My fiance and I are having an outdoor wedding at a country club in our home town next July. Small-ish, only 150-175 people are going to be there, the bulk of which is family and close friends.
I was looking at tuxedos for the big day and had found a few that I like. But, while browsing through one of her bridal magazines, I came across a "groom" in a very nice tan suit, and thought that would look nice; but when I mentioned the idea of my best man and I dressing in suits rather than tuxedos, she didn't seem pleased. Does anyone have experience with this? I just think if I am going to pay $150 for a tuxedo to wear for one day or $250-300 for a great suit I can keep forever..... It's a no brainer for me. Should I just give in and not bring it up again? Or should I try a different approach. It's her day I suppose.... but it makes sense to wear a suit.... It would be very nice, much cooler than a tux, and both myself and my best man could keep the suit.. Help!
2007-09-20 01:59:08 · 19 answers · asked by soccrian 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If the overall vibe of the wedding is formal, a tux really is the way to go, but if it's a more relaxed event, a suit would be appropriate.
And...it isn't HER day. It's BOTH of your day. That "it's all about the bride" stuff really irritates me (no offense to you personally)
2007-09-20 02:04:09 · answer #1 · answered by melouofs 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Lots of the tuxes that you rent are really just nice suits anyway. The bow-tie and cumberbund combo is a really dated look. Maybe the issue she really has is the color. Of maybe she's worried that you won't look formal enough. Instead of using the words, "tux" and "suit" look at pictures of each. Show her pictures you like in a variety of styles and colors. Try to find a picture of something you can both agree on. Then go to the store and buy something as close as possible to the picture.
On the renting vs. buying debate, you're entirely correct. It makes much more sense to buy a suit you can wear many more times (particularly if you know you'll be going to many weddings or formal events in the next few years) than to rent a suit/tux that you can only wear once. Plus, it's the most important day of your life, too. Do you really want to be wearing someone else's clothes for it? Clothes you buy can also be tailored to fit you better than a rented ensemble will be.
2007-09-20 09:38:13 · answer #2 · answered by corinne1029 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, you are not having a small wedding! small is considered 75 or less by industry standards. You are getting married at a country club, pretty ritzy if you ask me, if she wants a tux, you may want to do it for her since this seems like it is a more formal event than you want to think of it as being?? If you can, maybe you could get the suit for your honeymoon? Just a thought. The suit sounds nice and is a nice idea, think about it and show pics to your fiance! Also, if it is just you and your best man, yea, I would go with the suit, tell her you could use some of the money you will actually be saving (yes saving) to get her something nice on your honeymoon. My husband wore a suit to our wedding and he looked nice.
2007-09-20 09:17:55 · answer #3 · answered by chefddr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like the idea of a nice suit because that's what i'm doing. My fiancee and I are getting married in June on a bluff overlooking the beach. He didn't want to wear a tux and I felt it would be overkill if he did. I'm looking for a nice light linen suit. Something in the beige or creme color family. I would love for him to have a suit that he can wear over again.
Try again with your bride to be. Tell her you are looking at saving money in the long run but if she really wants you to wear a tux rent one instead of buying one. Cuz really, how many guys do you know that kept their tux after their wedding and actually needed it again?
2007-09-20 14:56:01 · answer #4 · answered by musicgrl42002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think suits are much nicer than tuxedos. I'm not a fan of the tan, but a black suit is classic. My husband bought a black Hugo Boss suit and he looked amazing. The tuxedo looks like a waiter to me, but a classic suit is a great investment. Unfortunately, the price may be 500-700 for a Hugo Boss suit...Take your fiance to Bloomingdales, even Macy's and try the various styles. I think she may want black because it's more dressy/weddingish. Make sure the fabric is comfortable for the summer, we had a sales person help us and he was great. They can even do alterations on premises...Tailoring is important so it fits "you"
I helped him with the tuxedo shirt and the tie (champagne silk) cuff links (from my mother), new belt, shoes (he already had bought last year)
You'll be taking your jacket off after the cocktail hour anyway. Good Luck...
NOTE: those rented tuxedos are made of polyester blend and are designed to take more wear and tear to accomodate their rental business, not "YOU" and the july weather... get the suit
I know how your fiance feels about things being perfect but she's more concerned about color and presentation not investments. Explain to her you'd like a better fabric for the July weather and you don't want to wear a polyester suit. To me its a no brainer...Rental polyester tuxedo worn but 1,000 other people and probably smells or a new designer suit that'll last you forever and you'll look more stylish.
2007-09-20 09:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by Lyla 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am getting married next weekend... outside, and the guys are all wearing tan suits. I just think that during the warmer months, guys in tuxedos outside looks really out of place. Here's a pic of my inspiration for our wedding style.
I think that suits look more classy than tuxedos. Like you said, you know that when you see guys in tuxedos that they were rented from the local tux shop for $100 bucks, but when you see guys in nice suits that actually fit them - I don't know - I just like the look better.
http://www.prebble.com/bradysmithwedding.jpg
2007-09-20 11:22:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
150 to 175 people is not a small wedding and if it is at a country club I think you should be wearing a tux. If you just wear a suit you will have guests showing up who are better dressed than you. You don't want that.
2007-09-20 10:32:05 · answer #7 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly its going to totally depend on the style of dress your fiancee is wearing. You need to ask her if its more formal or casual. If its formal the suit won't work (believe me I wanted to wear a suit).
I went with a tux myself and was married outside in July in Georgia. It was hot but you don't think about it as much because of your personal excitement.
So all in all, your bride will have to make that decision based on her dress style. And by the way, 150-175 people isn't a small wedding!!! Good luck and Congrats!
2007-09-20 09:04:37 · answer #8 · answered by maximus_1914 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It really does depend on the type of wedding you are having. Is it very formal? If so, then a tux would be best. But also keep in mind, it is your wedding, and although the suit may look fabulous and economically practical, you want your bride and you to look THE best, not just good.
Tuxes really manage to make any guy look incredibly polished and put together, and for your wedding day, you want both of you to look great, and to look great in your photos. Keep in mind, you are going to be standing next to your fiancee in her formal wedding gown, and a suit, no matter how nice it is, would pale in comparison. You want to "pop" too since it is your special day as well!
Good Luck!
2007-09-20 09:08:51 · answer #9 · answered by Coco 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would simply explain to your intended that you think it looks good, then show her the picture and go on to explain how much more comfortable you would feel. If she still objects, well, it's NOT just her day, it's your day as well ..... or did I miss the part where there has to be a woman AND a man to get the ceremony right???? Anyway, if she still objects you will have to decide if it is worth an argument .... something you both need to get used to thinking about if your married life is going to work out. Happy couples know the value of choosing their battles wisely!! Best of luck!
2007-09-20 09:25:01 · answer #10 · answered by naniannie 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋