How should I confess this?

Question

I have been married for 8 years and I love my husband very much. he's the greatest husband in the world. I have 3 children.
the terrible thing is i have been cheating on my hubby with my ex for the most of our marriage.

I have had another affair with a man at work and twice from a bar my friends and i go too.

now,I am pregnant. I KNOW it is my EX's baby
I really want to confess all this to my husband. how do i tell him something like this?

Will God forgive me and will God please let my husband be understanding? please help me!

my children are not aware of any of this.
i DO love my husband. he is just gone a lot and i get lonely

Answer 1

Kiddo, there are so many different types of love. i wont judge u. When we are lonely, even when our spouse is at home, we reach out for something to fill the void. Sex is what u use, others choose other things. If u want to confess, explain the loneliness. It may fall on deaf ears - cheating is what it is. Tell him the truth and your reasons for doing it. Id make sure that someone could take the kids for at least the day that u r going to tell him. Think about how u feel about your husband and your x. Love can mean so many things. U may have a different feeling of love, comfort, whatever u wanna call it with your x. Make sure in your own mind that it is your husband that u want to stay with, and not your x. Know that even if your husband understands and forgives u, u may lose him; he will definitely not put up with u having more encounters with your x. Are you willing to give that up with your x? Does your x know about this? Be sure about what it is that u really want, who u love, and face the consequences of your actions, good or bad. U kno it cant go on like this, so take some alone time to search your true feelings, and go from there. u can do it :)

Answer 2

Look if this really happened to you forget what everybody else has said.. So what you cheated, you screwed up and got preg. No big deal. You must of had a reason cause sounds like the old man and you don't get along to start with.. Ok take a deep breath and just stop for a moment. What you have done is done.(period) Tell the old man you are preg with his child, don't get bent outta shape and tell him nothing. I know I am in the minority on this but its for the best. Don't go blabbing cause its not the best for the 3 kids you have. When you have this child make sure you have your tubes tied. Talk to your old man and just see if he is happy in this marriage, not right away though , just let things go for now but never divuldge who this father is to anyone. Just hope and pray that the old man hasnt been fixed already..You have had guilt from pass affairs so why press your luck with more guilt. Live with what you have done and go from there. If you feel the need to get rid of this fetus then do it. I am pro choice btw. It's actually up to the woman , its her body and what you do is your own business. My advice is to more careful in your choices after that. As far as God? Sure he will forgive . But keep your trap shut to hubby.

Answer 3

If you have any feelings at all left for your husband the least you can do is tell him the truth. You also need to think about your children. He might want custody of your children. Given how you've choose to live the past several years, will he provide a more stable home for them. When you choose to lead the life you've lead, you also set yourself up for some harsh results.

As for God loving you...he never stopped. You might have stepped away from him and sinned, but God never stops loving us. I know he is disappointed, but he does love you.

Will God forgive you...the answer is yes if you ask forgiveness with meaning. You must be truthful and turn your life around.

I hope everything works out for your family and you.

Answer 4

God will always forgive you...but the sooner you tell your husband the better.I or no one else here is your judge just God.Talk to your husband after you speak with the Lord and ask both for forgiveness.May God bless the both of you! Other people here will say a lot of evil things to you but you must ignore the negativity and do what's right and move on.

Answer 5

There is no Hallmark card for this and the only way to confess it is to just out and out tell him. God WILL forgive you for this because so long as you believe he can and will forgive most anything. Your husband on the other hand probably won't be so forgiving. Just make sure when you tell him...if he is a violent person....that you have someone there with you or close by who can check up on you.

Answer 6

Tough spot to be in. 9 months is a long time to carry that secret with you. Well, if I were you I would not confess to anything. I personally would abort (and blame it on a miscarriage). I know that's harsh, but you have 3 other children that are going to be affected by this. I know accidents happen, but this is pretty bad. Wow, that is a tough spot to be in. If you think your husband loves you enough to forgive you, then tell him. But, you have been having the affair the whole time during your marriage. That will come out. Be prepared for whatever your decision may be. Good luck!

Answer 7

i dont understand this to well your married have 3 children and cheated on your husband with your ex for most of your marriage. Had affair with a man at work and twice from the bar why did you get married have kids for .
I dont htink thata any man in his right mind will understand this maddness.
best of luck

Answer 8

Come what may, you're gonna have to face this sooner or later, and the sooner the better.

What's done is done and there's nothing you can do about it. Talk to your husband and just be genuine. You would be very selfich to not tell him because you don't want him to leave you. No doubt he will be very disappointed and probably even angry, but give him the time that he needs to breathe before moving forward with any other plans.

I feel for you. I can't imagine being in your shoes. All I know is this . . . while you're trying to work this out, you need to make a committment to yourself to stop cheating. You don't need me to tell you that it's not cool.

Answer 9

Damn,

You hoodrat, you don't love your husband !
how do you know, that the three kid belong to your husband....

its simple you just confessed, you sleep with your Ex, with a man from work, & a man at a bar - twice

I hope your, so called loving husband ! Is been cheating on your hooker azz. And then leaves you with nothing !!!!

TRAMP

Answer 10

This is going to cost you a lot of heart ache not to mention the kids & other family members. But mostly your husband.
Personally I do not like to judge others but sister you have been way too loose and since I've not been in your shoes I can not imagin how to break this to him.
Hope with this problem you get a clue that doing it with every guy is not a good choice.