Well i have been married happily for 5 years I have four kids 2 with the husband and 2 with my ex. I have just come to the conclusion that i want to be with my ex i have always wanted to but he has never been completly right for me I LOVE him and My husband but i reaaaaaallly want to be with my ex but i LOVE my husband and dont want tohurt my kids or husband but what do i do what 2 do
2007-09-20 08:19:46 · 12 answers · asked by teddybearstunna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is my first marriage
2007-09-20 08:30:23 · update #1
Ok Hold up Im not leaving My husand At all I really love him i didnt ask all to be mean about the situiation because the relationship is good i just want to get more feed back from people that dontknow me or my husband
2007-09-20 08:32:09 · update #2
yeah I just Guess its just because my ex is more adventerous but lke i tok time to think bout the situiation and it sooooooo not worth it...... It's not just me its my kids 2 in this
2007-09-20 09:39:14 · update #3
So you come to the conclusion that you want to be with your ex but you still love your husband. And your sure your ex is completely right for you now but wasn't for all these years. Sounds like one humongous gamble to me.
Ok, lets think this out. You dump hubby (who you also love) and totally crush his world. You take your family through divorce process which is stressful and heartbreaking.
Then at last, you reunite with ex and live happily ever after. Right? Wrong!!!!!! Let's say ex isn't all that you believe he is in your head. Then what? Dump ex BF to be with ex hubby. Meanwhile your kids are being jerked back and forth and thinking "come on mom, get your $h*t straight". More than likely hubby will be done with you and you could be left out in the cold with neither one and four children looking up to you for their stability. Don't gamble with your family because of your selfish feelings. Too much to lose and not much to gain.
How did you even allow yourself to be in this position. Your married and in love, so why do you even take the time to think about ex in the first place. Doing so has made you vulnerable and has clouded your judgment. Do what's right for you and your family, stop thinking, talking and seeing the ex, nothing good will come of this, and there way to much to lose. Please seek some counseling. Wish you the best.
2007-09-20 08:54:17 · answer #1 · answered by Phil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you didn't say was if your current husband is right for you, though you did say your ex isn't.
I'd say you are in a bit of a pickle. Do you hurt the husband who has provided for you and the kids these past 5 years or do you go to the guy you've never felt was right for you.
You will hurt someone badly if you make the wrong choice here. No one can make it for you, you have to do this alone.
Ask yourslef, why am I not with my ex even though we had two children together. Was he responsible, was he a good provider and is this just a case of wanting what you really can't have or maybe the "bad boy" attraction that some have.
Best weigh out all the options then listen to your head before you follow your heart.....especially if you are after something that isn't really there.
2007-09-20 08:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you "LOVE" your husband then you honor and respect him by either putting these feelings aside or being completely honest with him and getting a divorce. Don't be surprised when your husband and kids ARE hurt. You got yourself into a very serious commitment by marrying this man and you can't just lightly break it. Think long and hard before you make your decision and realize that polling the world for answers, will not really help you in this matter. It comes down to YOU.
2007-09-20 08:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by Erin B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baji ji, i'm very sorry to take heed to your marriage situation. the main marriage are like that on and stale. i'm married for a million 3 hundred and sixty 5 days and four months hamdullallah so we continually went like on and stale as I mean as quickly as we argument and different time we making a love. he's likewise my cousin. i do no longer comprehend what up on your husband. i'm particular there would desire to be some thing reason that he do no longer talk with you. I additionally comprehend that your husband does not love you in that way. attempt to take a seat down with him and speaking with him very nicer way and ask him what venture situation he have. Ask him a question as lots you are able to. which you think of it significant you to ask. pay attention, it would be somebody have placed the black magic on your husband because it ensue load people have a situation over the moneys, the marriage, the homestead, the dating, can no longer have a toddler and etc. you would be able to desire to make certain approximately it if he have or no longer. Inshallah Allah (SWT) would be restoration your marriage paintings and provide lots love between you and your husband, Ameen, Baji...
2016-12-26 20:02:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should have come to that conclusion before you divorced him and married your current husband. Stay with your husband...your ex is an ex for a reason.
Not trying to be mean...but you did ask what to do? You didn't say whether you had intentions of leaving your husband.....so if you didn't like my first suggestion...How about this....GET OVER YOUR EX....and focus on your husband......what are your other choices girl?
2007-09-20 08:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should be grateful for what you have. You have a husband that is willing to take on two kids that are not his. If you get with your ex, you will be sorry. You can't take that back. Then you husband will not trust you and you will just make a big mess!
2007-09-20 08:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by countrychic2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and think about what it is that makes your ex seem so attractive suddenly. Now think about WHY he is your ex.
Could it be that your ex is more exciting because he hasn't as many responsibilitis as your hubby...or maybe you miss the times you and your ex had.
I hope you can work all this out inside yourself and be totally happy with your hubby again.
Good luck
2007-09-20 08:36:43 · answer #7 · answered by Willow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two marriages down, how many yet to go?
The problem ain't either of your husbands. Look a little closer to home, honey!
The problem is you; grow up!
The truth hurts!
2007-09-20 08:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by RunningUte 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you bump your head or something? Why would you want to reeeeaaaly be with someone who has NEVER been completely right for you? ? ? Now, you sit down and re-read your own question and ask yourself "am I nuts?"
2007-09-20 09:04:01 · answer #9 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See the ex on the side.
2007-09-20 08:37:48 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋