Family & Relationships - 28 August 2007

My husband was corresponding with another woman and the letters were quite graphic and of a sexual nature. Even though i have seen these letters, he denies he did anything wrong. It was going on for about 18months - 2 years. This happened a couple of years ago but i just found out about it.

2007-08-28 12:27:55 · 23 answers · asked by madiesmum 6 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been with my guy for a 1 1/2 yrs now and lately he seems more distant and less interested. Although he has a busy life as a single parent, up until about 4 mos ago he was sweet, complimentry and even mentioned marriage and future plans. Now I seem to be at the bottom of his priority list.Believe me, I have reciprocated to adding spark to our relationship, but now it seems to be fizzing out and I'm stressed about it. He doesn't seem to care much about my suble hints of disappointment and concern.Instead has buried himself in home improvement projects. I would like to think that he is preparing for our future, but I'm not so sure about that now.What do you think guys. Is this just a mans way of pulling away or what?

2007-08-28 12:25:49 · 2 answers · asked by Michelle R 1 in Singles & Dating

my boyfriend constantly thinks ive cheated on him and i talk to other guys and i dont at all i have completely cut out everybody in my life for him so he can trust me again i understand his reasons ive been promiscious in the past and yes i have cheated on bfs in my past but that was my past and with him he doesnt give me reasons to cheat.. i went to india for about 3 months and my dad past away and i vowed to change and not be the person i was in the past and now im older and i know i was stupid back then and that person isnt me and i never wanna be that person again, but now he thinks im cheating on him and i tried talking to him but he wont listen and all we do is fight and im tired of it cuz im the one crying and going crazy but ive been 100% loyal to him this entire time and he still accuses me how can i prove to him that i havent cheated? is taking a lie detector test a good idea? all i want is for him to trust me and believe in me that ive changed how do i do that please help

2007-08-28 12:25:02 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm a freshman in highschool.
I am Christian, (so not muslim..)
and my dad won't let me wear anything above my knees (so no shorts, short skirts...etc)
on TOP of that, i cant wear tank tops or spagetti strap shirts.
i live in southern california,, so it is really hot.
like 105 degrees.
what should i tell my dad to convince him to let me wear stuff like that.
he says he wants me to be 'conservative'

2007-08-28 12:21:40 · 7 answers · asked by peekchure 1 in Family

high school?

college?

or post college after you got setup in your career of choice?

2007-08-28 12:19:06 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-28 12:15:50 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I've been going out with this girl for a month now, but she doesn't live near me. We talk every single night on the phone for endless hours usually, but recently her family has been getting really really annoyed by it. Also, she can only call me past 9 because her cell phone plan sucks.

School is starting for both of us in a few days, and staying up late talking to her every night isn't really gonna fly with either of our parents. I've heard of like these little things that are made specifically for texting, and you don't need a plan for them. I think that this MIGHT help us so that her mom doesn't know that we're up late talking, and so that she doesn't keep her little sister up all night talking on the phone. But, I was wondering if anyone knew of any other ways of communicating that are like this.

Also, I wanted to know like ways of coping with a long distance relationship....because with school starting so soon I'm not gonna be able to focus or deal with this

2007-08-28 12:13:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-08-28 12:13:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

And if you agree then what's better someone you know or don't know?

2007-08-28 12:12:34 · 26 answers · asked by m-caesar 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Is it weird for two people to date and have kids and stuff like that until they die, but never get married? Not that nobody has proposed, just that they got denied a few times and are afraid to ask again. I mean like... they kind of want to get married, but at the same time they are afraid to make the commitment. What do you think they should do?

2007-08-28 12:11:27 · 32 answers · asked by Courtney 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I really love her and want spend the rest of my life with her, but its hard to understand that she wants to wait, can someone enlighten me why.

2007-08-28 12:08:22 · 25 answers · asked by Red Sawx ® 6 in Marriage & Divorce

my fiance and i want shells because we got engaged on the beach, and also because we like to collect shells together. for our fall wedding we want shells because it has meaning, but is that a tacky theme because october is fall season? thanks in advance for ur help!! :)

2007-08-28 12:03:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

2007-08-28 11:56:14 · 19 answers · asked by Confused Chick 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been married for 8 years and I love my husband very much. he's the greatest husband in the world. I have 3 children.
the terrible thing is i have been cheating on my hubby with my ex for the most of our marriage.

I have had another affair with a man at work and twice from a bar my friends and i go too.

now,I am pregnant. I KNOW it is my EX's baby
I really want to confess all this to my husband. how do i tell him something like this?

Will God forgive me and will God please let my husband be understanding? please help me!

2007-08-28 11:52:34 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-28 11:51:06 · 5 answers · asked by susan e 1 in Weddings

wtf. ok i see when i look at the questions there is this girl who is 17 and is dating a 22 year old and she wanted to know if this is wrong! well on one response she got it said age is just a nuber it also said it doesnt matter what the age difference is it only matters if you are truely in love! im 12 and my boyfriend is 17 now do you people think that **** is wrong? i mean for a 12 year old to be dating a 17 yeaar old?

2007-08-28 11:50:06 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-08-28 11:49:06 · 8 answers · asked by Liberal City 6 in Singles & Dating

Okay....it's a small Sunday AM backyard ceremony. Pre-ceremony music is playing when guests arrive, and they will have a juice and coffee, and danish pastery type little buffet area on deck.

So according to plan, when it's time for the ceremony to begin, my brother will play Chances Are and ask everybody to sit down. (Then another song for mothers entrance, and another song for bridal party etc)

Now I'm trying to write the ceremony program and listing the songs played. I have processional and recessional, but

what do you call it when the guests are asked to sit?

and what is it called when the mothers are escorted to seats?

I really need ideas for words to use.
Thanks

2007-08-28 11:48:15 · 5 answers · asked by Maria S 3 in Weddings

I have been dealing with this for over 2 years my B/F cheated on me with his ex, now the only problem I have is that she on occasion is coresponding with him via email, and this has happen since we have been back together he said he told her that we were back together, but to be honest I am not sure if she got it. I totally trust him the issue I have is that I have totally cut all tie with any of my ex's fling or whatever you want to call them while we were broke up. I feel that it should be the same. Should I email her and tell her how I feel? Just want her to stay where she belongs in the past no need for them to be conversing or chating anymore. I feel if I do this it will put my heart at easy and close the book, does this make sense? Or am I just being silly. We have a good thing and want to keep it that way. Please help letter is ready and waiting to send.

2007-08-28 11:41:41 · 15 answers · asked by harley G 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I have a friend who is going to pop the question. He wants to do a rooftop picnic...just like their first date. What are some special touches (other than candles and music) to really set things apart? We're looking for menu ideas, ways to present the ring, and anything else you are willing to throw out.

Thanks!

2007-08-28 11:40:11 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

...my sister has expressed to me, a concerning situation regarding an adolescent on-line relationship; apparently, her 14-year old son, my nephew, has connected with a girl on-line, and appears to be not so much obsessed, but more blindly amored with her. My sister has expressed her concerns to him, regarding the possibility of a perverse on-line individual, cleverly mascarading as a girl, based upon recent and repeated news reports, but he continues to deny this possibility, stating that he supposedly knows this girl way too well, and that there's no way that this person he's talking to, online, could be anything but what he knows for sure that she is. Apparently, he's never spoken to her on the phone...just online...

...being single, I'm sorta in uncharted territory here; what can I suggest to my sister, as far as her valid concerns, and how can my nephew be convinced to at least listen and understand where she's coming from...

...thanks for any help you can afford me!!!

2007-08-28 11:39:34 · 5 answers · asked by Fright Film Fan 7 in Other - Family & Relationships

Again this evening I'm sat on the fence. I can see both sides of a delicate argument. Clearly in the case of rape then it's no, so don't state the obvious. Where do you sit on this one?

2007-08-28 11:38:47 · 97 answers · asked by Stripper 3 in Singles & Dating

No, I'm not a lesbian...

The only time we actually hear we're pretty is from either A. Our moms, or B. That creepy guy at Starbucks in the morning. Instead of making cutting remarks behind eachothers backs, why not just compliment one another?

So...when was the last time someone told you that you were beautiful?

2007-08-28 11:38:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

ok, guys, have you ever left a girl you were dating for another girl, and what were the circumstances?

I'm wondering what are the chances that a guy I like leaves his girl for me:) seriously..he flirts with me whenever we meet, I'm sure he likes me, and knows I like him back..but I'm in fear of looking like a desperate idiot if I make a direct move..
please give me some advise:)

2007-08-28 11:36:12 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We have been married for 28 years. The biggest problem has always been sex. I worked full time and raised 3 kids, and was exhausted most of the time, so sex was the last thing on my mind. Now that the kids are grown and gone, it's still the last thing on my mind. I don't feel like he is attracted to me at all any more, because he spends so much time on Voyerweb. I don't think he even cares about what I think or feel anymore, because he never seems interested. It's always my fault, because I don't want to dress like a slut, and flash strange men to turn him on. I don't think I should have to do those things. He says it's to bring excitement back to our sex life. I am very uncomfortable with it. Are we just completely sexually incompatible at this point? I really think he wants to divorce me, but I keep thinking we can work it out, but I can't seem to get past my "hang-ups" Is it me, or him???? Help, I can't live like this anymore!!!

2007-08-28 11:32:53 · 15 answers · asked by CSmom 5 in Marriage & Divorce

me & my husband have a major problem, and we decided to separate, we have a new born and we live in his parents house. i need to leave the house but he wont let me bring our child, what should i do? and what are my rights. pls help...

2007-08-28 11:32:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

please ,thanks it's horrible having a little brat, annoying ,sister!
sucks to be me

2007-08-28 11:25:55 · 8 answers · asked by Theresa 3 in Family

hi, just wondered if anyone could tell me what rights my sons father has!? basically i left him 10 months ago due to him sleeping around and got voilent after drinking, which at the time he did all the time as we managed a public house. In the ten months he has given me very very little money forwards our sons up bringing and very rarely makes an effort to see him. just recently he has started seeing someone else and wants to be able to have days out with my son and his new girlfriend. I have no intention of letting this happen, as can not guantee his going to bring him home again afterwards. where do i stand as to not let him have him alone. would this be legal??

2007-08-28 11:24:27 · 4 answers · asked by Kym P 1 in Family

we have known this friend for over11 years, only recently ihave become un comfortable with her actions.

2007-08-28 11:23:44 · 12 answers · asked by uwigrad 2 in Marriage & Divorce

me and my girlfriend have been dating almost 11 months now, and she recently came out and told me that she got raped 8 months ago, but kept it a secret, out of fear of how him, me, and my parents would react.

now, she's acting like it just happened a week ago, depressed, crying alot, and now she's considering dropping out of school because she cant deal with the stress.

I feel like I ruined her life by getting her to tell the truth. I also feel like its my fault because I might've been able to stop her from being alone with the guy. I'm helping her as best I can through this, but it's kind of effecting me too. whenever I get idle, i cant help but think about/imagine it.

I just have so much bottled up inside right now. I cant talk to her mom because she's abusive, cant talk to my parents about it, its too late to go to the cops, and I dont want to throw my life away by killing him myself.

What can I do to help her more, while coping with it myself?

2007-08-28 11:21:38 · 33 answers · asked by Han 2 in Singles & Dating