Family & Relationships - 20 September 2007

I have been married 5 yrs and we havent had a good relationship bc right at the start of our marriage he got depression lots his job, was on tranquilisers and took him 2 yrs to get a job again. The reason was bc for 7 yrs he wasnt doing what he wanted to do bc he wanted to make me happy. I used to ask him things but he always said he was fine. Now 5 yrs into our marriage we always fight bc he contiunally works late, every weekend is out to sports events and nothing gets done around the house..eg establish our garden, organise a fence wall, put blinds in bathroom instaed of sheets, build our wardroom shelves so clothes arent everywhere...so my point is..these things dont get down the list grows and we fight. All bc he has other priorities in his life...WATCHING SPORT.Ive told him to comprise but he doesnti feel there is no love in the marriage..i keep trying to talk to him and all he constantly says is...things will get better..how much longer do i wait..bc it never happens..

2007-09-20 02:16:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

No insults please,

lol

2007-09-20 02:05:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My fiance and I got engaged over a year ago but postponed the wedding due to financial difficulties and his cold feet. After much deliberation, I decided that postponing wasn't a bad idea...we're both young and in no rush. After about 6 months of just enjoying each other's company, I thought it might be ok to bring up the wedding again, just to see where he stood on the issue. He was nice about it, but said "It hasn't crossed my mind in a while". Then, mid-conversation he said "marriage is dead". His parents had a messy divorce, and so did the vast majority of his extended family. His boss, whom he is very close to, is currently going through a nasty divorce too. I understand that divorce is a concern of his, but I'm tired of paying for a wedding band that I might never wear.I love him, and our relationship is great otherwise, but I feel like he's cursing out marriage before we've even set a date. What can I do to convince him that we don't have to end up like they did?

2007-09-20 02:03:08 · 8 answers · asked by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6 in Marriage & Divorce

My fiance and I are having an outdoor wedding at a country club in our home town next July. Small-ish, only 150-175 people are going to be there, the bulk of which is family and close friends.
I was looking at tuxedos for the big day and had found a few that I like. But, while browsing through one of her bridal magazines, I came across a "groom" in a very nice tan suit, and thought that would look nice; but when I mentioned the idea of my best man and I dressing in suits rather than tuxedos, she didn't seem pleased. Does anyone have experience with this? I just think if I am going to pay $150 for a tuxedo to wear for one day or $250-300 for a great suit I can keep forever..... It's a no brainer for me. Should I just give in and not bring it up again? Or should I try a different approach. It's her day I suppose.... but it makes sense to wear a suit.... It would be very nice, much cooler than a tux, and both myself and my best man could keep the suit.. Help!

2007-09-20 01:59:08 · 19 answers · asked by soccrian 2 in Weddings

2007-09-20 01:57:10 · 10 answers · asked by thing 2 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i do love my husband. he is a wonderful husband , father, etc. he treats me well. he is madly in love with me. i, on the other hand, have no passionate feelings for him. we get along well. help

2007-09-20 01:56:20 · 23 answers · asked by chi chi rodriquez 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I heard today less than 50% of married couples make it to their 25th aniiversary - and most break up after the 7th or 8th year...what's up with that?

2007-09-20 01:54:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have found a wedding dress which i really adore, i dont know if it appears too "simple/casual", Our wedding is in a country area by the lake surrounded by mountains - which will be snowy at the time of our wedding. Despite the snow, the weather is usually pretty good at that time of year anyways and not freezing!!

This is the link to a pic of dress...

http://www.felicitysbridal.co.nz/Gowns/ella5193.jpg

Opinions would be greatly appreciated.

2007-09-20 01:49:01 · 63 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Me and my girl been together for almost 4 years, we love one another and also we already got 2 kids (they 1 one year apart). One thing about our relationship is we never have sex ever since she had my son. She had my son as vaginal section and the doctor did something that is not right to her. So now everytime we trying to have sex, shes pullings me out because shes hurting so bad and she told me its burns her inside. So I respect her and I told her go visit the other doctor and see whats wrong with her. She came back with the result and she says that she got an infection because of what the gyn did to her. Is not all about sex, but I think that in a relationship you gotta have sex in your life especially me. I love her and I don't wanna live her but I dont know what to do.

2007-09-20 01:43:54 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My friends husband will not allow them to have friends and socialize. They have been married for two years and do not socialize at all. They never go to friends or have friends over for dinner, etc. He tells her they are not ready for friends and makes strange excuses, like most people that are from his culture are not good people (at other times they are the best people in the world). It is as though he is ashamed of her.

2007-09-20 01:41:01 · 13 answers · asked by Mina M 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I went to mexico [rosarido] for my 18th birthday spare of the moment kinda thing and disappeared for 2 days...I lost my $400 iphone and had to spend $300 to pay the tijuana cops off because they threatened to take my friends and i to jail...I also missed 3 days of school...how should I explain this all my parents are going to kill me!!

2007-09-20 01:37:36 · 12 answers · asked by mma 1 in Family

Me and my gf dated for almost 2 years but we spent the last 8 months apart on internships.We are each others true loves and everytinwas flowing great until the last month.in the last month she got drunkat a club and didntpick up her phonefor a whole day.she liedto me at firstbut then she told me the truth.i broke up wither cuz she had a habit of lying and i didnt kno if i could believe her. she was devastated and cried and i was mean to her by accident. we got back together 2 weeks later but at teh same time she had found comfort in another guy. we went back to skool and i found out that she was dating me and another guy at the same time. we both cried ...and she said that shes a bad person and she wants to change. she said she doesnt want tohurt me and she says she wishes she could be in acommitted realltionship wit me later on in college. she says she believeswe're soulmmates butshe thinks shes too immature andshe wants to party and get drunk. we're still best friends. future?

2007-09-20 01:32:17 · 4 answers · asked by soccerguy42287 1 in Singles & Dating

he steals from me every chance he gets i am behind on bills and i am raising 9 kids 2 i adopted three are his and three from my previous marriage. i work ft and take care of him i needed him around for his 25 dollar an hour job that he lost because of smokeing crack i know i should leave or make him leave and i do but he comes back and i fall into the trap and he steals everychance he gets he cant stay clean a week i need help just letting go any suggestions i need to know how to stay strong and keep him away from me...... i have no support my family is in another state but i have a job i love and dont want to move..... i have a proterction order against him but i cave in

2007-09-20 01:31:49 · 18 answers · asked by mom 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I am having a problem talking to girls. Its not that i cant approach them, its more like i dont know what to talk about. I pretty much go brain dead around them. I really need help.

2007-09-20 01:25:33 · 6 answers · asked by mason b 1 in Singles & Dating

Husband has been cheating for some time and says he is in love with his mistress (he does not know I am aware of his affair). I no longer want anything to do with him as a husband. However, he has two kids with me...ages 5 and 1. I asked him to move out and he plans on doing so. A divorce is in the works currently. I intend to make him pay financially for his obligations because of how I was treated during my pregnancy. I was given the choice of having my last child or him as a husband. I chose the life of my unborn child. I have thought of all the ways to get back at him but is it really worth the energy. How do I tell my 5 year old that his father was busy leading a double life and could not focus on his marriage to make it work? How do I tell my 1 year old that his father never acknowledge him prior to him being on this earth (though we lived in the same household), has never spent one penny toward him but now wants to claim him as a son now that he is moving out. Should I let him?

2007-09-20 01:11:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

If I were to break the ice and be the first one to make the move. How should I go about that? Also I am about 5 1/2 yrs younger than him does that matter?: I'm 26 and he just turned 32. I have two children so I am rather mature for my age...

2007-09-20 01:06:17 · 2 answers · asked by CuriousChick 1 in Singles & Dating

don't like me and we have nothing in common. I work in a seperate department at my job so I really do not have to communicate with them to get my job done. I try my best to get my job done and go home, without talking to these immature employees, but it seems like they are always wanting to talk to me for some reason. Please Answer. I know that this is not the category to ask this question, but I will get the most responces here.

2007-09-20 01:00:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I need to know cause the whole answer community is telling me he likes me but hes not the kind of guy to make the first move. So how do I ask him out without freaking him out if he just wants to be friends?

2007-09-20 00:58:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i dont know what to do so im stuck help me

2007-09-20 00:53:27 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-20 00:43:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-09-20 00:35:54 · 19 answers · asked by Ravindra 1 in Singles & Dating

My brother is dating this girl that nobody in my family likes except my dad, my mom doesnt even really like her. She's rude, she makes nasty comments, put my brother down, talks to my mom however she wants then kisses her *** when she wants something. I used to like her now shes just a rude ***** that keeps pushing my brother to get married and its only been a year and a half. Hes changed for the worse, hes stingy and he doesnt care about anyone except her family. I know i cant pick who he dates, but he always dates trashy girls.What can i do besides tell the ***** off??

2007-09-20 00:33:10 · 3 answers · asked by Jules000 1 in Family

I'm attending a wedding vow renewal tomoorw, should I take a card and/or present?

It's their 5th wedding anniversary

2007-09-20 00:31:51 · 17 answers · asked by gareth_bancroft 2 in Weddings

Hi This is the first time in 4 yeras I am having the week-end off and i don't know what I am going to do.I said to my girlfriend that she has to help us for that one quite a lot.I know a relationship is 50/50 but by the end of the day I don't want to be the boring guy.She has bought a house 3 month ago. 11 month you have been going out together.Please what woulf you do during the week-end with your partner or girlfriend.Thanks guys

2007-09-20 00:30:08 · 7 answers · asked by Yves m 1 in Singles & Dating

Can you be happy with that?

2007-09-20 00:26:39 · 13 answers · asked by tony s 5 in Singles & Dating

I go to court next thursday, and there they will determine who gets temporary custody. Right now I have my 7 month old son. But the father has hired an attorney to get temp and full custody of our 7 month old. I am in florida, and he is in greorgia. The baby was born in georgia, so i have to go to court in ga. I left the relationship becuase he hit me one too many times. I also have a 6 year old. The kids didn't need to grow up around it. I have alot of affidavits saying what a wonderful caring mother i am ect and how i am with my kids, i also have affidavits from the people I called after the abuse happened. I never called the cops, i was scared and i loved him. i am scared hell get temp custody or even full. IF he gets temp custody. How long will he have him. Also I had to go to a dv shelter from there i moved to fl in another dv shelter. I got a FT great job, my own apartment, kids are in daycare/school. I really dont think I have ne thing to worryabout...

2007-09-20 00:25:07 · 12 answers · asked by Amanda 2 in Marriage & Divorce

whats that mean?

2007-09-20 00:24:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I just came out from a long term relationship of 03years, and there is a lot of things I have realised, at this time I am looking to get to know some serious ladys with principals to share thoughts aboutlife and belliefes and the rest we see?

2007-09-20 00:18:13 · 10 answers · asked by mirk 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-20 00:18:06 · 17 answers · asked by Juie G 1 in Singles & Dating

My boss and I have been sleeping together for 6 months. His wife is so, so close to finding out and confronting me about it, I don't know what to say if she does.

I am in no way attempting to justify my actions. It felt like such a good idea at the time but I am regretting it immensly now.

I just want to ask advice as to how to apologise to her so that I sound genuine (because I am sorry) and to cause her the lease amount of anguish possible. I am in no way seeking forgiveness because I don't deserve it and what I did is unforgivable. I just don't want to make things worse.

What I really don't want is for their marriage to break up because of me. I know that it was fundamentally his fault for asking, and coercing me into it (to begin with) but that does not excuse my actions when I agreed to pursue it.

Has anyone been cheated on before? I know that no apology could make up for the breach in trust but what did you wish the other man/woman had said to you?

2007-09-20 00:17:11 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce