Family & Relationships - 28 August 2007

Okay yesterday I had A Sleepover with a few freinds.
My mom said dont take the memory card to the digital right and i begged so she gave in. anyways. at the party i took a few pcitures right.
then from what i heard i think i left it on. then i go check it and all the memory is dleted.
all 358 photos.
photos of my bro's communion. my 7 year old cuzin from italy. my cottage this year and last year. my trip to quebec. ETC ETC ETC

when i found out the files were dleted the ruined the WHOLE party cuz i started bawling my eyes out because i was scared my mom was gonna be really mad. i knew she was obvilulsy gonna get amd but i swear i never did it.

when she picked me up today i was in BIG trouble. no phone, clean up the whole hosue and basically nothing. stay in yur room except for whne yur cleaning or eating or crapping.
i snuck on the comp.

ive tried a few programs to recover the files but thy dont seem to work for me.
any advcie?
to get the files?
or help w. mom?
PLEASE!

2007-08-28 03:10:45 · 34 answers · asked by tickingclocks 3 in Singles & Dating

plz be realistic

thanks ppl :)

2007-08-28 03:09:35 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I was going through a change in my life and needed a break from relationships and brushed off this guy who was really interested in me. Now, I can't help but constantly think about him. Why am I feeling this way and how do I start talking to him without losing some credibility?

2007-08-28 03:09:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Petty. Ive been asking for my belongings for 4 months now and nothing. My wonderful ex boyfriend can't seem to make the time to either A: pack my stuff and set it out his front door. B: let me pack my own belongings. or C: take my stuff to a neutral zone so we can exchange it or leave it at a friends house for me to pick up.
I have brought law officials into it but I don't have proof that those things are indeed, mine...so I can't do small claims court.
But that isn't what is bothering me. What bothers me is WHY he is refusing me what is rightfully mine even though he makes more than the average American per year, is 23 years old and can afford his own stuff!!!. We were each other's first loves and moving in together was a first time for the both of us. Our breakup was about a 10 on the rick tor scale, it wasn't good. Is he trying to hold onto my memory? Is he waiting for the right time? or is he trying to mess with me, knowing that my stuff in his possession is going to eat @ me?

2007-08-28 03:08:30 · 19 answers · asked by ♥Beezy♪ 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, so I've been thinking about this a lot lately. I still have my dad and of course I'm going to dance with him at my wedding. But my godfather is a very big part of my life and I want to dance with at my wedding also. We want to even it out anyway because I'll dance with my dad, he'll dance with his mom and then his step mom so since I dont have a stepdad, I want to dance with my uncle. I'm not sure of what song to dance to though. I've always thought of Hero by Bette Midler. Does anyone else have any suggestions??? Thanks

2007-08-28 03:06:14 · 13 answers · asked by savannah710c 3 in Weddings

I was unhappily married for a long time. I loved him but we were so different, we divorced. I met a man who I 'm falling for. He's great. he's funny, handsome, smart. We get along great and enjoy each other's company. I wonder though, if all relationships are like that in the beginning? are there any red flags I should watch out for? I know I'm dwelling on this too much but I can't help it. I'm so happy, I feel it's not going to last... sigh

2007-08-28 03:04:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Th trend is ovbious: People are getting married later in life than ever before. People are waiting longer to make a commitment to their partners. There's also an icreading rise of people who just don't want to get married-they may juts have a baby togther whether by choice or not. Back in the older days people would get married right after high school. Although times have changed, what do you think will happen in the next few generations? Will marriage be very rare? If people are waiting so late maybe some people will just never get married, maybe they'll live together, etc. What do you think?

2007-08-28 03:03:58 · 9 answers · asked by FoodFitnessLife 3 in Marriage & Divorce

And vice versa: what's the % of relationships in which guys get oral from their girlfriends?

2007-08-28 03:03:18 · 5 answers · asked by lipgloss 1 in Singles & Dating

Kind of a weird sex question...

I have been with my boyfriend for quite a while now, and, all in all, things are going well.

Here's the situation - we are both monogamous, and have both been tested before we got into the relationship, and I am on the Pill, which I take relgiously. He still only wants to have sex with a condom. What gives? I mean, does he think I am being unreliable with my BC? That doesn't make sense, as he sees me take it all the time - at the same time, every day. I never miss a day. Maybe he thinks I might cheat? No way! I don't understand. We have been really responsible thus far, I just think that sex feels better 'ungloved', and since we are only sleeping with each other, have proof that we are both clean, and I am on BC, what's his hangup?

He's seen my paperwork, and I've seen his.

2007-08-28 03:01:40 · 10 answers · asked by HooliganGrrl 5 in Singles & Dating

A new law under consideration in Virginia would require men to register themselves and the name, address, and phone number of the woman they had sex with outside marriage, each time it happens. Not doing so would block them from any parent right claim should a child result from the action. The woman can still sue for child support or place the child for adoption.

2007-08-28 03:01:32 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I recently got a new job and I got married 2 years ago and I'm already bored out of my mind. I do the same thing every day and I don't know what else is out there. My wife talks to much and it drives me crazy. She'll ask the same question over and over and I have to answer it each time or she gets upset and says I'm ignoring her. She is sweet as could be and does not know how annoying she is being to me. I should sit her down and talk to her, right? She gets all defensive and we just get in a fight, so its not worth it. I thought the new job would help but I think it's made things worse. This is the vicious circle of my life. I need some wisdom from someone out there. Anyone got any worthy advice for me?

2007-08-28 03:00:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

... and were in love (as well as me being very attractive) and what if I was a firefighter and got burned in a HORRIBLE fire. My body did not suffer any real damage, but my face was burned severely, the tissue on my face completely just disfigured. Would you stay with me and stick by me? Or leave me?

2007-08-28 02:58:36 · 4 answers · asked by Automaton 5 in Singles & Dating

I've tried and tried to work things out but he just goes back to his old habits every time?
We’ve been married for almost 8 years now, we have two grade school children and I'm so unhappy! I do love him but I hate his unwillingness to help around the house at all. That's not the bad part...
He has a pill problem... (Xanax, vicodin) he doesn't buy them illegally because they are prescribed to him but he takes too many of them when he gets them and gets a buzz from it.

I take a different nerve pills myself and I've had to hide them from him because he kept taking them. I one day found him in my purse getting them!!! I've told him over and over it's a major problem. His best friend I (that used to have the same problem) has even tried talking to him and he doesn’t think it’s a big deal!!!
Would you leave??
We hardly ever have any affection towards each other but I know we do love each other. I just can't take it though. I don't want my kids to see him like that either.

2007-08-28 02:53:49 · 58 answers · asked by just me 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I need to put my 8 year old in b4 school daycare at his school which will cost $200 a month. When I got divorced 2 years ago my child support was set for $404 a month not including childcare since I didn't use it. I called up my ex and asked him to split the cost of the daycare and he told me no. Can I take him to court to get help with the daycare? And if so how much does something like that cost?

2007-08-28 02:52:07 · 8 answers · asked by Frankie 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been friends for 6 or 7 months to a woman that moved into our neighborhood recently. Both of us work from home, so we tend to visit throughout the day. A few days ago, we were sitting at my kitchen table, and we were talking about the new shade of lipstick I was applying when she said softly, "let's see how it looks on me". I held it out to her and instead of taking it, she leaned over to me and kissed me full on the mouth. I was in complete shock, butI did kiss her back. She drew back and then started laughing, saying "you should see the look on your face"! I began laughing too and I realized that she was just messing with me, but now I can't get that kiss out of my mind. I'm planning on telling my husband about it but have procrastinated. He's always fantasized about 2 women and I'm sure he would be okay with it. I've also thought about kissing her again. I don't think I would ever take it further than that though. Would you consider this to be cheating on my husband?

2007-08-28 02:50:32 · 32 answers · asked by jc 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok-My wife and I have been married a year now. She has 2 kids from a previous relationship. The sex was great at first-but the minute I said I do, that ended. She must have been sexual before, right? Even our WEDDING night, she only did it out of ritual. All she wanted to do was open the cards and count $. I'm 25, she's 26. The kids were from 2 previous relationships with abusive guys-like pushing 30 years old when she was 18 with the first one. I guess she used to be into dope and have crazy sex with them. I'm the guy working my *** off now, raising the kids, and she would rather leave the room and let me masturbate then have sex with me. I kinda got the raw end of the deal, right? I mean, I'm only 25!!!! Other then sex, I really don't think she cares about me. She yells, calls me horrible names, and every couple days or so-she apologizes. Probably a result of shitty relationships. I know that she isn't cheating. What in hell should I do?

2007-08-28 02:49:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm being harrassed via text. Once a week someone is texting saying that I am messing w/her man and if I don't stop, she is going to f ukc me up at home or work. They know my name, so it's not a wrong number. Of course I am taking this threat serious. I confronted the man I am seeing and he swears he's not with anyone else and is concerned for me too. We think it's my ex-husband (I wouldn't put it past him) but I have no proof. The text actually has a number. I tried texting back but nothing. I tried calling and the phone just rings, no voicemail. I did a reverse lookup, I even paid $30.00 but there is no information on this number how is this possible?? they only told me that it's a cell phone from Verizon Wireless and the town the call is coming from. I 'm so frustrated I don't know what to do. Does anyone have any other suggestions on how I can find out who's threatening me? thanks.

2007-08-28 02:44:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I still want to work on the marriage.
I have two small girls.
If she threatens to throw me out, do I need to leave legally?
Can she call the police?
Should I offer to leave?

2007-08-28 02:42:00 · 38 answers · asked by James B 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have a position problem.My dad can't walk down the aisle with me on my wedding.But I don't want to walk down the aisle by myself.I think I want to invite a friend who always helps for us or my father in law.Which one is better?How can I ask for?Well,our friend may also be groomsman.Does it can work if I choose him?

2007-08-28 02:35:38 · 12 answers · asked by ¶®¶² ·Judy 2 in Weddings

I've been with my man for two years and so to say he has some hygiene issues. He showers like once every two weeks but does the little sponge bath every other day. Also he doesn't brush his teeth he just swishes down some mouthwash and calls it a day. He sometimes has a odor but not to bad. He's in his late twenty's so I don't expect that from him. It gets to the point where I don't wanna be intimate with him. How do I tell him this without me hurting his feeling or him feeling embarassed around me?

2007-08-28 02:35:29 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

It's been 4 years since she dumped me. I was devastated. In my final contact with her, i told her if she ever needed me, i would be there for her. Out of the blue, she has emailed me saying she needs me & if i am still there for her. She has been telling me all the details about her current bf who she says treats her like crap & that she needs help/advise to get out of the relationship. I am trying to be helpful & supportive by telling her what a jerk this guy is & how she deserves better. She is very depressed & confused about the whole thing & is having a hard time figuring out if she is doing the right thing by leaving him. To make things worse, I recently found out that she has told people about our relationship.That I was abusive to her, that she left me 10 times during the 5 years we lived together & was never in love with me, it was purely lust. When she left me for the last time, I came home one day & she & her belongings were just gone, without a word to me. What should i do?

2007-08-28 02:34:21 · 12 answers · asked by jackmowack 1 in Marriage & Divorce

It's been 4 years since she dumped me. I was devastated. In my final contact with her, i told her if she ever needed me, i would be there for her. Out of the blue, she has emailed me saying she needs me & if i am still there for her. She has been telling me all the details about her current bf who she says treats her like crap & that she needs help/advise to get out of the relationship. I am trying to be helpful & supportive by telling her what a jerk this guy is & how she deserves better. She is very depressed & confused about the whole thing & is having a hard time figuring out if she is doing the right thing by leaving him. To make things worse, I recently found out that she has told people about our relationship.That I was abusive to her, that she left me 10 times during the 5 years we lived together & was never in love with me, it was purely lust. When she left me for the last time, I came home one day & she & her belongings were just gone, without a word to me.What should i do?

2007-08-28 02:32:18 · 18 answers · asked by jackmowack 1 in Singles & Dating

time & it's making me feel very insecure. Our sex drives seem to be equally matched. We have sex almost every night with very few exceptions. When we go to bed, he will lay there & hold me but will wait for me to start the foreplay. If I don't he will say "I guess your not in the mood" or something along those lines. I kiss him, I give him oral (everytime) & I'm usually on top. I tell him over & over that I love to be kissed too & I certainly love oral & he knows my favorite position is man on top. What is the deal? Is it because he knows that I love sex so much that he doesn't have to put any effort into it or is he just a selfish lover. Last week I vowed to wait for him to initiate sex & guess what, after 4 days I finally got tired of waiting so I initiated it again. This is our only issue. He is a wonderful man & treats me better than any man ever has. He keeps telling me that he can't keep up with me (he's 44, I'm 40) & worries that I will leave because I'm not sexually satisfied.

2007-08-28 02:31:34 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and i have been married almost 3 yrs this comming month.We met and started dating when i was 19 still in college and he was 22 already graduated from college with plans to go for his masters or start his own business. When we first met he bailed me out of a fake ID situation and then asked for my number so i would feel obligated to give it.Well it turns out we were almost polar opposites personality wise(i'm low key vs.his out going) but had very similar vaules ,goals, and morals.Well now i am 27 yrs married with 2 great kids ages 5.5 and 2 with a loving husband but my best friend does not get why i cant go out with her all the time?Most of our friends are beginning to settle down so you would think she would get it but no?All she can be is angry and vent?

2007-08-28 02:25:56 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I guess I'll start from what he said triggered him to do it. I recently moved out of the house that we both share,cause he kept fighting me with everything that I try to suggest to make us get better. He was usually always alone jumping from house to house since he was a kid after his mother died. What made me leave was because he kept trying to be detached, ALSO he hadn't saved any money. Well anyways, I left. He had called after I did & asked me if I left him for good. I told him know I just wanted him to get himself together, I don't want to fight anymore. So last night he borrowed my phone, & then gave me his to put on the car charger, I end up taking it to school with me because I wanted to be able to call for a ride. When I got off I called him, told him I had a ride. Then I got off was about to text him & a call came through under his cousin name, and the phone answered. Not to be rude I said hello and it was a girl.& she told me she was his girlfirend & that he said I was ex.

2007-08-28 02:24:57 · 13 answers · asked by ♥ ~ lele ~ ♥ 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-28 02:21:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My mind is CONSTANTLY at work. I am in a good relationship with a man who adores me. I have two beautiful children and a really good job. Why am I still so restless?

Anyone else feel like this? What do you do to stop the wheels from constantly turning in your mind and just relax?

2007-08-28 02:21:37 · 14 answers · asked by Mel 6 in Marriage & Divorce

somekind of love affair?

2007-08-28 02:19:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Please don't answer " go see a solicitor " as we are doing that but it all takes so long.

My fiance split from his ex 18mths ago after 4 1/2 years of marriage. She has left him sole carer of their 2 kids age 3 & 9 (1 isnt his) and she doesnt see them or pay mantainance. He lives in the marrital home which she only lived in for 4mths and in his sole name as she cannot get credit (she did have her name put on land registry tho after they split), she now lives in council accom with her fella. The settlement is going through mediation but I am now sick with worry. What will she end up entilted to ??? If she gets a share of the house when the youngest is 17 are we able to sell the house in that time and is my name able to be put on the deeds to that house? My fiance bought the house off his dad for 50K less than house is valued so will this be considered as it is early inheritence for my fiance and nothing to do with her. This is getting me down

2007-08-28 02:13:29 · 14 answers · asked by cavviecath 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My wife has a part time job where she is responsible to buy certain items for our family. She always mismanages her money and ends up getting fined overdraft charges which puts her even more short. She then comes to me to make up the difference and to buy the items for our kids she doesn't have money for anymore.

2007-08-28 02:13:16 · 12 answers · asked by thebuffettour 2 in Marriage & Divorce