...my sister has expressed to me, a concerning situation regarding an adolescent on-line relationship; apparently, her 14-year old son, my nephew, has connected with a girl on-line, and appears to be not so much obsessed, but more blindly amored with her. My sister has expressed her concerns to him, regarding the possibility of a perverse on-line individual, cleverly mascarading as a girl, based upon recent and repeated news reports, but he continues to deny this possibility, stating that he supposedly knows this girl way too well, and that there's no way that this person he's talking to, online, could be anything but what he knows for sure that she is. Apparently, he's never spoken to her on the phone...just online...
...being single, I'm sorta in uncharted territory here; what can I suggest to my sister, as far as her valid concerns, and how can my nephew be convinced to at least listen and understand where she's coming from...
...thanks for any help you can afford me!!!
2007-08-28 11:39:34 · 5 answers · asked by Fright Film Fan 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The first thing I would do, is have your sister be with your son when he goes on line to talk to this girl and have her son tell the girl, that his mom is viewing the screen, and would like to be "introduced" to her. She would then be able to ask certain questions of the girl, that only an adolescent girl would give certain answers to, considering the mindset of of a teenager. Your sister was a teenaged girl at one time she would probably be able to tell if someone was playing her son.
Most instant messengers now have archive capabilities, which can save conversations. Your sister will have to gain access to her son's user name and password to access this feature on a messenger, but she can demand that he sign on, while she is there, and have him open up the message archives for her investigation. If he refuses, then she can withdraw his computer privileges. A threat like that usually prompts cooperation. Once she gets the girl's user name, she can contact the messenger service help site, (for example, MSN, or Yahoo), and state her suspicions. The provider, who logs all IP addresses, can find out who is the real person behind the chat name, and if necessary turn it over to the authorities for further investigation.
If it turns out that the girl is legitimate, then your sister will just have to live with the fact that her son has discovered girls, and he likes the discovery.
2007-08-28 12:04:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the devil loves the Internet chat rooms, IM's and texting....
It allows you to say things alone in the dark,by yourself that you would never have done in the light and in front of some one. It can become an addition.
She needs to make sure her son is not on MY SPACE or any other chat rooms. Put blockers on and check history every day.
Remind her of when she was younger...
would your parents have let you pick up the phone and call a chat line? How about go to a party not knowing who was there, unchaperoned? So why does she let her son do it? I don't care if it is on line or not, it is wrong and he is corruptible.
2007-08-29 09:42:01 · answer #2 · answered by honeykoen1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest taking precaution about this girl.
When I met my current boyfriend, I made sure he was who he said he was by making him find a webcam so I could view his face. Later on, I got his phone number and talked to him on there and also his family members and best friend. (I've even chatted with his ex-girlfriend once or twice).
Then we exchanged addresses and had our parents talk to each other after a while of getting to know each other. We plan on meeting sometime before my 17th birthday and hopefully we'll be spending Christmas together.
We've been going out for over a year.
2007-08-29 15:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by ratty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your sister to take away his internet from home, school, library, etc. He is obviously too immature to understand, so his mom should be mature enough to take control before her son makes a mistake. Aside from that, you don't have much control. Good luck!
2007-08-28 11:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by Thinkaboutit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best u can do is to have a man-to-man talk with ur nephew urself.......maybe it will leave a stronger impression on him than wat his mom will say........
u can warn him of dangers of online friendship coz online nobody is actually as they present themselves.besides there are really sick people out there who are in wait of such gullible ppl.u can ask him to ask the girl to show herself via webcam
morever his mom can restrict his time online.if anything i have learned from being online is that it is sheer wastage of time.
2007-08-28 22:35:54 · answer #5 · answered by aman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋