i'm thinking of asking my mother-in-law to be in the delivery room for her grandchild. i dont have that great of a relationship with my own mom (verbally abusive, never ever got hugged or told i love you)... and I kind of want a woman in there who cares about me and who's done it before. would it be weird for me to say "you're welcome in the delivery room" ? or would most mothers in law gladly accept?
2007-09-20 08:36:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that is great.I would love the be in the delivery room whenever my son and daughter-in law decide to have a baby.You are a very special daughter-in law,I am sure !!!
2007-09-20 08:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by Teresa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she would be honored. I am a mother-in-law (although I have girls) but the signifigance here is I am also a stepmother and I have been asked as opposed to their real mother to be in there when the baby is born as well as stay and help with the little one for a while. I could not have been more flattered...............If you say your welcome in the delivery room it sounds like just a if you want to. I would tell her that you want her in there and that it would make you feel much more comfortable and need her support. Then there is no question as to why the offer waspresented. Besides it is a great way to build on the relationship you have with her! Good luck and congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-20 09:00:44 · answer #2 · answered by LISA C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answered even though I'm not a MIL. My MIL who more closely resembles your own mother than your particular MIL, WAS in my delivery room with my third baby. She'll tell anyone who asks, and several who didn't what it looked like, ignoring the fact that "it" was my privates. But, at the same time, the delivery room wasn't a "magical" place for me and I didn't care if everyone from the MINGH dynasty was there, I was soo focused inward. It will not be weird to say, "would you like to be there when I deliver your grandchild." Best wishes.
2007-09-20 08:51:42 · answer #3 · answered by baxter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she would be thrilled. She may not accept, I know my Mom didn't want to be in the delivery room for any of her grandchildren as she thought that was for the mother and father to share. I personally wouldn't want anyone but the father in there with me, but we are all different.
But definitely ask, if you'd like her to be there that just shows what a blessed relationship you with her. I'm glad you have an older woman in your life that you think of as a second mother. Sounds like she might be better than the one you were born to. Sad but true.
Don't get me wrong, I do not want to suggest your Mom doesn't love you but she is not close to you and perhaps can not show her feelings. If you want support go to where you know it is offered. Good luck and God bless.
2007-09-20 08:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by Choqs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most mother in laws are fighting to get in the delivery room. I am sure she would be honored and excited.
2007-09-21 02:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mine would have but I would have never invite her. Anyways she's awful. looks like you get along great with yours so why not. the worst that can happen is she says no, but you don't lose anything by asking and if she says yes then that's great. I don't see why she would refuse to be there when her grandchild is born, regardles of her relationship to you. Go for it and ask. Tell her the truth atht you'd like some support in those moments and that you'd love for her to be there...
2007-09-20 08:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by delina_m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a beautiful thing. Sometimes mothers-in-law feel left out! I'm sure she will love being included.
2007-09-20 08:43:09 · answer #7 · answered by Elt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you have your husband tell her that you both would like to have her present. Tell her she is a 'calming force' and would be very welcome. Let her decide. Some people really can't handle that scene. Don't take her answer personal if she can't.
2007-09-24 06:33:36 · answer #8 · answered by Mercedes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask, the most she could do is say no........but, I doubt that she will, most women would want to be there for the miracle.....
Good luck
2007-09-20 08:47:33 · answer #9 · answered by bizzymom38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother-in-law did and I was glad she was there.
2007-09-24 07:13:28 · answer #10 · answered by beaches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋