I am separated and have been for 2 months now. I left because of some verbal abuse, neglectfulness, etc. My husband seemed to shut down after repeated attempts of trying to get me to get a job. I wanted to stay home and raise our child. He makes a decent enough amount of money. We are in our 20's and have 2 kids. I want to work things out, he says he wants to and still loves me but has little faith things will work out this time. I want for our family to be back toegther so bad eventually. We do not get along with each others families and I dont have a job, that is his problem with me. What should I do in order to get us back on the right track? I am obsessing over the time period of how long we have been separated and am starting to get very depressed. Any advice, Please! I am doing this on my own and going out of my mind!
Also, it is annoying that he treated me really bad emotionally but acts as if he has little faith that I will do what I am supposed to do! However, I love him!
2007-09-20 08:29:51 · 5 answers · asked by Rebecca H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds to me like you will have to get a job either way. If you leave him you will need to get a job to raise your kids and if you convince him to take you back you will need to get a job to fix the relationship.
If you still love him and he is willing to take you back the answer is easy. Get a job and go home and be a family. It's a lot easier and more satisfying than the alternative.
2007-09-20 08:51:40 · answer #1 · answered by ladybug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The verbal abuse is his issue to deal with. You are sure you want him back?
If the two of you didn't agree on the job situation before and you don't agree on it now.... what are YOU going to do? What about a part-time job? That's sort of meeting in the middle isn't it?
If you don't get back together wouldn't you need to get a fulltime job anyway? Did you think maybe he is feeing financial pressures that he doesn't discuss with you and if you had a job he wouldn't be under so much pressure and just maybe the neglect would ease up?
I have a feeling that there is alot you are leaving out of this and it's difficult to give you suggestions that would work in your real situation. Try expanding the details.
2007-09-20 15:43:15 · answer #2 · answered by peggy m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So during the separation you still haven't gotten a job, despite the fact that that was a major issue. You are still playing a blame game and not taking responsibilty. I agree with your soon to be ex, I don't see this working.
What should you do? Find a job woman! Do you know how hard it is to be the sole wage earner of the family? Do you have any idea what kind of pressure that places on him?
Oh and quit with the verbal abuse crap, he was probably tired and cranky and fed up. What do expect from him?
Quit poor meing all over the place and show him that you are capable of doing your fair share.
2007-09-20 15:47:43 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what is best for you and your kids. Get a job and become independant. Don't rely on him and then maybe one day he will trust you again...maybe not.
2007-09-20 15:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by countrychic2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you just don't want to work to me!
2007-09-20 15:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋