Family & Relationships - 7 October 2007

I dated a man about 12 years ago who I fell head over hills in love with. We were together for about 7 years...off and on. The circumstances were never right for us to get married or to stay together for an extended period of time. But, when I was with him it was the best time of my life. About 5 years ago, I finally tried to call it quits for good. I still loved him, but I knew it would never go anywhere. I met someone else and we got married, but I still have a place in my heart for this other man. He started calling me occassionally about 2 years ago. We haven't seen each other or been together, but when we talk, he tells me that he misses me and wishes we were still together. I would never cheat on my husband, but it breaks my heart a little more each time I talk to him. I know I should change my number or not answer when he calls, but I guess deep down, I miss him too. I don't think I ever got over him. How do I get him out of my heart and mind and focus on my husband?

2007-10-07 17:15:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i really like this guy in my class (i'm in 8th grade). I'm shy and am a little afraid because he turned down like 5 other girls. I used to sit next to him and i think he likes me but i'm not sure. He playfully teases me in front of people ( his and my friends) , he takes my pens,highliters,etc.. and teases me that he has them , he gave me is sn and cell numberr. From a guys point of view .. does he like me? and if so how can i approach him?

2007-10-07 17:14:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I really dislike my mum i dont know why sometimes she doesnt even do anything just being in the same house as her really gets me annoyed my parents split up when i was 7 im now 14 and i only see my dad once a year, she always seems to be yelling at me and doesnt like anything that im into like she thinks soft rocks horrible music and i shouldnt listen to it?

2007-10-07 17:13:09 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

my white friend was being made fun of by three black guys (i am in eighth grade), and they were calling him racist things like white boy and stuff, but then my friend called the black person the n-word, then they got FURIOUS! then the next day he faught and beat up the main kid, and then when my friend was walking home, he got jumped by like three black guys. whatta' wusssy little idiot, huh? my friend won fair and square.

2007-10-07 17:12:53 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My husband left us when i was 7 months pregnant. when she turned 6 months old i lost my job and now i have lost all my friends. i cant get a boyfriend and finding a job is seems impossible. dont get me wrong i WOULDN'T trade her for anything but why is it your life turns to sh*t after a baby arrives?

2007-10-07 17:10:38 · 21 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4 in Marriage & Divorce

so me and this kid went to the movies and we kissed we are only friends though but he is always flirting with me..but now he wont talk to me and i dont understand why...i kind of like him but i dont know why he wont talk to me now

2007-10-07 17:10:23 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

so my step dad just got mad and was beating my dog really bad. i plugged my ears and was screaming.. (i noe im childish.. im 15) my mom stood up and was screaming at him.. ( my mom is crippled and can barely walk) and he was yelling back. the whole time the dog was squealing... && i.m getting even more scared... then he stood up and swung on my mom. this turned my fear into pure rage because i.ve seen my real dad beat my mom too many times. my mom didnt back down. she was still in his face telling him to leave the dog alone. he was pushin her and i jumped in the middle so he started pushing me. i called the cops but my mom started yelling at me so i hung up. he started throwing our coach and stuff outside. my little sister (7) woke up and was hiding in the b/r. he finally stopped when the cops came and my mom made me not tell the whole story. she said it was just an argument and i took it over by calling the cops. am i wrong for not telling the whole story? how can i stop this???

2007-10-07 17:08:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

so me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years now and we both love each other to death. But everytime we get into a fight or argument (mostly her fault, trust me) I go through the same cycle of me not speaking to her for days, then she says sorry and I forgive and forget, while nothing changes really. and then we repeat this cycle a few weeks later, and so on. It's starting to get really old and I feel I'm always just trying to make her happy. Has anyone experienced this?

2007-10-07 17:08:08 · 11 answers · asked by ladiesman217 2 in Singles & Dating

what should I do ? there is alot of money and other things involved

2007-10-07 17:04:57 · 7 answers · asked by Denise S 1 in Family

Like to kill him or at least a serious injury...I cannot deal with his insanity anymore at all but I don't want to go to jail for killing him myself? Yes, I'm kidding....well...maybe.....

2007-10-07 17:03:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

If their is a topic that i am very serious about: example: (My husband who still emails his ex highschool sweetheart. who he claims he will always love forever.. and it was SO serious..blah blah) How do i let him know it bothers me so much!? I dont want to say choose me or her because im afraid he will say ok good bye! I dont know what to say to him to let him know i mean business!? Any suggestions?

- Sorry if this question might be confusing but its really a loooong story to type. I feel this good end our marriage one day and he has no idea this is such a big problem!

2007-10-07 17:01:49 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

alright so theres this girl I knida like and I never see her outside of our club that we are in I only seen her once outside the our club, our club meet every 2 weeks, i dont see her so I cant really talk to her and I really havent talked with her alot, just a little. but I want a date with her, to see if i really like her. How would I tell her, should I just say the next time I see her,"what are you doing this weekend" or talk with her a little more than ask., How should I do this

2007-10-07 16:57:25 · 3 answers · asked by battle14 2 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend, who i trust, says his alcoholic step-dad abuses him.He says he hasn't told many people, and he hasn't even told his mom.I'm sure this is true, but i can't really see this happening,even though i've haven't met his parents yet.
I'm clueless on what to do, or kind of what to say.
ANY help please?
Thank-you.

2007-10-07 16:56:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

About a year ago I joined a self help group, and after a few months a guy who I realy like asked me out, but he was still seeing someone, I was upset because I wanted to date him but not hidden on the side I told him so in fact I really lost it with him.
Then I felt realy bad. Over time we became friendlier I knew he had broken up with his girl friend so I asked him for a kiss he said no but then a few weeks later he asked me for a kiss , he came to my house a few times and we had sex. Then I started to want a little more, to go out, to spend a night together to get closer. he started backing off and I started to feel anxious and insecure and defensive and I landed up saying some things I regret, I told him maybe we should be just friends and he said he had wanted that for a long time but didn´t want to hurt me. Now 2weeks later has given a job to a girlfriend a new woman. We never went out, out and it only lasted a few weeks. He´s still friendly but I´m realy hurt .

2007-10-07 16:55:32 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I think it is fairly well known that mothers tend to not like who their son is dating, marrying,.... how do you deal with it?

2007-10-07 16:55:17 · 16 answers · asked by Bo B 2 in Marriage & Divorce

She says she's a success and has made something of herself because she has a husband and kids. I wonder if it's worth being her friend anymore. I hate the put-downs! She assumes I'm jealous of her, when I'm not. When I say I feel like a failure, talking about ny job, she says condescendingly, "Don't worry, you'll find a husband someday." ARGHHH!!!!When I have a date, she says, "Maybe you'll wear him down, and get married." What to do?

2007-10-07 16:53:40 · 13 answers · asked by Robin 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Ocassionally my husband and I fight. The problem is I overeact and jump to conclusions too quickly. I do all the things I'm not supposed to do. Name it and I do it (except cheat-totally out of the picture!). How do I argue my case without getting mad, but letting him know he's hurt my feelings. Thanks!

2007-10-07 16:51:57 · 17 answers · asked by Shortie Cake 2 in Marriage & Divorce

atleast not yet thats what he says. i cant see myself spending alot of time with someone with no prospects of getting married. also we have sex and i feel sad after every time. my family does not believe in premarital sex, what do i do? he says he cant see himself beng a husband just yet.

2007-10-07 16:50:11 · 18 answers · asked by asking 1 in Singles & Dating

You talk about what is important to you in a relationship, .... Like a man with a full head of hair, six-pack abs, .. Money..... What about a man who is average, but is kind, supportive, caring, a good friend and lover, putting his woman first , providing a strong shoulder when she needs it, hard working ... Oh !! And btw.... seems like those women who are so choosey end up with the worst partners in the end ... huh ?? Lighten up, ... girls !!

2007-10-07 16:44:16 · 23 answers · asked by Raptor 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Oct 28 07 I will be married a year to a wonderful man. But I need to know something. IS IT TRUE OR FALSE THAT the top of your cake from your wedding you should keep and eat with your husband/wife on your 1year anniversary? And if you dont eat it than that means that your marriage wont last? and that it will bring your marriage bad luck if the two of you dont eat it together? why im asking is because our top cake is at my husbands parents house and we are not talking to them and so there is no way of us getting this cake. Is there anything else we can do to have good luck threw our marriage (this question is from a pennsylvania girl USA) i dont know if this matters or not of where I am from. HOPE you people can help on this question

2007-10-07 16:43:00 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-07 16:40:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-07 16:36:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

There's this adorable guy at church whom I'd like to become friends with. He's got a girlfriend, so I just want to get to know him as a friend. We don't go to the same school...so we don't really have that to talk about. I've added him on my facebook...but I don't really know him all that well...

Is there any way I can break the ice at church? Or on facebook? I'd like to get to know him...

Would this be considered sleazy/man-stealing-esque?

2007-10-07 16:35:30 · 9 answers · asked by Victoria_Sunshine 1 in Singles & Dating

There was this guy I rejected by an accident. I hope he saw how freaked out I was. He was the first person to ever admit that he liked me and I froze up and said no. Do you think that maybe, after a month, he'll try to get me again?

2007-10-07 16:35:22 · 10 answers · asked by Sarah 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-07 16:32:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I consider marriage very sacred. No good can came from affairs.Plus they are dangerous. She confided in me and I told her how I felt against it and I feel that me being truthful has strained our relationship. I believe karma and reaping what you sow. Plus I had a cousin killed by the husband of his lover. I rather have her mad at me then stay quiet and her being hurt. Many people have been killed in love triangles, and I don't want to be the person wishing I had sad something. Plus I would not want anyone interfering with my marriage.Plus anyone who would disrespect their spouse like that obviously has questionable character.I realize the decision is her's I just want her to know there are consequences.Besides it is not worth the trouble. BTW I Am single I think I was right do you?

2007-10-07 16:29:49 · 4 answers · asked by babygurl 3 in Family

My fiance and I have been together for 5 years, and he just propsed. He and my family have never gotten along (they result of very stubborn people, all parties are to blame in some way), but he is a good man whom I love very much. He has been nothing but wonderful to me. One of my sisters has specifically said that she will not attend my wedding or have anything to do with any children we have, because he told her that her opinion of him does not matter. Another sister of mine will do whatever the first one says. I haven't even gotten up the courage to tell them we are getting married, but I wanted to tell my friends and family by asking them to be involved. Should I bother telling these two sisters that I will have dresses for them, and if they decide at the last minute that my happiness is more important than their feud, I want them to come and participate?

2007-10-07 16:29:41 · 15 answers · asked by miss understood 2 in Weddings

I feel like I'm living a double standard. My pledge is to keep my virginity until marriage for my future wife. But then, I remember, when I was 12, me and my childhood best friend (sweetheart, whatever) tried to see how it feels to kiss. We did it in the hayloft of our barn. Looking back, that was a step too close to the brink!

2007-10-07 16:28:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

For years now she has been trying to break us apart...saying things to family and the children about us to cause a bunch of friction...it has in fact made life hard on all, especially the kids. When my husband and I first got together, I would stand up to her and then over time I thought silence would be kinder...it has gotten worse. She told my husband last Friday that she is taking him to court for child support...he is a month ahead...for her car...she was supposed to refinance it but never did.she did this in a music store where one of kids has lessons, all he had asked her was if she was meeting us half way on Sunday. At one of the other kids football games yesterday, she was continuously bashing him to the kids and they were uncomfortable, I was mad. Today her car wouldn't start, she did end up meeting us, my husband ran over and helped her look at what was wrong..I think we just should have taken the kids home, she was yelling at him that she knew he had jumper cables, they

2007-10-07 16:27:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

When we first moved in, we started helping our neighbor by taking her garbage out, opening the door for her, helping her up the stairs.
Now she demands help and gets frustrated if she does not get what she wants. She can come over at 11 pm, usually we go to bed at 10. My husband generally spends up to 45 min. every other night fixing her apartment of listening to her complain. We cannot not open the door, because she knows that we are here.
She wants rides from me (even though she has her children living in the area and she is eligible for a senior pick up). She is too lazy to call the service. When I offer to call, she gets angry. I do not want to be a personal cab!

We are still willing to do the fast chores for her, but the rest is too much. Her children visit maybe once a week, so she is pretty much our responsibility. How to stop this? It is hard to reason with the lady, we need to get involved a third party.

2007-10-07 16:27:04 · 24 answers · asked by MissionSuccess 3 in Marriage & Divorce