So here's my story...I'm living with my b/f of two years...He has kids with someone else and she doesn't live near by but her family does ( mom, sisters, cousins, etc...) Well every once in a blue moon they come see the kids..( birthday's and holidays)
Well tonight was one of the kids b-days...Their Grandma ( her mom) came to see them and my b/f said he gave her and her daughter hugs..He often feels he has to hide the fact that I'm around and claims he does this because he doesn't want them to know his business...Now he was married to the mother of his children and still is...I have a problem with him trying to be buddy buddy with her family still..he says he loves me but hell, I can't believe that now and days...am I just over reacting?...or should I be worried?
2007-10-16 19:21:31 · 9 answers · asked by jgraciano07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are over reacting - He's with you!
He wasn't/isn't married to his in-laws, so why should their relationship change? If he liked them before the split with is wife then he is allowed to like them now! Don't forget they are the kids' "flesh & blood" and I think that is healthy for the kids that Grandma stays in touch.
Take a "chill-pill" and roll with it! He loves you otherwise you wouldn't be together!
Peace!
2007-10-16 19:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get used to it. Whenever there are children involved, you will have to understand that they parents will still have contact with the family. As far as hiding you from them, I demand that that if I was going to continue to be part of his life, he would have to let them know that we are together.
There is no reason, after two years, to continue to be secretive about your relationship. That sounds suspicious. My guess is that either he doesn't see you and he ever being married, or he is afraid of his wife giving him problems. If that is the case, then it is time for him to get a divorce.
Don't waste your young years on empty promises. You can't get them back!!
2007-10-16 19:30:28 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl Dont even start ur whinning cause u knew what u were getting into !! still Married COME ON !! BAggage !!
he is doing the smart thing by hiding u !
I would too if i were still married !
Ur what they call the person getting the short end of the stick and u put urself there.
2007-10-16 20:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has every right to be friendly and on good terms with his former in laws. And even on good terms with his wife because its for the kids benefit as well.
You chose to go into such a relashionship and that's what you need to expect. But you can ask your partner to be more open about you in his life with all the others.
Its a fair expectation on all sides and should be kept that way even if deep down you have a problem with it.
2007-10-16 19:29:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He needs to grow up and pull his life together. After a divorce everyone moves on. You live there, are involved with him and the kids. In other words you are a family. Tell him to be a man and acknowledge that fact to his ex's family and everyone else. He treats you like a mistress he has to hide. If you are fine with that ok. But assert your rights as his live in mate.
2007-10-16 19:51:14 · answer #5 · answered by ladyhawk8141 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sorry does it mean youre the other woman but they are separated? Then if thats the case...........you must make up your mind........ No matter what you do all his family will always be with all the kids since theay are family,,,,,,,,,,,,Why it shows youre just behind always??????Well it mean your affair w/ him is hidden from them? With that situation for sure you cannot be at ease ..........your mind will always be disturb & full of jealousy.........Honestly I cannot understand well your real score with the guy...........Please check yourself........See the better part of your life away from him maybe? if you allow yourself to have peace & have a bright tomorrow........Pray & GOd Bless!
2007-10-16 20:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by June_gem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His relationship with her family has nothing to do with his feelings for her. Doesn't mean he still has feelings for her. I hate my ex and love his family and they love me. That is nothig to be threatened by. Relax! Your okay. Pick your battles!
2007-10-16 19:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by openminded 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its obvious he cares more about her and her family than you.
I smell booty call. Your the girl to satisfy his needs. Not the girl he wants to live for. Sounds like he's very much attached to his present wife.
2007-10-16 19:34:14 · answer #8 · answered by Superfly sister 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Still is?! Honey get out now before you ruin your life. He isn't going to change.
2007-10-16 19:26:17 · answer #9 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋