So im 20, pregnant and live with my parents... And my dad tells my mom and i last night that he doesnt think he loves her anymore. And he jsut wants to get out.. .He wont leave us until we are financially stable. And till i have the baby. And he said we can sell the house and take all the money. that he just wants to take his harley and go..... WTF .. my mother and i are soo shocked. and i dont know what to do
2007-09-07 03:29:41 · 23 answers · asked by melig786 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sweetie this is between your mom and dad and has nothing to do with you. My husband and I have a son and his girlfriend staying with us untill a house they are renting is ready. We have a house full of grandchildren around all the time and we really don't mind. I think things are only going on with your parents and remember that they have a different relationship with each other than you. your father sounds like he could be going through a midlife crisis and is very confused about himself right now. Some men feel at this time that life is passing them by and they don't want to get old. I am sure that your mother was hurt deeply when your father said thet he didn't think that he loved her anymore! That was very hurtful for you to hear as well and he could have not said that in front of you. A midlife crisis is a very dangerous time for any marriage when a man goes through this. Men are open emotionally to doing a lot of crazy things because they look at their lives and think this is as good as its going to get. So they think the grass is greener on the other side and some even run off with younger women in hopes of finding some kind of youth in themselves.Your Dad may be very vulnerable right now and if its possible your mother needs to get him into counseling and go there with him. Sometimes a therapist can get the man back on track before he messes up his marriage.I know that you love both of your parents so be there for them and give them some time and space to work out their problems. If there are any friends and family go visit them or spend the night once in awhile to give them time to discuss things in private with each other. Hopefully things will work out between them but for now find a way to give them both some alone time together. You take care and best wishes to you and your baby.
2007-09-07 04:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sure sounds like mid-life crisis to me. Mom needs to sit him down and get him to talk a bit more. Why he doesn't think he loves her anymore and why he feels the need to just get on his harley and go. He sounds lost and fearful and afraid he is missing out on what he really wants in life. Tell her not to take this sitting down; you know, don't let it be so easy for him. He has her, right there, in front of him to turn to with his deep feelings and thoughts.
2007-09-07 10:37:48 · answer #2 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He dosen't think he loves her anymore?? He don't know for sure? She can see if he'll try counseling if he don't want that then just let him go for a little bit. Sometimes all they need to do is to take a break and sow some wild oats. When he figures out what he left he'll be back. Don't give up on him especially if there hasn't been any marital problems till now.
You need to take care of yourself and not worry so much for your health and your baby.
Good Luck & God bless
2007-09-07 10:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by Virginia B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Any middle aged man that wants to solve his problems by riding his Harley into the sunset is DEFINITELY having a mid-life crisis!
2007-09-07 11:12:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
something is bothering him big time, and it sounds like a mid-life crisis, or that he doesn't know how to handle things in a different way, OR that he's holding something in.
I'd say just to be supportive and let him have some space for now, but maybe try to get him seen by a proffessional too.
Good Luck!
2007-09-07 10:38:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not blame him two woman in the house. A dumb doughtier that dose not know how to keep her legs crossed. A baby on the way. That if he stays their will have to raise. Probable no good sex life. I'd run like to. What can you say. you two have hurt this man very very bad. He thought he Had a doughtier that had her head on. How much must this man take for the two of you. both of you get a life. Respect this man.
2007-09-07 10:44:17 · answer #6 · answered by tadm 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don`t know the WHOLE story .
Maybe at age 20 and pregnant he is ashamed of you and maybe he and your Mother might be having problems over this .
He may of thought his days of raising babies was over .
Where is your Husband ,bf or whatever ? Why aren`t you living on your own. You like loving as an adult ,now maybe you should be responsible and LIVE like one >>>>>>
2007-09-07 10:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
He's probably got a girlfriend on the side. Sorry, but few men go off without someone to go to.
And yes, many men feel scared of getting old and they try to prove they are still young. The pity is that they can't stop the aging process. But they manage to break up families in their desperation.
I hope he comes to his senses.
2007-09-07 10:34:25 · answer #8 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well it could be midlife crisis but he might not love her anymore sometimes people fall out of love with the other you know
so who knows
good luck
2007-09-07 10:33:38 · answer #9 · answered by suepooh23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may very well be having a mid life crisis but dear it is not up to you to do anything. This is between your mother and your father. You can be the shoulder your mother leans on but stay out of it.
2007-09-07 10:36:03 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋