My husband is a huge sports fanatic. He plays basketball a few times a week. When he is not playing, he is always watching a game or just sports center. He will watch a game, basketball, football, baseball and/or UFC, and then he HAS to watch the high lights of the game he just watched. How can I get it through to him that this is affecting our relationship. Our nights consist of me in 1 room and he in another. I have tried talking to him hundreds of times. He will do good for a couple weeks, then we are having the same argument. I try to get involved and will watch sometimes, ask questions, or just do anything to get him to pay attention to me instead of the TV all the time. It just gets old after a while.
2007-09-07 03:25:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yep I understand sister girl I had the same problems with him and the computer and well I am a computer person too but sometimes I get tired and he always wants to play games. Hell I play games too but how much can you really play a game? I tried to get his attention as well by getting involved in the games that he likes and the things that he is into but when it seemed that everything that I was into was the same and the things I want to do was kicked to the curb I felt alone. I forgot who I was because now all I lived for was to please him.
It almost seemed that I was no longer his wife and I was now his buddy, his game pal or his comforter. These are for your kids not your husband.
I suggest that you guys share interests if he doesn't do what you want to do then you know that you have to get a marriage counselor because you would have marital problems. Marriage is a partnership and I think that you have to be 50/ 50 for it to work not 99/1 and this is what is happening. You are doing all the work in this relationship.
Go up to him and ask him if he wants things to work out and if so he needs to cooperate. Tell him that you feel alone in your marriage and you need more from him. Make him know that he is neglecting you and the marriage for a game that can live on forever but you aren't sure by the rate he is going at if you relationship will. I think that he might give you an opening ear with that one. You dererve more,,,
2007-09-07 03:41:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn off the tv and tell him Enough. Say, our marriage is suffering and you seem like you couldn't care less because all you do and think about is sports. There is more to life. If you care about me and us then you will give some more time to me. The sports team and players couldn't care less about you so why are you giving them so much of your time.
Make a regular date. But first, figure out what you want. Tell him. Maybe get some hobbies and interests of your own that way you'll be doing your thing while he's doing his.
2007-09-07 03:47:39 · answer #2 · answered by Unsub29 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married 33 years & I have the same problem and tried the same solution(s) as you have. I finally took up a hobby (crocheting) that I can do in the same room; I will also read during the games. Of course, these solutions just aren't the same as someone actually paying attention; at least you'll be in the same room with him.
Debra C has a GREAT solution - hopefully he is more than willing to give up one night of sports to be with you. It may still take hundreds of reminders to change his habit; hopefully he is worth it.
Good luck!
2007-09-07 03:48:20 · answer #3 · answered by howmidoin? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is designed to help both people achieve their goals. You need to sit down and PLAN with him.
He wants to watch sports (maybe not the most ambitious but it's his choice). What are your goals? Once you have your goals, then you can talk to see how to achieve both.
If you have your goals listed, then put on a skimpy outfit, grab a basketball, set up a garbage basket on one side of the T.V. room, and pretend you're Lebron James trying to single handedly defeat the entire San Antonio Spurs team with several deeks and a 180 reversal dunk. He'll relate and you'll have his full attention! :-)
2007-09-07 03:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by Vitiran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well guys love sports what can you say.
he might miss the time he played
you just need to deal with it some how
you cant ask him to stop being a guy and doing
guys things or you might not have him
any longer
wake up you are married to a guy who loves sports
i love sports as well and my guys does so maybe you need
to find someone who dont like it as much
2007-09-07 03:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by suepooh23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty hard to be a sports nut wife. Try getting him to set one night a week where he has to make you his one and only concern and then you have something to look forward to and you get quality time with him.
2007-09-07 03:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get naked ,
tvs cant offer sex
2007-09-07 03:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋