herself, however since we got married she has stopped taking care of herself, and to be honest, I am almost embarassed to be seen with her.I don't want to give up on her, but I feel as though once we got married she doesn't feel the need to take care of herself, and I am finding myself attracted to other women.

2007-10-16 18:28:04 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i like him but i feel like i dont spend enough time with my friends anymore. when i am with him, i am bored to tears. shud i ask him to take a break? and give me space? how do i do that? right now im just sort of sick of him but i feel like deep down inside i still like him, hes just boring right now. i know if i DO break up with him, it will be very awkward becuz we have all our classes together. we have been going out for almost a month and we are sophemores.

2007-10-16 18:26:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i was outside with my bff when my crush calls his sister my bff over to him to ask her to ask me to play basketball with him? and he seemed so happy when i went over to play he throws me the basketball and i try to shoot it but i have never played before and i throw an air ball and he starts to tease me and laugh and he is really really good at it and we usually are quite competitive with one another so i was really sad and went to sit on the curb and watch him and his sister play...and then his sister says to him why did you do that and punched him in the arm he looked at me with a sad look on his face...i have really liked him for 6 years and he just found out i liked him this year so guys would you ask a girl you know has a crush on you to play basketball with you if you don't like her? Does he like me back or not? Thanks

2007-10-16 18:25:32 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My brother is upset because I only relayed excuse #1 to our father, who called him after the luncheon. Now I'm in the doghouse with my brother, even though the reason I contacted him was to offer him a ride.

2007-10-16 18:23:05 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

my wife and i have an annual fight, and i need to know what the world thinks. (TD=Thanksgiving Day)

wife's family tradition:
TD - dinner at noon
day after TD - my wife and her mother go shopping, getting up at 3 or 4am. this can last from 12:00pm to 5:00pm, in which a nap ensues.

so here is the deal. i have ceded that we will keep her TD tradition because her family is unwilling to budge/compromise at all.

X-Mas is handled. We both compromise X-Mas Day every other year.

what do we do about thanksgiving? i say that my family should be allowed to have it at noon on the day after, and she says that is unfair bc she already has an established tradition on that day. i think it is only fair that if i give in for TD, she should do the same for the day after. My bro is also married, and we have to work with his family too.

I think I'm compromising more. What do you think? If I am willing to give her whatever she wants on 1 day, is it unfair to ask that from her on the next?

2007-10-16 18:22:15 · 9 answers · asked by cornercuttin 2 in Marriage & Divorce

How do you choose between two people that love you? I broke off a relationship of 5 years and started a new one with a long time friend, now the person that i was with before for 5 years wants me back. Now the other doesnt want to let me go either. Im stuck in a place that ive never been, how do i decide who to choose? both relationships have had ups and downs and both people seem to want the same out of me which is a future.

2007-10-16 18:22:01 · 22 answers · asked by sweet_bfly02 2 in Singles & Dating

my friend bonnie noes one of my friends james and she thought that it would be funny to tell him that i liked him on my sn
she never meant it to hurt me but on monday he told a few people and then told me that i imed him and told him i liked him
it turned into a really big thing she told him that she did it but his gf is still on my case and a few other people who will not beleieve me
wat can i do they will not beleive me?

2007-10-16 18:14:33 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I don't know what he means. That is is just thinking about it or he is leaning that way of having a relationship again. Can someone please help understand what this guy is really thinking. Thanks

2007-10-16 18:11:35 · 5 answers · asked by Brandy W 1 in Other - Family & Relationships