She has a boyfriend now who she's living with. The chances of getting back together are really small even though I know that she still has feelings for me too. I'm probably just torturing myself by putting myself in that situation. What advice can you give me? I know that most people will just say to cut it off completely, but I'd like to hear about some of your experiences and how you handled them and how they turned out.
2007-09-07 03:02:53 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How is it stalkerish to have lunch with an ex-girlfriend? I didn't force her to go with me (it was her idea) and she told me that she still really likes me. I just think that it would be too tough to get back together though.
2007-09-07 03:14:26 · update #1
no way, she probably still likes you too. be there for her, because if he eventually hurts her, she'll know that you have always been there for her. and want to get back together :)
2007-09-07 03:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by Josh's Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like you have some kind of needs, or maybe you're having trouble coping with the fact that she's moved on. Are you lonely, are you yearning for some attention you haven't had in a few weeks. She's playing the game and she's giving that to you. Of course there is the possibility that she may still love you, but I think she's just not happy where she is. You treated her better, gave her the many things that she needed. He's not doing that. If he was, then that's all she'd be thinking about. You're walking on hot coals right now bro. It didn't work out the first time, and she was fast the jump on someone elses gravy train. There's nothing wrong with letting her go completely. If you love her, and if she loves you, then in the end it'll work out. If it doesn't, by then, you won't give her two thoughts anyways. You'll have moved on and found someone more suitable for you, or flat out realized that she's not for. Good luck. You're in control here. Don't let it be the other way around.
2007-09-07 03:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by pepinousmc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult to say what you should do in your situation. First off, it was not wrong what you did because her boyfriend didn't find out which is okay. If you doubt the fact that you two will not be together anymore then you should drop those feellngs now because you are wasting your time if you are thinking negative like that. If you know she has feelings for you the same way you have for her than you might have a chance then.However, its best not to get mixed up in her life now because all you will be doing is hurting yourself that is a sign of self -destruction. You are hurting yourself which is dangerously not healthy. Try to get away from her and get involve with activities you enjoy doing. Also, be around people who are positive they will cheer you up a lot.
2007-09-07 03:17:16 · answer #3 · answered by Roger P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I broke up about few months ago from a 4 year relationship. It was hard at first as your routine changes however we talk to each other once in a while. To be honest with you, the only way to avoid this is to avoid her. I had to do that with my ex. I distracted myself from other activities and got myself out there in the market. I have been dating someone else now and things seem much better. Of course those feelings still exist. But the reality is, you have to move on. She has someone already and you don't want to end up being "The Other man".
Good luck!
2007-09-07 03:08:49 · answer #4 · answered by Isha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple of months ago, I had dinner w/ an ex of mine who I still have feelings for. She too is living w/ her boyfriend and still has strong feelings for me. To cut a long story short, we ended up sleeping together again and again and again....this went on for a couple of months until I ended things due to the fact that I couldn't go on with that type of relationship with her when I wanted more than just a physical relationship. It sucks but oh well.....gotta move on. Good luck.
2007-09-07 03:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by Gunner For Life! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am kinda in the same situation except my bf and i are stil together. we lived together for 3 1/2 years i left him about 3 months ago. we started off by seeing each other for lunch or to hang out for a lil while. We got back together shortly after that but have decided not to live together yet. Things are working out ok right now. Its hard to completly let go of someone. If she is seeing someone else and they are living together its best for you to cut yourself out of her life. You are only going to get hurt. Hope it all works out for you. I wish you the best!
2007-09-07 03:11:13 · answer #6 · answered by Big D's Sexy Peach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not the best idea.....but you need to start the closure process, unless she is planning on leaving the other guy and getting back together.........
I have been in the same situation, the hardest thing was to make and take the closure STEP...but once it is done it's done....
Ending the relationship does not mean you can't still be friends but that comes later after you have had time to heal your heart and move on.............sometimes it may not be the best idea to hang out or have lunch,....it is too much like Old times and dosen't help heal............
Hope it helps...Good Luck
2007-09-07 03:09:17 · answer #7 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmm... i think its pretty normal that u still want to be a part of her life but since she has a man it may hurt u i think that for now u should just be friends and maybe wait in case her relationship doesnt work out cuz in the in the end u just want to see her happy. and yes u are putting ur self in torture but u really cant help it ,huh?
2007-09-07 03:14:46 · answer #8 · answered by andrea1muneca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and move on with someone esle then you can all go out it won't hurt as much or just keep away till you get your feelings healed.
2007-09-07 03:08:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't wrong to have lunch with her, but it's a waste of time trying to win her back. It's now time to move on. She has.
2007-09-07 03:06:44 · answer #10 · answered by jack of all trades 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋