How do you choose between two people that love you? I broke off a relationship of 5 years and started a new one with a long time friend, now the person that i was with before for 5 years wants me back. Now the other doesnt want to let me go either. Im stuck in a place that ive never been, how do i decide who to choose? both relationships have had ups and downs and both people seem to want the same out of me which is a future.
2007-10-16 18:22:01 · 22 answers · asked by sweet_bfly02 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Broke up the 5 year relationship because of things that were said and done as in cheating and lying. The second relationship is to complicated because i feel that i cant understand the person at all and they really value friendships with their exes.
2007-10-16 18:35:58 · update #1
wow- how fortunate.
i would say to stick with the one you've got. the other one had his chance and things didnt work out when you were together for a reason. i have always found that dating a longtime friend usually works out better- it's bittersweet
2007-10-16 18:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by Asile 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok i have been in a similar situation and you know who you have to choose the guy that you are with because if that guy seriously loves why did he wait for 5 years what has changed, and i know this feeling when you want to return back to your ex because maybe he understands you more or for many other reasons but the only one thing you should focused on is that if he loves why did he come after 5 years and expects that you take him back so i think you should stay with your bf that you are with now and forget about that guy and be happy that he wants you back but he can't get you.
2007-10-17 01:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1>The first one , which had left you, had tesed the market and now is coming back. What makes you think , that she might not leave you again ?
2> The second one , had been loyal to you ( since no 1 re- applied ) you start to compare with the current one, which is not fair. If No 1 had disappeared , would you compare?
Since now you have an option, you want to evaluate and crack your head. Why ? - you shouldn't be shelfish.
3> What would you do if another No 3 applies. you want to compare ? Then, this is greedy.
4> Be a gentleman , stick to No 2 and move on - good luck !!!!!!!
2007-10-17 01:34:33 · answer #3 · answered by jjshri ram 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, this is a drama/dilemma.
Why not call time off with the both of them so you can have some peace of mind?
Then you can use let your head and heart talk. Cos the final choice is yours and yours alone. People here can come up with 101 suggestions, but I think you should know better.
Get the time out and do some soul searching. Some one is gonna get hurt but it doesn't you should stall.
2007-10-21 01:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by Straight Lead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious, if you broke up with someone then something didn't go out well.. Sure you could get back together but that five year gap sorta puts it down.. If you are already going with someone why make it bad and go for the other? If you plan on doing that everything will just end up in a dramatic train wreck..
2007-10-17 01:29:14 · answer #5 · answered by Richard C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who do you love? Which pro's & con's are the best/worst. What would you require to make your life prosperous.? Which one has the capabilities to provide you with that?. Whohas the best genetic features if you are looking to have children? Who do you want to pro-create with, if that is an issue? Why did not the previous long-term man marry you? Is he having second thoughts or jealous, now that you are involved with someone else.. It's all about you...not them!
2007-10-17 01:30:47 · answer #6 · answered by muffin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the exact situation. GO WITH YOUR HEART!!! I didn't, because I didn't want to hurt the one I was with even though I never stopped loving my first love. It kind of sounds like you are unsure about either one though. Why not stop wasting time and find the one who is meant for you?
2007-10-17 01:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by o7mistique 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stick to what u know who makes u happy. Who would rather you be happy and stick to the guy you want instead of being like pick me. I haven't been in alot of relationships but i know from experience from my older friends and they have said when your stuck in the middle, follow ur heart
good luck
- sarah
2007-10-17 01:26:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you don't even know which one you like the most, then don't date either of them seriously, just be friends with both, and continue to go on dates, and as you ask more questions that are important like, whats important to them, and why should you date them, you will distinguish which one is more worth your time and heart. (read "i kissed dating goodbye" by Joshua Harris it will help you figure out all sorts of stuff!!!)Goodluck!
2007-10-17 01:32:55 · answer #9 · answered by Charmed&Dangerous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't been in this situation either...but I would say, stick with the one you have. YOU broke it off with the other guy for a reason...right??? Just keep moving forward.
2007-10-17 01:26:55 · answer #10 · answered by klg2k2002 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋