Family & Relationships - 7 September 2007

When ever my husband and I argue, I can never just let it go. I will usually hold a grudge and give him an attitude for a few days, then I get over it. I know that it is a problem I have. I have tried not to do it, and when I am angry, I tell myself that I just need to get over it. However, then I think about whatever the situation is, and it makes me angry and I just can't get over it so quickly. Any ideas on how I can help myself not be so angry all the time. He is really good and just letting things go, so that helps. I really do try, but it doesn't work.

2007-09-07 03:32:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I know this guy who works at my kids' day care and he is FINE! I want to email him on myspace since I wouldn't do it at the day care in front of the kids. I don't want a relationship, but I've had a crush on him for over a year. I can't resist, is this okay and would a guy that young be interested in an older woman?

2007-09-07 03:30:30 · 8 answers · asked by scorpiosweetness1 2 in Singles & Dating

So im 20, pregnant and live with my parents... And my dad tells my mom and i last night that he doesnt think he loves her anymore. And he jsut wants to get out.. .He wont leave us until we are financially stable. And till i have the baby. And he said we can sell the house and take all the money. that he just wants to take his harley and go..... WTF .. my mother and i are soo shocked. and i dont know what to do

2007-09-07 03:29:41 · 23 answers · asked by melig786 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I've been dreading this for months now, but its finally time for my fiance and I to create a registry. People have been asking us incessantly where we are registered, and I just can't put it off anymore. I'm really thankful that our guests want to be so generous, but the thought of registering makes me nervous. Its such a touchy subject and can easily be taken too far or abused by so many people and I really don't want to be one of them. There are specific things we need for our home like dishes (a lot of ours broke when we moved) and new linens and towels. All of our kitchen stuff is hand-me-down as well and a lot of it is well overdue to be replaced. I'm worried though, about registering for things we think we need, but don't actually need. Since we're both just starting out and stuff, we aren't really sure how to approach this. I'm not a greedy person, and I don't want to overdo it just to fill up spots on the registry. As a guest, what turns you off about a registry? Cont. below..

2007-09-07 03:27:16 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

My husband is a huge sports fanatic. He plays basketball a few times a week. When he is not playing, he is always watching a game or just sports center. He will watch a game, basketball, football, baseball and/or UFC, and then he HAS to watch the high lights of the game he just watched. How can I get it through to him that this is affecting our relationship. Our nights consist of me in 1 room and he in another. I have tried talking to him hundreds of times. He will do good for a couple weeks, then we are having the same argument. I try to get involved and will watch sometimes, ask questions, or just do anything to get him to pay attention to me instead of the TV all the time. It just gets old after a while.

2007-09-07 03:25:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-07 03:25:26 · 17 answers · asked by SimplyHappy 4 in Weddings

2007-09-07 03:24:59 · 10 answers · asked by jeannieboop 4 in Marriage & Divorce

what are the qualities men usually seek in a women?

2007-09-07 03:24:56 · 10 answers · asked by christine l 2 in Singles & Dating

I made him leave last night, he will NOT hit me again! I need to ask for allimony(sp?) too because I cant pay all the bills by myself. I really am not as upset as I thought I would be about the situation. I guess after 2 years of hell...you really dont care anymore. I work 3 jobs and struggle to do what I can but I do a pretty good job! Anyway I guess I just need some advice and some one to tell me it will be ok! I know life will go on...but sometimes it doesnt feel that way. I will hold my head high and carry myself like I always have! I can tell you one thing though, I WILL SURVIVE! lol. thanks in advance!

2007-09-07 03:24:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

What is your secret? What advice do you give those who are having troubles? What little tips can yu give us all to improve our relationships?

Here is my tip: Do the best that you can to make your spouses day, a better one every day.

2007-09-07 03:20:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I really love my boyfriend... he is perfect except the fact that he is so judgemental.

He is a graduate of Ivy school, and I am not. He always talks about how boring my work is (information technology). I know it is not intentional, but it hurts me a lot.

How can I deal with this feeling? Am I just insecure?

2007-09-07 03:18:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-07 03:18:16 · 4 answers · asked by torture26 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-07 03:15:53 · 13 answers · asked by Ms. Re37 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm waiting for that special girl in my life. I've found her, but she has no idea how I feel. I know it's her. That feeling's in me. I want to "save" myself for her...you know...but she isn't a virgin...W'e're very good friends. She's my best friend (not sure if I'm her's though)She could very well not like me at all....Should I wait? Am I a loser?

2007-09-07 03:14:47 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Everyone says that I shouldnt make a big deal about my husband looking at images of other women. Here is the thing 1 year ago he started acting diff.around me putting me down for no reason at the same time he was looking @ porn on the internet. Since then I have been a little insecure about myself not just b/c he looked at other women but b/c of the put downs. I have always felt he was comparing the way I look to how the women he saw looked. I wont lie I notice good looking guys and I wouldnt have a problem w/ him looking @ other women if it wasnt for the put downs. So my debate wasnt over him looking I know he will look but dont make me feel bad about myself and dont talk about other hot chicks to your friends when I am around. Thats all I am not that bad of a wife. I ask for some respect. We have come close to divorcing over this and I know it would be stupid to lose him over this especially since we have 2 little ones who need us. He doesnt look @ it anymore not at home anyway.

2007-09-07 03:14:36 · 3 answers · asked by hotmoma1 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I wants to ensure that no woman get pregnant for me at this stage because if it happen, it wil affect my career and all my plans and as a result, i have tried to abstined from having sex but am affriad of this will affect me in time to come. Though my GF has been unhappy over this development for quite some time and she sometimes called it quit but she later come back.

Now am emotionally disturbed and confused on how to go about this issues. Is there any other sure way to be safe other than using condom which she frawned at. You advice is highly needed.

2007-09-07 03:11:21 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-07 03:09:59 · 3 answers · asked by PrettyAKA 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i cant help myself, i love love love love love females.
but im crazy bout my dude.
helppppppppppp.

2007-09-07 03:08:00 · 10 answers · asked by ..CassyyBugg*[♥] --lovesjosh 2 in Singles & Dating

How do you begin to forgive someone? you've lost the trust already, so where do you start? I really love my husband, we have children together, I thought we had a good relationship. He didn't physically cheat, but isn't the emotional part enough?

2007-09-07 03:06:56 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

ok so i dont listen to rap or r&b none of that and i go to a gettho *** school and the kids there aro so dumb *** hell and the way i am or the way i talk or dress is white to them of corase they dumbasses dont know ****.. but cause im a punk or whatevea so they make fun of me and ok so yesterday i was on the bus and a girl i knew in 7th grade she saw me and goes hey and then she goses I STILL SEE YOUR A LITTLE WHITE GIRL!! & i like laughed with her but really i wanted to punch her in her face but her mom was on the bus with her damit cause she was going to get knockd the **** out..any way this has been ever since i can remeber it's jelously i think cause im not like thoses other dummb *** gettho biThces and anyway my QUESTION is how do i not get mad or want 2 pucnh people in the face or what do i say when they offend me ?? im black and i have my own style im not like them,at all but beside of being black like them,they think im better then them

2007-09-07 03:05:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Two years ago I discovered my husband was chaating.Don't know if this was first time. We remained together although he now has bought an apartment. He lived in it for a while but is now living at home full time including evenings. If I ask what he is going to do with it he says he might sell it but he doesn't want to rent it out to anyone because its new and its a shame to let others spoil it. I was under the impression that the affair had ended long before he now says it ended because we were sleeping together and he seemed to be trying to change our marriage for the better. He now says that he hasn't seen this other person since Xmas last year. I was suprised, but I am pretty sure that he doesn't see her now. This latest revelation has unsettled me greatly and is making me think that I must be pretty dumb to trust anything he says, but why do I go on forgiving him? I suspect that he is waiting for our daughter to go to University next year before he leaves, but I could be wrong.

2007-09-07 03:05:04 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Hi, after her 2nd day in school, my daughters teacher sent home a note asking me to work on spelling her name and alphabet. I thought to myself "Ok, but this is the 2nd day and there is no prerequisite for children that age to meet a set standard of penmanship before entering kindergarten." So, I replied to her note thanking her for her letter and also asking her if this was a general note to ALL parents or if my daughers handwriting (on the 2nd day of school no less) was not comparable to the others students in some way.

What do you make of this letter and my response? Do you think my reply was necessary? I mean, c'mon!! I'm sending her to school to learn these things not for the teacher to ask me to teach it! (ofcourse I don't mind going over writing w/my daughter but I'm sure you know that's not the point) Thank you everyone for your response.

2007-09-07 03:04:28 · 25 answers · asked by Hope 4 in Marriage & Divorce

Hi..My boyfriend told me if we get married he wouldn't mind if i meet other men and even would turn him on to see me intimate with another man.Is that normal or there is something wrong with him?

2007-09-07 03:04:13 · 6 answers · asked by Malina 1 in Singles & Dating

She has a boyfriend now who she's living with. The chances of getting back together are really small even though I know that she still has feelings for me too. I'm probably just torturing myself by putting myself in that situation. What advice can you give me? I know that most people will just say to cut it off completely, but I'd like to hear about some of your experiences and how you handled them and how they turned out.

2007-09-07 03:02:53 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

a person greiving over a loss

2007-09-07 02:59:49 · 8 answers · asked by Murray S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

If someone e-mails me to tell me that they can't come to my wedding after they received the Save-the-date card, should I still send them an invitation? On one hand, I feel like I should, since the Save-the-date card implies that they will get an invitiation. On the other hand, if they said no, I don't want them to feel like I sent them an invitation just so that I could get a gift. What is the etiquette on this?

2007-09-07 02:51:48 · 17 answers · asked by Laura M 2 in Weddings

2007-09-07 02:49:02 · 6 answers · asked by Venci D 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

My partner and I have been together almost 8 years. We have had our ups and downs but always seemed to be able to work things out. He lied to me yesterday. I asked him the day before if any of the woman on his facebook list (because he keeps adding woman)*old friends* were his ex girlfriends. He told me no.none of them were. Then last night we were talking about it and he slipped by accident and said the girl who contacted him by email was his ex girl frien. So because he didnt add her he felt he wasnt lying when I asked and said I didnt know what I meant. I feel like theres a knife in my chest because this is not the first time (i didnt word it properly) and so it wasnt a lie. 8 years is a long time to dedicate my life to someone so literal. He emailed me this morning because he knows I am still upset and said"I am sorry about lying to you my dear – I did not clue in to what you were saying and ,meaning and if I did I would have said so." Can you give me your honest opinion please.ty

2007-09-07 02:47:05 · 9 answers · asked by Survivor 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-07 02:45:28 · 22 answers · asked by rambo 2 in Singles & Dating

When I married my husband I did take the vow to love honour and obey. my husband took the vow to love honour and cherish, I do love him very much and our marriage is good he works very hard. I on the other hand have never worked, he won't allow it. We do go to swingers clubs and i do most things my husband wants me to do. But now says he wants to join a bdsm club and i,m not sure anyone tell me more about this.

2007-09-07 02:45:09 · 18 answers · asked by bb 1 in Marriage & Divorce