Is it cheating if your partner is corresponding with another in a sexual way?

Question

My husband was corresponding with another woman and the letters were quite graphic and of a sexual nature. Even though i have seen these letters, he denies he did anything wrong. It was going on for about 18months - 2 years. This happened a couple of years ago but i just found out about it.

Answer 1

Hi,once he did this while being married to you ,,, that is a lack of respect ,yea he would say that he didn't do anything wrong,,,, lets turn the table around and see what would of happen,,,,, he have no excuse for what he did ,,, YES that is cheating no matter what he tells you ,,, you really need to realize that ,,, this has been a ongoing affair for about 2 years
and it don't matter if its still going on or not ,,, what matters is that it HAPPENED ..
i hope that you guys really work things out and try to fix your relationship ,,, but i want you to remember one thing ,,, in order for you to trust him again ,, he needs to earn it ,
i hope that everything works out for you..
Good Luck
Leena

Answer 2

yes. it is cheating. he is sexualy connecting with someone other then you. He needs to direct that energy to you. Not this other person.
All that talk is not just talk, it can and eventually (if it hasn't already) lead to a physical event.
When he says he did nothing wrong, point out to him that the whole thing is wrong.

Or you can be a total B* and write dirty letters and include pictures to a made up person, and let him find it. when he explodes and says how whorrible you are, point out that he doesn't think its wrong when he does it. (I meant to spell it "whorrible")

Answer 3

If they didn't have sex then it is not cheating. I will defend that until the day I die. Just because a man talks sexually to a woman and she reciprocates the same it is just another way for a man to break out of the "doldrums." It would be just the same if he had called a phone sex line, but he wouldn't have wasted his money.

Answer 4

It is considered cheating. Some people think that cheating is only sex but it can be a different number of things. As long as the other person does not like what is going on then it is considered cheating.

Answer 5

Cheating is getting something from someone else that you should only be getting from your mate. The details of those letters should have only been between you and him; not him and someone else. It is definitely cheating. There are not only physical affairs but emotional ones as well.

Answer 6

Yes it is still cheating. It is just like Cyber sex or Phone sex. It is emotional cheating which is just as wrong as physical cheating. Good Luck with everything. If he doesn't admit that he was wrong he will continue to do it but he will hide it better. My thoughts are with you.

Answer 7

if you want this relatioship to work then dont cheat my husband did the same thing I left him now 2 years later we are back together and some times I really feel like cheating to make him feel what I felt but its not worth it cuz i'm tryin to make this work.

Answer 8

I would have to say YES. If he is corresponding sexually, even if he doesnt have an actual physical affair, he is having it in his mind..so no difference. If in the bible it says if you think about adultry its the same as having committed the act.

Answer 9

its emotional cheating but if it happened a couple of year's ago and he's had no contact of late I would drop it if you make to big a deal out of it he'll just make your life miserable out of his own guilt not worth it.

Do you love him? , are you in love with him ? , do you trust him?, those are the questions you need to be analyzing.

Good luck.

Answer 10

Were you married to him then? And usually when there are dirty letters...there are dirty acts to back them up. I would never believe a guy who had the intentions to cheat even if he never did the act. He's lying!!!