I'm a freshman in highschool.
I am Christian, (so not muslim..)
and my dad won't let me wear anything above my knees (so no shorts, short skirts...etc)
on TOP of that, i cant wear tank tops or spagetti strap shirts.
i live in southern california,, so it is really hot.
like 105 degrees.
what should i tell my dad to convince him to let me wear stuff like that.
he says he wants me to be 'conservative'
2007-08-28 12:21:40 · 7 answers · asked by peekchure 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell him if he doesnt give you a little leeway that when you turn 18 you will most likely go overboard and do the opposite of what he wants.
2007-08-28 12:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
No offense, but you're only.. what, 14?
Your dad's just being a dad. My dad used to do the same thing to me.
I know manufacturers and designers are making Junior's clothes way too short, but you just have to work around it. Show him the school rule book. No shorts or skirts if they're not arms length. (Put your arms down at your sides.. if your skirt/shorts don't go passed your fingertips, even I agree that's too short.)
So if they pass your fingertips, see if he'll let you wear it then. Come to an agreement on length.
No spaghetti straps is usually a school rule, and I can understand that, too.
He's just looking out for you. I'm sure he doesn't want his little girl getting raped by some horny immature freshman boys because she was wearing shortshorts and a spaghetti strap tank top.
Your religion has nothing to do with it.
If you were a Junior, then I could see why you'd be a little annoyed with it. But you just got out of middle school.
2007-08-28 19:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by DearlyBeloved 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a jerk in high school. was the guy who would make rude comments about girls on how the looked and dressed. I was the guy who said and did anything to get girls naked in bed spread eagle. I think dad doesn't want you to dress like that because you are treated by the way you are dressed. Showing a lot of skin, gets you some pretty rude behavior from guys.
2007-08-28 19:40:12 · answer #3 · answered by Jdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry my daughter is now a senior in high school. I have to agree with your dad. What girls are wearing now is very inappropriate. I taught my daughter to dress modestly. This is the first year she has been able to wear sleeveless shirts, although still no spaghetti straps. Kudos to your father.
2007-08-28 20:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by dsrtrat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, to be honest, there is nothing you can do to get him to change. He's doing this to teach you how to respect yourself and for others to respect you. He doesn't want people looking at you and saying " i'd like to get some of that" He wants people to look at you and say "Now there's an awesome women of God, she's going to be a great mother/wife someday." Turn to God about this one, He wants you to be modest. If there is somebody interested in you, you want it to be for who you are, that's including your faith and you want them (friend or boyfriend) to see how much God really means to you. Dressing skimpy won't do that. You don't want them interested because it looks like he might be able to get somewhere. If they are not interested in being your friends or boyfriend because of how you dress, chances are, they are not true friends and not the kind of friends you want to have.
2007-08-28 19:35:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is not fair. You're not going to change him. In a few years, you'll be 18 and an adult. Then you can wear anything you can afford.
2007-08-28 19:36:05 · answer #6 · answered by merrybodner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to wear as many layers of clothes (masculine clothes of course) that he's asking you to wear, and see if he can stay covered like that all day.
2007-08-28 19:32:12 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋