Girlfriend is mad at my excessive work?

Question

I just moved in with my girlfriend on Aug. 1st. Since then she has said it has been a hard transition for her because I have been working a lot of overtime at work(August is one of my busiest months) which I can understand. We were supposed to go to NYC in a few weeks to go to a friends birthday. Now I have to work on Sunday night and I would need to leave NYC early on Sun. She’s mad because she wanted to stay there all day and take our time coming back, once again she is mad at my work. She now doesn’t want to go at all and is planning on going to NYC with one of her girlfriends the weekend before. Ladies what is going on here?

Answer 1

You sound like a nice guy with his priorities straight. Your girlfriend went from hanging out and having fun with you to moving in and not understanding the responsibilities of being an adult. You have done nothing wrong. This is really life and she need to figure out if she is mature enough to be in an adult relationship plus this is your busy month and it is only temporary. Your work pays your bills and gives you cerebral stimulus. What does she expect you to do? Quit and work at Wal-mart?

Answer 2

Did you tell her that August was a busy month and you'd be working a lot of overtime before you moved in together? It seems like, if she knew your job situation and moved in with you anyway, she needs to chill- meaning- she doesn't have to be crazy about your work hours but she does need to be understanding...and if she had no idea and you hadn't discussed what August is like for you, you probably moved in too soon. That's a pretty basic thing to know about your partner. If she did know, she's being really unfair and immature.

Answer 3

Talk to her about it. If you two are going to be a couple then she has to accept that your job requires extra hours from you on occasion.

I can understand her frustration as someone I've just begun seeing works long hours, weekends, etc and we see each other a few hours a week but no opportunity to even go out on a 'date'. Hopefully his schedule will calm down at some point, but if not and it bugs me enough then I'll move on.

Your girlfriend needs to either accept your life as it is, or decide it's not working for her and move on. Being angry with you because of your obligation to your job doesn't solve anything.

Answer 4

Didn't she know all this before she moved in? She has no right to be mad at you considering like you said August is one of your busiest months. She just needs to be a little more understanding and you need to asure her that once work slows down you guys can do more things together. Sorry but she dosen't seem to be too understanding maybe a little selfish...Goodluck

Answer 5

Its a female thing. Most women want all of the benefits of hard work with no sacrifice. She LOVES that you're taking her to NYC, but she hates that you had to work to earn the money to do it. Women want everything done for them and they don't understand when they can't have it all with no sacrifice on their part.

Its a no-win situation, if you stay home with her all day then you have no money to take her anywhere and she'll complain about that. If you go to work all the time, she'll cheat on you because she thinks you don't care about her needs.

There are women that aren't like this, but they are few and far between. If you must be in a relationship, I suggest you dump the one you're with and try to find one the hard-to-find ones. Alternatively, how much money do you spend on her? Wouldn't it be better to live alone for awhile and buy yourself a nice new flatscreen TV with all the money you save by not having a girlfriend? Indulge yourself, not some selfish b**ch.

Answer 6

Obviously, she wasnt expecting you to work so much when you both decided to move in together.. she had different expectations.. like you would be spending more time together, just the two of you. I think you should talk to her and let her know taht work is important to you, but she is even more important, since you made this step in moving in together. However, let her know that the August does tend to be a busy month and that you will make it up to her, and mean it. Make sure she does feel loved and that the time that you both do have together is meaningful and important to you.

Answer 7

Work is important, but it is not the end all be all of human existence. You need to strive for balance in all of your dealings or you're going to end up alone and bitter. The real problem won't be a girlfriend who's angry at you for working all the time; it'll be the girlfriend or spouse who's indifferent to your working all the time. She won't care if she spends time with you or not, as long as she can spend quality time with your wallet. Try not to create that dynamic in your life, for it is a truly painful existence.

Answer 8

Welcome to the controlling world of a selfish IMMATURE female. Which is more important, your job or her? Flip a coin if you can't make up your mind. I personally think it's a no brainer. If she can't figure out that you need income to live a certain lifestyle then she needs to go back home to mom and dad to finish growing up. Real life isn't like the soap operas. Real people have to work and earn money to pay bills and go on trips.

Answer 9

she is just so angry at you at the moment just give her a little time to cool down a bit and let her go with her girlfriend and when she gets back you need to explain to her that you love your job and if she liked you enough to move in with you then she will like you enough to understand that you have to work. if she cant grasp this then let her go and find someone else honey

Answer 10

does she work? if not, how dare she come down on you for something like that. does she not understand that your work allows for you two to take trips like that? and if she does work, she ought to understand that work is a committment, that you are obligated to show up, regardless of how little you want to. at least you made it work to go for most of the time. the fact that she's blowing you off now is completely unacceptable.