what should i think?!!?

Question

got into huge fight w/my bf of 3 years. we've had issues on and off for past 2 years b/c i have pmdd and he's made poor choices (called girl co-worker last time we got into argument. they don't talk anymore-he never cheated on me w/her). i am on meds and seeing a counselor

long story short-after coming home from weekend camping trip (and after i cleaned his house-we don't live together) he told me he needed "me time" for two days!! i usually stay at his house on our work days (we work nites). i thought he was up to no good so i showed up at his work to check on him. he got upset but forgave me. he didnt talk to me for 3 days then called to ask if i would come over to videotape his rc airplane for him that he built (then asked me if i was doing ok). i came over w/my kids for a while. we talked again that nite. i stopped over his house next day so my daughter could use the bathroom after playing at the park near his house-he said he just wanted to relax instead of doing stuff w/us...

i got upset and tried to talk to him about how i wish he had asked me how i was first when he called instead of asking about the videotaping. he got mad telling me all he wanted to do was relax and i was ruining it. so i left (he did tell me he loved me).

i tried calling him a few hours later-he answered but was upset saying for me to just let him be. i told him i didn't like being ignored-he said he didn't want to do it but had to so he wouldn't be stressed out-he said he loved me and hung up on me. i haven't spoken w/him since (saturday). i've tried calling him-no answer (but he saved my voicemail) and he checks my emails but won't write back. i'm worried he wants to leave!!!

Answer 1

I would not keep calling him like that. He thinks that he has the upper hand because you keep calling. Let him do the calling. If he does not call by the weekend, plan to do something else with your time. Eventually, if he loves you, he will call. When he does, you will have the upper hand, and will be able to ask for the treatment that you think you deserve.

He may be stressed, or he may be at that point where he is rethinking your relationship. Either way, you have no control over it right now, unless you give him an ultimatum, and I am not sure, by the way your question reads, that you are ready for that.