2007-08-28 11:56:14 · 19 answers · asked by Confused Chick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're married, not dead!! Yes it's ok. Do you think your hubby doesn't fantasize about other women?
2007-08-28 12:01:37 · answer #1 · answered by Jim C 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong in fantasizing about other men. Alot of people do. I use to do alot of fantasizing during my first marriage. I still fantasize about the last man that I had loved while I was still married to my first husband. My old boyfriend died a few years back and I still miss him. I am now married to a different man. Do not let your husband know that you are fantasizing. It could hurt him. I had always kept my fantasizes to myself. Just don't act on them.
2007-08-28 12:15:36 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. I am a married man and I only hope my wife fantasizes about other men because that means she is human. I know that she has dreams about other men, and also dreams about women as well. Dreams are not under your control though. Fantasies are, and I think it is healthy to fantasize, just don't act on those fantasies unless your spouse and you are open and okay with it.
2007-08-28 15:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Regarding fantasy, Helen Fisher ("The First Sex," Ballantine Books, Feb. 2000) says that 71 percent of men and 72 percent of women fantasize while having sex with a partner. Men fantasize about conquest and domination, women about submission and surrender.
Dr. Joyce Brothers says, "It might relieve some of your guilt to know that many happily married individuals who have no thought or intention of ever betraying their spouse have sexual fantasies about someone other than their spouse."
2007-08-28 12:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by John Doe 1st 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes! It's actually healthy. You can fantasize, just keep the fantasies to yourself. Everyone...probably even your husband...fantasizes. There is nothing wrong with it. Just don't ACT out any of the fantasies with other men!
2007-08-28 12:04:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course it's OK! Have you ever tried sharing your fantasies with your husband? Some husbands (I know I'll get flamed for this) find it very stimulating to imagine their wife having sex with a different man. I do.
Maybe it would be a good idea to start with HIS fantasies. If he mentions anything about another woman, then that might make it easier for you to broach the subject of fantasizing about another man. If he feels insecure or angry, don't ever mention it again.
2007-08-28 12:07:45 · answer #6 · answered by K M 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes it's ok. It's human nature.
You can't help it, which also is the reason why men have such explicit fantasies about other women.
It's nothing personal against their wife or girlfriend, it's just human nature...I mean you can't help who you're attracted to right?
Either can men.
But anyways......it's normal. When your husband does fantasize about other females, don't act all crazy and get jealous about it ok?
2007-08-28 12:05:18 · answer #7 · answered by Murphy's Law 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fantasize about other men, my husband fantasizes about other women. We fantasize about each other when we're not together.
2007-08-28 12:05:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's okay to dream about other people because you can not control that,but to sit around and fantasize I don't know about that.It's no sin I think though.lol!
2007-08-28 12:19:00 · answer #9 · answered by m-caesar 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you are perfectly normal.. everybody fantasizes about other people... just don't act on your fantasizes.... you may hurt your hubbies feelings....
2007-08-28 12:09:50 · answer #10 · answered by sumfin 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋