Family & Relationships - 20 September 2007

i'm thinking of asking my mother-in-law to be in the delivery room for her grandchild. i dont have that great of a relationship with my own mom (verbally abusive, never ever got hugged or told i love you)... and I kind of want a woman in there who cares about me and who's done it before. would it be weird for me to say "you're welcome in the delivery room" ? or would most mothers in law gladly accept?

2007-09-20 08:36:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

don't understand why my ex bf message me again.. he already go back to his 8 years gf..they break and patch many times..
and my this ex bf still sms me..i dont understand why

2007-09-20 08:36:47 · 2 answers · asked by KaiYe T 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-09-20 08:36:34 · 17 answers · asked by Rita 6 in Marriage & Divorce

I am taking a survey, hopefully enough people will answer. Who believes that a mid life crisis is more mental, and family stressing in women then in men?

2007-09-20 08:33:50 · 11 answers · asked by jules vern 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband is severly bipolar and physically,mentally, emotionally, and verbally abusive. I love him but I can not take it anymore. I am scared of him and he told me if I leave he will kill me...I live in a little town with no family or friends, I have no where to go, no money, or car..I have two babies that see him do these things to me...he has never harmed them in any way but he has hurt me many time...so, I am here to find out suggestions on what to do...

2007-09-20 08:33:44 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My wife is still angry at me for some of my habits that I have not rid myself of since my residency. During that time I had put my career before her and our kids and I had a short temper. I tried to change those habits after residency but the process has been too slow for her.
So she has moved our kids with her far away to her hometown. My deployments obviously have not helped any.
I have vowed to ensure that I prioritize my wife and our kids above me now that my surgical training is over and to ensure that my wife will not feel alone again and that we will make decisions together as a couple.
Furthermore, all her affection has disappeared from her correspondence to me. She denies having an affair and I trust her still.
Will my wife ever get over her anger and resentment and can I do anything to expedite that process? Should I still continue to give expressions of affection toward her and just bear the pain that I feel when she does not reciprocate?

2007-09-20 08:33:34 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

im 21 years old and been having consistant hot flashes for the past 3 years... i could be sitting in a cold room and suddenlh have the feeling as if im in an oven.... im concerned about my health and worried about early menopause which has happened in my family before.... - any advice on what causes it or what i should do?...

2007-09-20 08:32:48 · 8 answers · asked by russiansgirl5 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm not to hard to look at and have a good sense of humor.....having said that why does my girl think I'm a dolt......just doesnt seem fair??

2007-09-20 08:32:25 · 8 answers · asked by ? 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

I am separated and have been for 2 months now. I left because of some verbal abuse, neglectfulness, etc. My husband seemed to shut down after repeated attempts of trying to get me to get a job. I wanted to stay home and raise our child. He makes a decent enough amount of money. We are in our 20's and have 2 kids. I want to work things out, he says he wants to and still loves me but has little faith things will work out this time. I want for our family to be back toegther so bad eventually. We do not get along with each others families and I dont have a job, that is his problem with me. What should I do in order to get us back on the right track? I am obsessing over the time period of how long we have been separated and am starting to get very depressed. Any advice, Please! I am doing this on my own and going out of my mind!
Also, it is annoying that he treated me really bad emotionally but acts as if he has little faith that I will do what I am supposed to do! However, I love him!

2007-09-20 08:29:51 · 5 answers · asked by Rebecca H 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-20 08:27:14 · 26 answers · asked by hungrychu 1 in Singles & Dating

So this guy J and I started liking each other about a year ago and we've been really good friends ever since. He has totally led me on and friends have even asked if we were dating. He even told me that I was his dream girl. Anyways I'm just going to cut right to the point. He started acting really different once he moved a couple hours away. Never wanting to talk on the phone, acting like it was a burden, always saying he'll call back but then never would, etc. He has really hurt me b/c basically I'm not good enough for him. he always has to have the best of everything & he wont take a chance on anyone. everything is all about money and connections with him. he thinks that just because im still in school and he's graduated that i'm not good enough. (i'm going to school to be a dentist). i dont want to be with him anymore anyways but i need a response to the email he just wrote me. Here is what he said: "How are you doing? I wanted to send you an email to follow up with the

2007-09-20 08:27:13 · 13 answers · asked by EStar 2 in Singles & Dating

A roomate of mine assumed she was in my bridal party, and i have not had the heart to tell her she isn't. I feel as though my party is big enough and I really want her out of it!! Lately she kind of makes me feel uncomfortable. You know the movie, single white female? Something like that!! Any suggestions??

2007-09-20 08:25:37 · 29 answers · asked by Destiny9282 1 in Weddings

Feels like we are stuck in going through the motions as far as handeling everyday task that I feel like just roommates. Only in first year of marriage.

2007-09-20 08:25:08 · 16 answers · asked by Bethany 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Waht do you think of the husband who was out drinking all night, came in at 4:00 am then showered and hid his underclothes? Then called his wife a stupid f*ckin beotch

2007-09-20 08:23:16 · 14 answers · asked by LaRae 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My partner and I are gunna be having a romantic meal at the weekend at his and he is cooking and preparing everything.The thing is im stuck for ideas on what I could surprise him with coz he always make it so special so does anyone out there know what could do or surprise him with, thx.

2007-09-20 08:22:23 · 6 answers · asked by miss cool 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-20 08:22:14 · 3 answers · asked by Anna H 2 in Family

they were seperated ... marriage on the rocks for over 10 years .. he met someone and fell in love .. wanted to marry the other woman .. but then got back together with wife because she begged him to come back .. and the new woman did not want to stand in the way coz he had 2 kids .. now the wife is on his case for every little thing and is torturing both herself and him.. she knows her husband is probably still in love with the other woman ... could she be right ?

2007-09-20 08:21:42 · 20 answers · asked by lilli 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Marriage is a joke, getting married is cliche. Women lose thier identies to cheating men.. Its such a joke..

oh I just watched bridezilla by the way and those idiots need to get a life..

hope this doesn't offend anyone

2007-09-20 08:21:17 · 10 answers · asked by omg rain is wet 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Well i have been married happily for 5 years I have four kids 2 with the husband and 2 with my ex. I have just come to the conclusion that i want to be with my ex i have always wanted to but he has never been completly right for me I LOVE him and My husband but i reaaaaaallly want to be with my ex but i LOVE my husband and dont want tohurt my kids or husband but what do i do what 2 do

2007-09-20 08:19:46 · 12 answers · asked by teddybearstunna 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-20 08:18:17 · 17 answers · asked by live forever 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-20 08:17:41 · 31 answers · asked by will da real gansta plz stand up 1 in Singles & Dating

Ive know this guy for bout 6 mths now n we hit it off right away.I know his ex and they had just broken up after a almost 3 yr relationship when we met.He told me how she had hurt him pretty bad.We started hangin out, even lost my virginity to him.I thought all was well but we were never in a relationship.He didnt want to be in one because he was afraid to be hurt again and was tired of being tied down.So weve pretty much just been friends with benefits...and not as bad as it seems we are good friends that just happen to fool around every once in awhile.Recently he told me that us bein bf and gf wouldn't happen,that he doesn't want to be tied down again even to a sweet beautiful girl like me, and that he is not gonna get attached to anyone else.I care about him so much and I hate to see him hurt.All I want is for him to be happy.He is the sweetest, most sincere, respectful, funny guy Ive ever met in my life.I just don't want to lose him.what should I do, friends with benefits bad idea?

2007-09-20 08:11:22 · 5 answers · asked by Brit 2 in Friends

My wife and I argue alot and because we're devout Catholics we don't believe in divorce. Do you think that it's better to slap her around a little bit to get her to behave rather than getting a divorce?

2007-09-20 08:11:13 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have been seeing this boy for approx 3 years, he is a great guy both of us at the time we starting see each other were just coming out of bad marriages and agreed that we never wanted to get married again. Well as you should have guessed I really care for this guy and I am now regretting ever stating that I never wanted to get married again because I do believe that he is the guy for me. We do not live together at this time and whenever I ask him where he sees himself 4 years from now he states that he cannot predict the future and is not sure. I know that he does not want to get married and I think I may be alright with that but it also seems like he wants no commitment at all at times. When I ask him if he does not want to get married to me because he is waiting for something better he gets very defensive and states yeah sure that is what I am waiting for and changes the subject. SOOOOO I guess my question is what does everyone think of this!!!

2007-09-20 08:08:32 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

If you like the question, don’t forget click on the star. Thanking you in anticipation

2007-09-20 08:07:54 · 11 answers · asked by ? 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I met my boyfriend (of 15 months) online and we are both attractive people. People seem to be always shocked that "normal people" use online dating as a resource. Why is that?

2007-09-20 08:07:02 · 17 answers · asked by Vwgirl18 4 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-20 08:06:23 · 20 answers · asked by Just Me! 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My eighteen year old cousin loves me a lot but I hate him. In the past he has done crazy things like drugs and suiside. Now he is moving here and I need to stay away from him. My mom and dad will not let him in the house. But when I go to my grandma's I'm afraid he will be there. I don't want to be around him cause I'm only twevle. How do I avoid him?

2007-09-20 08:04:35 · 1 answers · asked by JazCat 1 in Family

Im 23 yrs old, married and have 3 stepkids on child of my own. My husband changes personalities like socks. One day he's the man I want to spend my life with, then next day I want to be so far from him and never think of him again. We are 3 weeks left to deliver our first child together and we are putting up for adoption. Its very hard and nerve racking, my husband is not here for me emotionally, he rarely ever talks to me which he was the talker not me. I am so fed up with having to do everything myself with no support from the man who rushed it all. Should I stay or go? What would you do and why?

2007-09-20 07:59:19 · 14 answers · asked by pchristine84 1 in Marriage & Divorce

we been together long time. he so sweet, such a helpful, everything he is nice man but one problems every time we get fight he get so mad and lost temp and would out control on me & he said he sorry for that and his lost temp, he said he felt like it's not him. and you know i dont like for him been drinking (He drink once a while i would said a couples time in once a few months - he is not drinking person but depend on his mood) but i told him i did not like if he drink he said that im been control him, i was very upset i told him i would never control him but i just dont like him been drinkin' i told him for example he didn't like if i get any piercing he didn't like so i respect that what he don't like. but he said that im control him for me been dont like him drink, am i control? i just dont like it i never control him. and i told him maybe we should go to the counselor he don't want go and ain't feel comfortable, so now how can he calm with his angry temp? & not to out of control?

2007-09-20 07:58:53 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce