I have a position problem.My dad can't walk down the aisle with me on my wedding.But I don't want to walk down the aisle by myself.I think I want to invite a friend who always helps for us or my father in law.Which one is better?How can I ask for?Well,our friend may also be groomsman.Does it can work if I choose him?
2007-08-28 02:35:38 · 12 answers · asked by ¶®¶² ·Judy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well,my dad is alright.He is nothing wrong.The friend I have that is meaningful to us.
2007-08-28 20:33:14 · update #1
I'm so sorry to hear this!
I would think the friend would be the better choice to stand in for your father since he has known you and your family longer and is closer. If he is a groomsman, there shouldn't be an issue.
Good luck and Congratulations!
2007-08-28 02:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a brother? I would really chose to walk by myself, but meet my father near the alter. Then he can do the whole giving the bride away thing and sit down. If your father is there and you have a good relationship with him, choosing someone else can seem like a slap in the face.
Or will he not be there at all? In this case, I'd go with either the father in law or the friend...whichever you feel closer to. It doesn't matter that the friend is also a groomsmen. He'd just go stand in line after escorting you down the aisle.
2007-08-28 10:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom is walking me down. I'm not sure if that's an option for you, but if it is, it's absolutely allowed. There are no solid rules about this, so if you want one of the groomsmen to walk you down, he can rejoin the group at the altar when you've arrived. Just make sure you ask the person who you feel most comfortable with. He or she should be the person who was most involved with your upbringing.
Either way, good luck and congratulations! Enjoy your big day!
2007-08-28 09:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by abig8r 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband walked my daughter down the aisle, then handed her over to her husband, and became HIS best man! You can do anything you choose to on your wedding day! Whoever you feel you would like to walk you down the aisle should do it. Its your day and it doesnt matter what anyone else thinks!
2007-09-01 21:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by Angie O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may ask either. It's an honor to escort the bride, just as it's an honor to be asked to attend either the bride or groom. Which you ask is entirely up to you. Which do you feel closer to? That's the one I would ask.
If your friend is asked to be a groomsman, it could still be possible to have him escort you to the altar. My own dear father showed me how quite spontaneously at my wedding.
When he'd finishes his escort duties, I expected my father to go find a seat in the front row, but he chose instead to quietly join the line of groomsmen. He just went to the end of the line and stood there.
It was completly unexpected, but I was touched that he did that.
How you and your intended choose to handle this is up to you. I'm sure either gentleman would be honored to take part in your wedding this way.
Best of luck to you. I wish you and your intended a long, joyful marriage.
2007-08-28 09:52:55 · answer #5 · answered by gileswench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mom. Or someone close to you - if he's also a groomsman, that's fine, he'd just take his place after he walks you up the aisle.
My husband and I walked up the aisle together - with our attendants walking in as couples before us. It was wonderful!
2007-08-28 11:09:55 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should ask a man in your family... Like a brother or a uncle or a granddad??? Not the father in law because this man needs to be on your side of the family... If none of these are good then I would say your friend...
2007-08-28 10:36:18 · answer #7 · answered by spagirl23188 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father is over seas and we werent sure if he would be able to make it to my wedding next year. But it looks like he will... but anyway basically we asked my uncle and he said he would do it if my father wasnt able too.
Just ask who ever it is you want to walk you dont the isle. The worst thing they can say is no. Then you just ask someone else.
2007-08-28 10:45:02 · answer #8 · answered by sparkles_0604 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can your dad not walk you down because he is bed-ridden, or doesnt walk well? If possible, rent a wheelchair for one day and someone can push him as you walk down the aisle with him.
His dad or the groomsman would be fine, just ask and I am sure they will say yes.
2007-08-28 09:52:28 · answer #9 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you can have anyone you want walk you down the aisle. My mom walked my sister down
2007-08-28 10:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by EmmaNicole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋