so me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years now and we both love each other to death. But everytime we get into a fight or argument (mostly her fault, trust me) I go through the same cycle of me not speaking to her for days, then she says sorry and I forgive and forget, while nothing changes really. and then we repeat this cycle a few weeks later, and so on. It's starting to get really old and I feel I'm always just trying to make her happy. Has anyone experienced this?
2007-10-07 17:08:08 · 11 answers · asked by ladiesman217 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's normal, but in a healthy relationship those cycles are farther between. You need to evaluate the relationship and decide if the ups and downs are truly worth it. If she is making the same mistakes, and they truly are mistakes, then she isn't making an effort.
2007-10-07 17:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by Kristen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, usually the reason for fights is miscommunication... so try listening to each other more, and be very understanding to different views on things. Really it sounds similar to what my boyfriend and I were going through at first, but I figured if we just sat down and talked EVERYTHING through... then we're okay, and we fight less. Trust me. It was getting VERY old for the both of us, but now that we've learned that we're two different people with two different ways of thinking, we don't fight as often anymore. I also noticed if we didn't talk things over... eventually it would come back up, and we'd fight again... so if an argument starts up randomly, just talk it out then, so you don't have to deal with it later. Plus you learn more about your significant other! It's all a wonderful learning process. Anyways, God Bless! =)
Ps. See you can forgive and forget... but it doesn't mean it's not going to come back up... or "stop" happening."
2007-10-08 00:25:22 · answer #2 · answered by ღ ms love ღ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to learn how to stay and grow in a relationship. love can only take you so far. fail to learn this impt lesson and you will end up destroying all the good stuff through the years, not just with your current gf but all future ones too.
start with reading some relationship help books. 5 love needs is good. also, see a counsellor to learn how to break the fight cycle. to learn how to repair the damage of the fights.
2007-10-08 00:15:05 · answer #3 · answered by lsl4x 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I haven't personally, but my dad and his girlfriend have. Everytime he tells me that they got in a fight, I just roll my eyes. They argue so often that it's not a big deal anymore.
Your gf might subconsciously be comfortable with drama, which could be the reason that she starts most of the fights. Think about this: did she grow up in an environment where people fought often?
2007-10-08 00:20:59 · answer #4 · answered by Lovelylady 3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, read "The Dance of Intimacy." If you're willing to keep an open mind you just might learn something.
Something you might just learn is that you aren't meant to be together. I know lots of people who love each other, but can't live together under any circumstances. Keep aware of this possibility
2007-10-08 00:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by dude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It puzzles me that neither one of you are happy with the other, yet you both love each other to death. This is love? Both of you are asleep in your lives. Wake up and smell the Folgers.
2007-10-08 00:16:12 · answer #6 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it normal for couple to fight, but since this is becoming more
of a problem time to deal with what really going on. may some time and space from each other to deal with it. but
that not a good place to be in any realtionship.
2007-10-08 00:13:03 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait...you don't talk to her until she apologizes, and somehow it's you doing everything to make her happy? Are you serious? Sounds like you need to take some responsibility here.
2007-10-08 00:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by god_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and if you are the one who has to take the rap everytime maybe its not worth it two people should share responsabilatiew for whatever or you will not last long believe me
2007-10-08 00:15:50 · answer #9 · answered by Psychologist In The House 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, it is still happening in my relationship... it's just forgive and forget then another fight again.
and i am getting rid of it, though i love this guy... some times i thought of ending our relationship but i am afraid of hurting him.
2007-10-08 00:15:52 · answer #10 · answered by bluesk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋