Family & Relationships - 14 August 2007

I've been going out with a girl for 3 years. Most of our fights are due to a lack of communication. Most of the time she doesn't tell me her issues with me until its way too late. Then she just runs away and not talk to me for days, sometimes more than a week; she also threatens to break up with me.

We broke up for a month and then got back together. When she called me and asked to get back with me I said, "I want it to be different now, you tell me what you want from me and vice versa." All I asked her was to promise to communicate with me more and not run away at the sign of any conflict. But now, 6 months later shes doing the same thing again.

I have no other problems with our relationship. But communication is the key to any relationship. How long do you wait for something to change before you give up?

2007-08-14 06:44:25 · 8 answers · asked by hockeyfreak 4 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-14 06:43:35 · 36 answers · asked by guywithaquestion 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-14 06:42:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My bf's dog died the other day. I mean hes had this dog in his life since he was 10 and hes 21 now. His whole family was upset. He was a little to. He was just quiet though for a day or two. He never cried! I met the dog once and I cried. So I got a home video from his little sister of him and the dog when he was little. I played it in front of him and he was like what are you doing? And I was like dont you miss your dog! You should be crying. Why arent you crying? He got mad and was like what the hell why do you want me to cry. Then I showed him some pictures and he got mad and was like I'll talk to you later when you get this sick idea out of your head and he left me! I was always told that once your man cries in front of you that you know hes the one. So thats why I was pushing so hard. Know he was taught that crying shows weakness and he told me that he hasnt cried since he was like 8 or 9. Should I be trying to get him to cry or am I wrong? I did feel bad.

2007-08-14 06:41:47 · 73 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

alright, so i've asked questions before and the most answers i've ever gotten was like, four. why? i mean, i've seen other people ask the same questions as me and they get like 10 or more answers!

2007-08-14 06:37:33 · 57 answers · asked by in la-la-land 3 in Singles & Dating

ive been hit on by a gay blokes a few times, i dont find it offensive but flattering. Has any one been hit on here by someone of the same sex?

2007-08-14 06:34:45 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

And he says it means nothing, he says he loves me, so help me understand the need, desire to go to the sites

2007-08-14 06:34:18 · 18 answers · asked by puzzled 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i meet a two guys the same nigh one is handsome but the other one is just okay.i start dating the okay one because i trust him more but the other one keeps calling m n i keep thinking about him.should i let the one i'm dating go n start with the other one?i like both of him one make me happy n laugh but the other one is so cute even i know h ca make me cry.what should i do?

2007-08-14 06:33:19 · 40 answers · asked by haitian_flirt1126 2 in Singles & Dating

just wondering if women wanted there husbands to of been sleepin around in there youth and having relationships before they settle down with you. or do you prefer a few relationships, no casual sex and then they marry u?

2007-08-14 06:32:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I work with this man, and I am beginning to think that he may like me. I don't know if he would act on it, but I do believe he flirts with me.

If you think he is interested, then I need to stay far away, because I am interested too.

Should I be worried?

-He comments on my appearance
-Asks me about my life
-Mentions that he wishes he would have went to school so he wouldn't be stuck in this occupation forever
-We stand very closely sometimes, and sometimes he even touches me
-He is ALWAYS looking at me.

I don't know. It is just my intuition- I know that he likes working with me because he has told me that, but I do feel like maybe there is something more.

Should I be worried?

2007-08-14 06:31:57 · 27 answers · asked by lala2007 2 in Singles & Dating

has anyone ever had it with glasses on

2007-08-14 06:29:05 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Okay, here is a serious question about the show. I find myself asking what is becoming a difficult question to answer for family and friends, so I'll ask it here.

Do you think that there have always been this many child molesters out there?

Before computers and chat rooms, I assume these guys hung around playgrounds or something? Has the internet "created" more of these people by virtue of the ease of "anonomous" contact or has the ease of contact just brought them out of the woodwork?

If there were no internet chat rooms - would there be as many cases of these pedophiles attempting to have sex with children?

I'm just really surprised at the number of people getting busted for stuff like this - have this many of them always existed or has the "availability" through the internet caused some who normally would not have thought about this, attempt it?

There is no "right or wrong" answer - I'm just wondering if you think that this many sickko's have always existed?

2007-08-14 06:28:18 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Well, I found out that my boyfriend was cheating on me, I found out his password and have all the evidence that he cheated on me with 2 girls and was talking smack about me to these girls, he was also talking samck about those girls to me. Jerk!
Anyway, I was thinking about posting all the emails to the girls and me on their myspace account, so eveyone can see what kind of jerk he is. I want revenge and want to hurt him as bad as he hurt me. Is that a good idea, or should I just let it go and move on and be happy? Any advice? Thanks

2007-08-14 06:28:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We are both enjoying each other ,we talk through text throughout the day on cell, we chat online through message ,we see each other as much as possible, I have four kids though and he has three ,from marriages we are both wanting out of ,but we both love our families! but this friendship has been making me so unhappy because I feeling lost in my marriage because my husband shows me no emotions at all I married him when I were in a low point in my life ,and I really cant see myself being with him forever, I am about to graduate and work in agood field where I would be able to provied onm my own along, he is in a marriage with a wife who tells him he trapped her into marriage and she tells me stuff like if any woman wants him they can have him, he is such a sweet person I dont know why she doesnt see it! yes we are all friends kind of a big mess I never thought I would be in!!! what to do?

2007-08-14 06:27:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i need a good site where i can find cute love quotes about my boyfriend...any good ones??

2007-08-14 06:25:30 · 2 answers · asked by Amy S 1 in Singles & Dating

I have seen a lot of couples wear matching clothes for engagement photos. Is this traditional? Do you know of anyone that matched for their engagement pictures? Was it cute, or is it just tacky?
Any ideas of proper attire for these pictures?
Thanks for your input!!

2007-08-14 06:18:51 · 18 answers · asked by boredatwork 2 in Weddings

2007-08-14 06:16:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband is lazy, he just likes to work, eat and sleep. I work also and still have to come home and take care of the kids and help them with homework and COOK! I tell him that I need help around the house because we have a 2 story home. He told me that he don't have to clean because his mom did all the cleaning for his dad. I told him that I am not his mom and he need to do something or I will be gone. I love him. I have no say so in our relationship, everytime I want to do something, he never wants to do it but when he wants to do something, he dont ask he just do it. I thought about doing what he does but that would make the marriage worse than it is. We share 3 children together and I told him " what I am doing here, I can do it on my own".

2007-08-14 06:15:51 · 16 answers · asked by saga 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I recently caught up with a friend (born and bred Australian) who told me he was divorced and in a custody battle for the children from the union. I live in the US, and he told me he cannot leave the country as he'd be charged with kidnapping. Is this information true? If so, is there any hope that (once the courts have made the final decision about the little ones) that he could possibly move elsewhere (the US or somewhere else outside Australia) with (joint or full custody, for example) or without them and move on with his life?
Thank you all for an information and insight you may be able to provide. It is greatly appreciated.

2007-08-14 06:15:05 · 6 answers · asked by starfishmail00 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, more detail. we live in a apartment EVERYTHING is in my name cause he has bad credit. His kids live with their mom and come every weekend and also stay for the summer. I have gave him ultimatiums to get a job or get out, wich results in him looking for a job for a week. I have kicked and screamed and i've told him nicely to get his act together. He has a VERY large family and i'm scared they will hate me, cause he is the baby of the family. His kids mother left him too. wich he says is not true. My family likes him but they don't really know what's going on. I think the kids know what's up they are 15 and 13 but still look up to their dad and they are boys. I think they look at me as replaceable. Befor we even moved in together his lack of motivation was a problem he was using me then. I just can't take it anymore, I work in a stressful enviroment and have to come home to him laying on the couch with a beer in hand. I don't make love to him cause i have no respect for him.

2007-08-14 06:14:41 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I met this guy at my sisters weddind and i really like him but i dont know if he likes me. And he is really cute too. Can anyone help me???

2007-08-14 06:13:17 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

im in a relationship but its shaky right now its being flip flopped and i met this guy and i think i like him we have more things in common then i do with my steady right now. and this guy kinda likes me too. i dont know what to do.. ive tooken quizzes and they all say that they are unsure so im confsed and dont know what to do... please help!

2007-08-14 06:11:29 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My husband comes to me on 08/07/07 and tells me the follwoing:

My brother is going to Mexico to buy some benches he needs to finish a job. We are only going to be there for 1 day and I said ok, as long as its only 1 day and your back by end of weekend. He left on 08/08/07.
On 08/09/2007 he calls me at 2:30 p.m. and says he’s sorry for not calling me earlier but his cell phone doesn’t work over there. He’s calling from his grandma’s house, he’ll call back when he buys a calling card in 1hour.
He calls at 4:30 p.m. and apologizes for no calling in 1 hour, but he saw some guys that are looking for him in Mexico that just want to hurt him, so he couldn’t go out and buy the card til now. The cards don’t have a lot of minutes so, to not waist them, he’ll call me later tonight. He never called.
The next day 08/10/2007 I was worried, because that’s not like him (not to be big headed, but he can’t live without calling me) So I contact his sister, she calls Mexico, and talks to his mom, who gets a hold of him. So then he calls at 4:45 p.m. because his mom called him and apologizes for not calling He said a lightening struck their phone post and they had to wait for it to be repaired. He said he’ll call me later tonight. He never called.
He calls the next day on 08/11/2007 at 4:30 p.m. Apologizes for not calling, but says that he left his calling card in his friends wallet and had to wait for him to get out of work and bring it to him. He will call me later tonight. I told him don’t tell me your calling me if you won’t. He promised to call me, and he did, at 8pm. He told me they are leaving tomorrow at 3am.
He calls next day on 08/12//2007 at 3:30 p.m. Tells me they didn’t leave because , when his brother was unloading the benches off his truck, he dropped one and it broke in half and he has to go buy a new one, but they would leave tomorrow at 3am. I asked why they had to stay 1 more day, just to buy a bench. He said because where they buy them is a couple hours away. He says he’ll call me later. He never does.
He calls next day on 08/13/2007 until 8:55 p.m./Says hey how are you doing? How are things? I say good, where are you. He tells me they didn’t leave..................I said, your still in Mexico, he said yes, but were leaving tomorrow at 3am..........its just that my brother, one of the benches........I say if your going to give me one more stupid excuse, then don’t. He says, “oh god”, and I hung up. He’s been there a week now, when it was just suppose to be 1 day. What should I think

2007-08-14 06:08:17 · 20 answers · asked by spaced 1 in Marriage & Divorce

He will be in Seattle. Should I go out anyway?
He locks the doors from the outside, I could go out a window though. What do you think?

2007-08-14 06:06:06 · 23 answers · asked by AJPierzynskis' 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I just moved in with my girlfriend on Aug. 1st. Since then she has said it has been a hard transition for her because I have been working a lot of overtime at work(August is one of my busiest months) which I can understand. We were supposed to go to NYC in a few weeks to go to a friends birthday. Now I have to work on Sunday night and I would need to leave NYC early on Sun. She’s mad because she wanted to stay there all day and take our time coming back, once again she is mad at my work. She now doesn’t want to go at all and is planning on going to NYC with one of her girlfriends the weekend before. Ladies what is going on here?

2007-08-14 06:05:01 · 18 answers · asked by Tom 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-14 06:04:40 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Have you ever planned a secret sexual encounter with your man? Made him a special dinner, dressed in sexy clothing, lit candles etc....you know the whole nine yards. He arrives home gives you a big hug and kiss, then farts and scratches his sweaty private parts. Doesn't that just ruin everything you imagined would happen? Why do guys have to do that all the time. Don't they realize what they could be missing?

2007-08-14 06:02:18 · 12 answers · asked by hlp4U1799 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm getting married in November and I'm having trouble finding bridesmaid dresses. I'm afraid of picking something they can't afford, but at the same time, I suggested they pick their own dresses, just as long it's the right color, and they just looked at me funny.

Am I giving them too much work by having them choose their own dresses? They are also helping with the shower (I'm also helping them put it together) and helping me the day of the wedding. I want my bridesmaids to enjoy the experience, so what work they have to do is quite limited.
My fiance and I are at the final stages of planning and I'm starting to feel the stress!

2007-08-14 06:01:53 · 19 answers · asked by Peace 5 in Weddings

After 19 years of marriage it appears to be over. Over the years our sex life has slowly but surely been fading away. about 3 years ago wife made it clear that she was only have sexing because it something that married people do. Then a year ago she had hysto... surgery and it went from some to nothing. Have asked her about it and she just says that sex isn't something she wants to do anymore at all. She did offer me sex about 8 months ago and it was like doing it to a dead log it was just dry and she was like hurry up and get done. So I just stopped didnt even finish and went to sleep. A few months ago I met a women and we did have sex but now feel so guilty. I just want my wife back the way she was in the first 15 years of marriage. To add to this she does not want to hug, kiss or even just hold each other. We did try counseling but said she wasn't going to go anymore because she was happy the way things are and if i had a problem with the lack of intimacy then I could continue to go

2007-08-14 05:58:37 · 28 answers · asked by PM 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i have been married to her for 10 yrs, we have 2 kids together.we divorced a yr and a half ago. but remaind friends.she just came out of a hard breakup, but i still have very strong feelings for her, but i dont think she feels anything right now. she is not interested in dating me or anyone for that matter. Help what to do, I want to show her how a man can treat a woman, but i want the chance to do it right this time, what to do ????????

2007-08-14 05:58:34 · 7 answers · asked by music4life 1 in Singles & Dating