Is it possible that a married man is interested in me? Will he act on it?

Question

I work with this man, and I am beginning to think that he may like me. I don't know if he would act on it, but I do believe he flirts with me.

If you think he is interested, then I need to stay far away, because I am interested too.

Should I be worried?

-He comments on my appearance
-Asks me about my life
-Mentions that he wishes he would have went to school so he wouldn't be stuck in this occupation forever
-We stand very closely sometimes, and sometimes he even touches me
-He is ALWAYS looking at me.

I don't know. It is just my intuition- I know that he likes working with me because he has told me that, but I do feel like maybe there is something more.

Should I be worried?

Answer 1

As a married man, I have been tempted to cross the path to the wrong side from time to time. So far, I have been able to resist the temptation.
Not all guys can resist the temptation. You should have an idea which way he is.
What I would caution also is remember you may end up being just a fling for this guy. The best you could hope for would be the girl that is on the side. This is further complicated being at work. Most personal relationships don't do well when mixed with the professional life.

Answer 2

Some people are just natural flirts and it means nothing. Then again, he may be feeling an attraction to you. He may or may not act upon it, but if he does it will be because he thinks he is getting signals from you to pursue it.

The bottom line is to go with your gut on this. You are feeling uncomfortable for a reason. Your intuition is telling you that this is not a good situation, whether he acts on it or not. And, you have to realize that when someone flirts with you it is a natural response to flirt back, whether you realize you are doing it or not...whether you mean to or not. You do NOT want to send this man the wrong signals.

You need to be polite, but you must keep the relationship strictly professional. The next time he tells you how much he enjoys working with you, say something like: "I appreciate the respect you show me as a coworker. I respect your work also." Then change the subject back to business and leave it at that. He'll get the hint.

Answer 3

Yes I would be worried. Put distance between the two of you. Limit your conversation to the work at hand. If he compliments your appearance, say "thanks" flatly and move on without embellishment. If he asks you about your life then say"I don't want to talk about it...Let's just get the work done" flatly and without embellishment.

My main concern is that his ethics system allows for cheating. If they do it with you, they will do it to you. People usually develop a pattern in life that they go by. I am sure you can name off people who are dating someone else before their relationship is over with the previous person. This is their pattern. For whatever reason, the rush and excitement of a new relationship is more exciting than staying with someone and changing with that person. So if you do decide to "go out" with this person, there will come a day that you meet the next "other woman" becuase you have lost that exciting edge..

Answer 4

If it walks, talks and quacks like a duck, then it probably is.

You two work closely in the same company, if you were both single, that kind of relationship would be tough enough to navigate, but the workplace fosters a false sense of familiarity between co workers. First off, he's married, if he's going to flirt with the intention of starting something with you, what kind of relationship do you really expect out of him?

Second, like I stated above, a workplace doesn't have all the day to day stressors in life, bill paying, house repairs, child rearing, who cooks dinner, all of the things that go into a real relationship, all you get is the work part of people, of course you can be nice, compassionate, mysteriously flirty and sexy, it's kind of like the internet, you can be whatever you want.

Be very worried, if he can do this to his wife, what do you think he will to do you?

Answer 5

Yes... you need to draw a line. This man has feelings for you and getting involved with a married man is a REALLY bad idea! You need to try to stay as far away from him as possible and if he tries anything let him know that you are not like that and that you respect marriage. Don't let yourself get into a position though where he can easily try. Just stay away and hopefully he will get the hint.

Answer 6

First of all if he's married that should put up red flags right away. You needn't mess around with someone who's married. Put yourself in the wife's shoes and think about the fact that you wouldn't want someone messing around with your husband. If it's him acting like that towards you then don't act on it there are so many single guys out there and I'm sure you can find one without having to get involved with a married man. Not to mention if he's like that with his wife what makes you think he wouldn't be like that with you?

Answer 7

First thing first, don't act on a married man EVER. He probably just likes your company nothing more. Likes working with you and you're the only one he can relate to I guess. Just keep the conversations to a minimal from now on. Don't go jumping to conclusions cos he has a whole family behind him and you wouldn't wanna be a bad person to break it up doo you?

Answer 8

Yes, it is possible that a married man would be interested in you. It is also possible that he would attempt to act on it (though I hope not). You shouldn't be worried because you have in no way lost your ability to say no or to convey it by whatever means necessary. You don't want a romantic relationship with a married man though, because when you land a cheater, that's what you have...a cheater.

Answer 9

Both men and women, single or married will sometimes act on their attraction to the opposite sex, and far more frequently than most people will ever believe.I would hazard a guess this attraction is mutual since you posted this question!

Answer 10

Don't worry so much about it and let nature take its course. My marriage has never been married since I have been having phone sex with a women from work. We have met and only able to be together once in a while but in-between we sure can still have fun together.